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Friday, November 22, 2024

A Cemetery by the City- Parshat Chayei Sara 2024 5785

 

 

Insights and Inspiration

from the

Holy Land

from

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

"Your friend in Karmiel"

November 22nd 2024 -Volume 14 Issue 4 21st of Cheshvan 5785

 

Parshat Chayei Sarah

 

The City by the Cemetery

 

A mother shouldn’t have to bury her child. It’s not natural. It’s not the way the world is meant to be. Children bury their parents, not the opposite. There is nothing more heart wrenching than a mother’s tears at her child’s funeral. A child whose life was taken too early, was cut short, whose parent’s had so much hope and aspiration for.

 

A Jewish mother’s aspiration for her child is not a goy’s. It’s the secret of why we are so successful. Why we have so many Noble prizes. Why we are the light of the world. Why no matter what happens or befalls us, we pick ourselves up and keep moving higher and higher. It’s our mother’s voice in our head. It’s the guilt, the confidence, the charge and the mandate that they have charged, raised and built us with. That they nursed us with. It’s the hopes and dreams of a better world that is placed on our shoulders to realize and bring forth that is in the milk that they fed us and the lullabies that they sung us to sleep with. It’s the Modeh Ani that they woke us up with each morning. There is nothing more painful and unnatural to have to bury that before it is realized.

 

This week’s parsha is Chayei Sarah. It is not the story of the life of Sarah, but rather of her death and burial. It is from that first Matriarch that every Jewish mother descends. The story of her death and burial, the first in the Torah, becomes the prototype for all funerals and burial customs. The grave where she is buried in Chevron of Me’arat Ha’Machpela where all our Patriarchs and Matriarchs are buried is registered under her name. They are all buried in “the cave where Sarah was buried”. She is the first “Jew” to die and thus it is her legacy, before anyone else that all her descendants have been charged to carry on.

 

For hundreds of years throughout our history, Jews came to her grave and prayed and took strength from her memory. Sadly there were also centuries when we were thrown out of our land and couldn’t come there. In the last 500 years or so there have been many communities who returned to Chevron with many great leaders, Rabbis, sages, scholars and Kabbalists as well as Chasidim and even the great Slobodka Yeshiva. That lasted however until the terrible pogrom of 1929. On that “Shabbat Ha’Shachor- the Black Sabbath of August 24th, a little over a week after Tisha B’Av the Arabs whom until that point many in Chevron considered their friends and neighbors and whose weddings they celebrated with and whose children even played together and who worked in the same hospitals and shopped in their stores, revealed their true Yishmaelite colors.

 

 At that time they weren’t being occupied. There were no check points. There was no State of Israel. There was just the children of Sarah living in her city; in her land together with the children of her maidservant Hagar whom she had given to Avraham as a wife.

 

 On that morning, at 6:30 in the morning as the Jews awoke and prepared to go to shul, the Arabs began their attack. Hundreds poured out of their houses and neighboring villages and descended on the homes and shuls of Chevron. With rocks, sticks, knives, swords and guns they pillaged the city. They raped, they burned, the killed children in front of their parents. They murdered massacred and terrorized, while the British sat by idly. By the end of the day 67 people were murdered in Chevron and 133 were killed all over the country, in Jerusalem, Tzfat, Yaffo and other Jewish settlements across the land. It was the worst tragedy to have hit the old Yishuv perhaps until today. Despite the fact that on October 7th there were more that were killed in even one Kibbutz and ten times as many that were killed, yet back then the entire Jewish population of Israel was less than 90,000. Proportionately to today’s population it would be as if 11,000 were killed on one day. Yet the terror, havoc and callousness of the world which stood by as this took place was even more painful and eye-opening. From that Shabbos, Jews were expelled from Chevron, separated from our Matriarch, longing for her motherly embrace in her cave.

 

In 1967 we returned to Chevron. Hashem miraculously returned us to the city of our Patriarchs and Matriarchs. In six days, we quadrupled the size of Israel. The Temple Mount was in our hands. Rachel’s tomb, The grave of Yosef in Shechem, the West Bank, the Mountains of Bashan in the Golan that Moshe had once conquered for us, the Sinai desert and the land of the Philistines where Yitzchak and Yishmael dwelled together and where Sarah was kidnapped in the house of Avimelech was finally returned to us. Gaza was ours. Yet sadly and tragically, then as now, Israel has a problem claiming the exclusivity of our inheritance that Sarah had urged Avraham to engrain in us. We didn’t see ourselves as rightful inheritors but rather as

“ger v’toshav anochi imachem- sojourners and settlers together with Yishmael’s descendants.

 

Those are the words that Avraham used when he first went to purchase that special cave, the first land we bought in Eretz Yisrael. Yet, whereas in Avraham’s case it was because we had not yet inherited the land and the time for the fulfillment of the promise of Hashem had not yet arrived. Today we had no such excuse.

 

Perhaps it was because 2000 years of exile, persecution and being absent so long from our mother’s words and promise that had caused us to forget our Divine promise. That made us give up hope and belief that indeed the time for us to declare and exert our property rights had arrived. That the miracles Hashem was preforming for us then was not merely to give us a “national homeland” and place of refuge after the horrors of the Holocaust, but rather was the start of the long promised and awaited for ingathering of exiles. One in which we were meant to finally claim what was rightfully ours and in the process uplift Yishmael in the only way he can be uplifted; by subjugating the child of the maid-servant, that pereh adam, to the nation of Hashem and the inheritors of their father Avraham. To teach them to follow in his ways by accepting our role just as Yishmael himself did at the funeral of Avraham in this week’s parsha. Where Rashi tells us Yishmael himself becomes a tzadik gamur  and ultimately is described by the Torah as his death being an “expiration”, a term that is only utilized for the entirely righteous.

 

Yet Sarah, had a descendant that did have that faith. Sarah Nachshon and her husband Baruch, who was renowned artist and were Chabad Chasidim, returned to Chevron in 1968 with three other families. The Government did not allow them to live in Chevron proper at the time, yet due to the pressure that they levied upon them, they allowed them to develop a new community of Kiryat Arba adjacent to it. The first three and half years they lived on the army base until their first homes were ready. Yet upon moving into their home, much to their great joy, they were blessed with a child after 10 years, just as their ancestors Avraham and Sarah were. Sarah felt very strongly that as this was the first new child to born in Chevron his bris would take place in the cave of his great-great grandmother Sarah Immeinu. Avraham and Sarah deserve to join in this celebratory return of their children.

 

The army and the government concerned with upsetting Yishmael, and our peaceful cousins in Chevron was not keen on the idea. They prohibited it. No religious services that could be viewed as Jews trying to re-occupy our ancestral city would be tolerated. Yet, as Sarah told them, that would be very important information had she been asking permission to preform the Bris there. Yet, fortunately that was not what she was doing or felt any need to do. Her son was born in Chevron and he would have his bris there. Let the chips fall where they may. And thus Avraham Yedidya Nachshon entered into the covenant of his zaydie Avraham Avinu, whose name he carried, despite the Israeli army and government’s attempt to stop them.

 

The joy and hope however was short lived. A half a year later Sarah woke up one morning to find her young Avraham lifeless in his crib. He had returned his neshoma to Hashem. Sudden Infant Death Syndrome is until today an unexplainable medical phenomena that can only be described as a misas neshika, where one’s soul being kissed from them by Hashem as they fall asleep with their pure infant soul not being returned to them in the morning. It was the death of Avraham and Sarah and Moshe and Aharon and all of our great and most righteous. The death that is the highest and most peaceful of levels. It’s what they all longed for and davened to have and it was how Avraham Yedidya Nachshon returned his soul and joined them in heaven.

 

Yet for Sarah Nachshon, whose husband Baruch wasn’t even home that morning and was unreachable in that pre-cell phone era, that wasn’t going to be the end of her son’s story. Avraham Yedidya was born in Chevron, He was circumcised and given his name there. It was the only place he lived his short life, and he would be buried there in the ancient Chevron Jewish cemetery, next to all of the great individuals throughout the last centuries buried there as well. The great-grandfather of the Chida and great Kabbalist of the 17th century the Chesed L’Avraham, The Sdei Chemed, the Reishis Chochma and Meleches Shlomo and the granddaughter of the Baal Ha’Tanya and daughter of the “Mittler Rebbe” Menucha Rochel Slonim are all there in the cemetery. They are right near the ancient traditional biblical gravesites of Ruth, Yishai, father of Dovid Ha’Melech who ruled here and as well next to the first judge of Israel after the land was conquered and the death of Yehoshua; Otniel Ben Kenaz.

 

For 50 years, since 1929, Jews had been forbidden from going to the visit the graves of the great people there. Perhaps the government wanted to prevent the outrage that would certainly have followed, had the nation known about the desecration of those graves, as well as those of the martyrs of the 29’ massacre that had been buried there at the hands of Yishmael who had been given free reign to do what they wanted as we turned a blind eye. Yet that would end with the burial of Avraham Yedidya. Sarah was determined that her son would be returned and gathered into the resting place of our forefathers.

 

Having already experienced the first failure to prevent this woman, the army was more than prepared that next morning when word got out. Tens of soldiers and roadblocks were placed on the hill down from Kiryat Arba to Chevron. The procession was stopped by armed soldiers and representatives from the Yitzchak Rabin’s Ministry of Defense that ordered them to return and bury Avraham in Kiryat Arba. For hours they stood there arguing, demanding, moving up the ranks of bureaucracy. It was reminiscent of the funeral of Yaakov Avinu, when millions from Egypt and around the world came to bury him and they were as well stopped at the cave from entering. Yet this time it was not our red-headed Uncle Esau and his 400 armed men that were stopping us from entering. It was our own soldiers. It was the children of Yaakov that still hadn’t understood or read the contract that stated that this land was ours. The contract that in Yaakov’s time we sent Naftali running back to retrieve, yet over 2000 years of Exile in the land of Esau seems to have been misplaced from our memory.

 

It all came to an end when Sara while talking to one of the soldiers was told that the reason why they were being so obstinate was because there was a very likely possibility that the city of Chevron would be handed over to Yishmael in any future “peace agreements”. It was those words that sent thousands of years of DeJa’Vu through the Divine spirit into her heart. She remembered when Avraham Avinu purchased this land. She recalled how he as well had erroneously wanted Yishmael to inherit it. She recalled the “deals” that he had cut with Avimelech and the Philistines in Gaza that had delayed our return for hundreds of years in which we were enslaved in Egypt and that took us thousands of years until we finally returned to rectify. Perhaps she saw into the future at what would be the end of this miraculous return if we continued on this path of self-destruction and not realizing our job and what happens when we don’t claim our rightful homeland and place in the world. Perhaps she even saw October 7th.

 

Without hesitation Sara walked to the back of the hearse and took the lifeless body of her son in her arms and proceeded to walk past the shocked soldiers who melted away before her. Hundreds followed Sara as she arrived at that ancient burial site and dug his small grave and placed him in the earth that he had been born from. As Sarah got up to eulogize her son, tears rolled down every face as she made this declaration to Hashem.

 

“Three thousand five hundred years ago, Ha’Kadosh Baruch Hu, you had a son named Avraham he married Sarah and they came here to the city of Chevron and were blessed with a child. Yet, you told Avraham to take that special miraculous child and bring him up to you as a sacrifice. Yet when you saw the faithfulness of your son and his willingness to give everything to You, You spared that child. You returned him to his father. Yet, Sarah, his mother never got to hug him and kiss him and tell him that she loved him again. She died that Rosh Hashana morning. Her husband Avraham returned her to Chevron and bought a grave for her and buried her here. This is where she rests.”

 

“3500 years later, her children once again have returned to Chevron. My name is Sarah and You as well blessed me with a son, Avraham. Yet him You took as a sacrifice. He was not spared by You. I, his mother Sarah have now come back here to bury her Avraham. He should be the last sacrifice that you take from our people, from their descendants…”

 

“Our sages tell us a story of a young child that was being carried on the shoulders of his father on a long journey to the big city. After many days of wandering the son asked his father when they will arrive already. It’s hot. The journey is difficult. It’s painful. It’s so long… When will we finally be there? The father turned to his child and told his son, that when you see a large cemetery you will know that you have arrived at the city and that it is just up ahead. For in Jewish law a cemetery is always on the outskirts of the city. With this cemetery and with the return of Avraham Yedidya”, Sarah concluded, “the cemetery of Chevron has been reestablished once again. May it be the will of Hashem that very soon the city of Chevron will as well come in sight.”

 

It took them 2 years until we returned to Chevron. It wasn’t until Menachem Begin was Prime Minister that the people in Kiryat Arba felt ready to make the next move. After Pesach in April of 1979, 15 women and 35 children moved in the middle of the night moved into the abandoned Jewish Beit Hadassa hospital and barricaded themselves there until the government would allow them to return to city of Chevron. Begin, on the on the one hand didn’t feel that he could oppose the Supreme Court that prohibited Jewish settlement in Chevron. Yet at the same time refused to be the PM that would forcibly remove Jewish women and children from our Jewish ancestral city. So Solomonically he gave orders that as long as they stayed there they would not be forcibly removed. No men however would be allowed in and no one that left could return. And thus Sara and her friends dug in for the long haul.

 

One month, two months, three months, through the winter, through the following year, the women and children didn’t leave. Each Shabbos the men would come down and sing Shalom Aleichem. They would sing the song of Eishet Chayil, that our sages fascinatingly tell us is written and recited by Avraham as his eulogy on Sarah here in Chevron. They would make Kiddush and dance Lecha Dodi for their beloved heroic women and children who watched from the window awaiting as they welcomed the Shabbos Bride and davened for the redemption and for Jerusalem. For the shame of our nation to finally be erased.

 

On Friday night of May 2nd though that day finally came, but once again at the price of spilled Jewish blood, as an Arab sniper opened up fire and murdered six of the men in the midst of that holy dance. It was after that when Begin finally gave the order for the Jews to return to Chevron. The cemetery outside the city was getting fuller. It was time for the city to be built.

 

This Shabbos is Shabbat Chevron. Tens of thousands of Sarah’s children will return this Shabbos to the city and sing and dance and pray for our return. For the great Shabbos to finally arrive. This past year our battle with Yishmael it has been more about our own inner struggle and acceptance of the only way that Hashem through the prophecy of Sarah told us that we are meant to return. That we should come back as inheritors. That we understand that the entire land is ours. That Chevron is. That Gaza is. The Golan. Beirut. Jordan. Damascus, until the river of Egypt and Sinai. Those are the borders that Hashem told Avraham are ours. That we have inherited. That He never wanted us to sacrifice our children for that goal. He just wanted us to understand that we have to be able and willing claim. That we need to realize that if we don’t express our claim, Yishmael will.

 

The cemetery is already full. It gets fuller and fuller each day. Mothers shouldn’t have to bury their children. It’s not natural. But neither is being and acting as if we are strangers in our own home. If we don’t feel and appreciate that we are children of Sara and Avraham and this is our home, our kitchen, our living room, our Temple Mount, our Negev, our Golan and our West Bank. If we don’t act like children and stop behaving like apologetic strangers, colonists and conquers, then unnatural sacrifice are demanded from us until we get it. Mothers bury their children and Yishmael will throw us out of our homes and we will live in hotels like guests without residency. Like tourists rather than citizens. It’s not Hashem that has taken those sacrifices. It’s we who haven’t yet gotten what He wants from us. It’s the legacy, life and message of Sarah that we have forgotten. That we haven’t realized.

 

While Sarah and her friends were in Beit Hadassa they sent a message to the Lubavitcher Rebbe asking him how long must they remain there. It’s been a year. There are soldiers outside that don’t let anyone come in. When will this end? The Rebbe in a tearful recorded message told them that their conversation recalled him of the brave message of the daughters of Tzlafchad that turned and asked Moshe Rabbeinu as well why they were not granted a portion in the land of Israel. Why should they be left out? Why should the sins of their fathers be on their head? When can they return to their land? Moshe told them their question was too difficult. He turned it to Hashem. And Hashem told Moshe

 

“Ken Bnot Tzlafchad Dovrot- the daughters of Tzlafchad speak truth”

 

The daughters of Tzlafchad are correct. The time has come. The legacy of Sarah is being fulfilled. It’s time for the unnatural to finally be over. For the city by the cemetery to finally be built.

 

Have a passionate restful Shabbos,

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz 

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YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

 

“Der emess kumt arois azoi vi boimel oif der vasser.”.- The truth comes out like oil on water.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK

answer below at end of Email

 

29.The building of the Bezalel Academy of Arts and Design in Jerusalem was

recently moved to the area of _______.

 

Which of the following figures contributed greatly to the foundation and building

of the city of Tel Aviv?

A. Hayim Nahman Bialik

B. Aharon Chelouche

C. Laurence Oliphant

D. Yehoshua Hankin

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S COOL VIDEO OF THE WEEK

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=irt1ffsI_eU    – Sarah Nachshon tells story of her son…Amazing…

 

https://soundcloud.com/ephraim-schwartz/rivkah – One of my most beautiful song compositions in honor of my sister Rivky’s wedding five years ago… From this weeks parsha Achoseinu! Yitz Berry knocked this one out of the park…

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=vtvR_pqSBR4    – Eitan Katz Naftali Kempeh what a great shidduch in this beautiful new release Shema Beni

 

https://soundcloud.com/ephraim-schwartz/eishet-chayil – My gorgeous Eishet Chayil in honor of Sarah Immeinu…It’s been a long time since I’ve shared with this with you… sing it this Shabbos and make me happy!

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hmeJ_mDpJ4U&t=230s  -  OU Mearat Ha’Machpela what’s really underneath…

 

 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

 

Chulda Haneivia- 639 BC – Moving on to prophets in the time of Yoshiyahu we arrive at Chulda Ha’Neviah, one of seven important prophetesses in Tanach. The first of course is Sarah Immeinu and the Matriarchs. Isn’t it cool how this column works Divinely with the weekly Torah portion! The other prophetesses, by they way can you guess? I’ll tell you at the end. I’ll give you a clue none of the other matriarchs are not included. Think about it.

 

So Chulda is really only mentioned twice in Tanach, both in her relationship with King Yoshiyahu and his teshuva movement that starts with her encouragement and prophecy. It’s fascinating that she even plays a role being that the great Yirmiyahu as well is living at this period and is the major prophet whom we will get to. The Talmud tells us that perhaps this was because Yirmiyahu went on a journey during this period to gather in the ten lost tribes amazingly enough. We are on the cusp of the destruction of the Temple and yet at the same time with the light of Yoshiyahu it seems it could have even had the potential for Mashiach and the ingathering of exiles.

 

Interestingly enough our sages tell us that the reason she merited prophecy was because of her husband Meshulam who was called the Gadol Ha’Dor- the great man of his generation. What made him so great? One would think it’s his Torah learning or his leadership skills, but the Midrash tells us it was that he would go every day with flasks of water and sit outside the gates of Yerushalayim and hand out water bottles to all who came to the Temple. Think about that next time you see those guys doing that chesed wherever you go… Gadol Hador!

 

Outside of the Southern Wall of the old city of Jerusalem in an area that we call the Ophel stands the Chulda Gates, Rashi in Melachim tells us that it was named after her as she would sit there and teach the elders Torah She’Baal Peh! That’s like Mishna and Talmud level. And it was being taught by a woman. How’s dem apples? Her husband handed out water bottles and she gave shiurim. Now obviously this was done in a very tznius way as our sages praise and find hints to her modesty and even count here as one of the 22 righteous woman mentioned in Tanach. On the other hand Chazal tell us that she was given a lousy name- as Chulda is a rat or weasel, because she referred to the King Yoshiyah as an “Ish” a guy rather than respectfully as a king.

 

Her burial place is a bit controversial, although all agree that she is buried in Jerusalem, some place her on the top of Har Hazeitim, while the Tosefta seems to say that she was in the city of Jerusalem itself within the walls. The Maharit tries to explain that in the 2nd Temple the walls of Jerusalem incorporated Mt. Of Olives but I don’t believe I’ve ever seen evidence of that. Today there is by the Mount of Olives a Church or Temple of Ascension where silly x-tians believe Yoshka went up to heaven and Muslims as well view it as a holy place and it is accepted as truly being Chulda’s grave. Certainly Har Ha’Zeitim is where we have a tradition the resurrection of the Dead will begin from so hopefully we will get the answer soon. She will rise together with the other 6 prophetesses….

Sarah, Miriam, Devora, Chana, Avigayil and of course Queen Esther…

 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S FUNNY GRAVESTONE JOKES OF THE WEEK

 I saw a gravestone that said ‘Here lies a math teacher. He finally found peace in being a sum of all parts.'”

 

 My friend’s gravestone says ‘Beloved coffee lover. He couldn’t espresso how much he meant to us.'”

 

On another gravestone, it reads ‘An avid baker. Life really kneaded him, but he always rose to the occasion.'”

 

A musician’s gravestone reflects ‘He was always in treble, but found harmony in the end.'”

 

A chef’s gravestone bears the words ‘He spiced up our lives and left us with seasoned memories.'”

 

A skydiver’s gravestone bears the words ‘He soared through life and embraced the fall. In the end, he took a leap of faith.'”

 

On a magician’s gravestone, it says ‘He pulled off disappearing acts with such poise. Now he has vanished into eternity.'”

 

 A carpenter’s gravestone reads ‘He crafted a life full of love and sawdust. Now he’s nailed the final masterpiece.'”

 

 In memory of a librarian, the gravestone declares ‘She was always bound to books. Now she rests between the pages of history.'”

 

 A comedian’s gravestone states ‘His jokes will forever echo in our hearts. Laughter was his final punchline.'”

 

A lawyer’s wife died. At her grave, everyone was appalled. The tombstone read, “HERE LIES PHYLLIS, WIFE OF ATTORNEY MURRAY WILLIAMS; SPECIALIZES IN DIVORCE AND MALPRACTICE”.

Murray burst into tears. His brother said, “You SHOULD cry, pulling a cheap publicity stunt like this. Murray said, “You don’t understand. I gave them my business card”

His brother apologized.. But then he continued “…and they didn’t include the phone number!”

 

 Two men walking in a cemetery find a recent gravestone , so they read it:

"Here lies an honest man and a competent lawyer"

So one of the guys turn to the other:

"When did they start burying two people together?"

 

What is written on a very successful hacker’s tombstone? “R” His IP is well hidden.

 

Why would I want to buy a tombstone? It's the last thing I need.

 

Yankel was blessed with 12 children yet that was turning out to be a problem for him when he was trying to rent a house.  No landowner would allow him to rent their house due to the number of children he had. Frustrated, Yankel told his wife to visit her father's tombstone and bring all but their youngest child with her.

He then visited a property and told the landowner that he would like to rent the place.

"Is this your only child?" asked the landowner.

"No, I have 12 children" replied the man.

"Then where are the other 11 kids?"

"In the cemetery with my wife," he truthfully replied.

 

Late one night, Jack takes a shortcut through a cemetery. Hearing a tapping sound he becomes scared and quickens his pace. The tapping gets louder and Jack is now scared out of his wits. Then he notices a man chiseling a tombstone.

"Thank goodness!" Jack says to the man. "You gave me a fright of my life. Why are you working so

late?"

"They spelled my name wrong."

 

There was once a man named Odd. He was very embarrassed by his name and didn't want anyone to know about it. When he died he had no name written on his gravestone. One day a bunch of tourists came to his town and visited the graveyard where they came across a gravestone with no name on it.

"That's Odd!" He said.

 

This morning as I was walking through I saw someone crouching behind a gravestone. I said, 'Morning.

' He said, 'No I'm just lost my keys.'

 After my friend died from an allergic reaction to peanuts, I went to his funeral. Everyone got upset when I put an Epipen on his tombstone.

So I explained: "It's what he would have wanted"

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The answer to this week”s question is B – Oh well…back to a 50/50 score… I got the second part right. It was an educated guest,but I knew the Shalosh family was involved with building and settling the land and I got this this right. The first part though I have no clue and don’t really care too much about as the Betzalel school really doesn’t interest me or any of my tourists. I guessed Tel Aviv because I knew that there was a school there and figured it had to do with the first part of the question. The correct answer though was by the Iriya and Russian Compound across from Mamilla in Jerusalem. So the  new score at Rabbi Schwartz having 18.5 points and the MOT having 10.5 points on this latest Ministry of Tourism exam. to them...

Friday, July 30, 2021

The Walking and Dancing Dead- Parshat Eikev 5781 2021

 

Insights and Inspiration

                                                                       from the

Holy Land

from

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

 "Your friend in Karmiel"

July 30th 2021 -Volume 11 Issue 42 21st Av

Parshat Eikev

The Walking and Dancing Dead

Har Hamenuchos is a mess. We've been driving around for about a half hour here in Israel's largest cemetery and there is no system whatsoever. We're looking for Gush 11 Chelka 5. That's supposed to be like an address for deceased. One would think Gush 11 would be between 10 and 12 and within that portion 5 would be between 4 and 6. Not even close, we are learning because right after Gush 8 is 14 then 7 then 3 and 9. We finally did find Gush 11 between 6and 12 but that was only chelka 1 and 2. How do the dead people resting here find themselves around the neighborhood. In the we finally arrived at my wife's grandparents grave. It wasn't even marked with any Gush or Chelka, It was actually in Gush 3 and Chelka 3 on an unmarked flight down. We got there because I remembered there was some Breslav graffiti nearby as it was near the Grave of Reb Yisrael Odesser, the tzadik who revealed the whole Na Na Nachman letter thing. Mission accomplished we have arrived. Finding it as like a Harry Potter 9 and 3/4 platform in the train station and perhaps rightfully so. For it was time now for me to feel I was entering the mystical world.

 We were here at the cemetery because it is the day of my son Yonah's wedding. There is a custom that many have to come to the cemetery and invite the departed relatives to the chasuna. Our tradition tells us that when one gets married all of the family members and generations of the bride and groom come to share in the simcha. Now I know some of mine and my wife's relatives and they're the type that if they don't get a personal invitation would either not come or get all insulted and I would hear about it for the rest of my life. It doesn't make a difference if they are alive or not. Or they don't have a real address. I need to go on over and invite them. So there we were a few hours before Yonah and Batya's wedding driving in circles around Har HaMenuchos trying to find the kevarim. Baruch Hashem we hit them all and even a few great Rabbis along the way for good measure, in case they were bored up there and wanted to come as well.

 

There's something special about davening by relatives kevarim for me. It's very different than praying by the graves of tzadikim. By the great Rabbis who's tombs I visit with tourists all the time- or at least used to- one feels the inspiration of the Rabbi and their lives as an extra channel to Hashem. A little extra turbo on our prayers. With my grandparents, my uncle, y great grandfather whom I'm named after though it's something else. I'm commiserating with them. I feel their presence looking down upon me. I feel as if I'm standing alongside them before Hashem's throne and we are connected in a very deep intimate way. It's powerful and overwhelming. It's holy.

 

As I talked to Hashem through them, I told Him about my son, about his bride, about my family and children. I shared my hopes, my dreams, my prayers for them. It wasn't davening. It was talking to the ones that care about me the most. The ones sitting up in heaven who's legacy I and my children are here to realize. In many ways we make them proud. In many ways we know that we have disappointed them because they want the world for us and we haven't achieved it yet. We're one. We're eternal. We are part of a great destiny. And we have One Father above who cares the most that we finally make it to the end zone.

 

This week's parsha begins with the word that our sages teach us denotes joy.

 

V'Haya Eikev Tishma'un- And it will be, because you will heed these ordinances and keep them and perform, that the Hashem, your God, will keep for you the covenant and the kindness that He swore to your forefathers.

 

We are told that the word "V'ahaya" always is a word of joy. There is a specific joy when we follow the commandments that are discussed here before Hashem. What are those mitzvos? Rashi tells us are the minor mitzvos that are generally trampled with one's feet. The word eikev, the name of the parsha, has a double meaning. It can be translated as the heel and it also means as a result of something. As well the period before Mashiach is known as the ikvisa di'mishicha- the final days before coming of Mashiach. In English we find that same dual meaning when we say that something comes "on the heels" of something else.

 

The Ohev Yisrael of Apt though sees something even deeper in the choice of the word Eikev, and the "heel mitzvos" that the verse is referring to. He writes rather mystically that when Adam Harishon sinned back in the Garden of Eden that sin permeated his soul and the job of all mankind who are all descendants of his and possess those flawed souls is to rectify that sin. Mankind's job is to bring return to the great heights that Adam was at before his sin. To be that bridge that goes all the way up from earth to heaven for which the Shechina can descend. That's what we are here for. That's what life is all about.

 

In previous generations the great Rabbis and leaders from our Patriarchs and Matriarchs down with their great devotion, faith and service to Hashem have rectified most of that body of Adam already. The head is the place of seeing and recognizing Hashem and transmitting and speaking his Torah and studying it. The body is the heart the love and connection they had. The hands and legs are the incredible mitzvos they sanctified Hashem with. That's all been covered already. It's been repaired.

 

The generation before Mashiach though is the bottom and final rung of that ladder. It is the heel; the eikev. We are those heels. In many ways we are nowhere near the high level of spiritual connection that our ancestors were. On the other hand- or foot- I should say they are all resting upon us. We are the ones walking for them. The heel doesn't see. It doesn't really even have feeling or emotion. In fact it's pretty hard and deadish skin. It's barefoot and as close to the earth as possible. But the truth is it doesn't need to be much more than that. The heel needs one thing. It needs to just be connected to the rest of the body. It needs to be willing to hold it all up. Its job is really one of emuna- holding the faith. Even if it doesn't see, smell, taste or even hear it. It just has to know that it's important and that everything above is counting on it.

It is those heel mitzvas that we do that the parsha tells us that Hashem will remember the covenant of our ancestors with. It's because we are their base. We have pushed them all up and completed the ladder. It's why as well they come to every chasuna. Because this young couple is another step that raises them higher and higher as we come closer and closer to the final redemption.

 

As I stood under the Chuppa last night I felt them all there. My Saba and my Savta, my Babbi and Zaidy, my wife's grandparents, my Uncle Mendy who I told to bring my father Ob"m along from Washington cemetery in New Jersey because I couldn't personally invite him. I figured he would come anyways and wasn't schlepping back to America to invite him personally. Who knows if they would let me back in this crazy country these days… It was such a special feeling because I knew that they each had brought their parents and grandparents. Who as well probably brought theirs. Who knows how many generations were with us as my son said the Harei at ikudeshet to his beloved. Who knows how many responded Amen to the blessing of Tisamaychacha Yetzircha k'gan Eden mi'kedem- that our Creator should make them rejoice as He once was in the garden of Eden. Maybe Adam HaRishon himself was there and he knew that his tikkun is almost complete with this latest marriage. This newest house in Israel.

 

We clapped and we danced all night long. We danced with our heels and we jumped to the heavens. We concluded the evening with l'shana ha'ba b'yerushalyim ha'benuya. That next year we may all be together in yerushalyim rebuilt. Each new marriage and home in Jerusalem is another brick in that great palace Hashem is waiting for. May the sound of the bride and groom singing- in Jerusalem once again bring the rest of the fulfilment of that prophecy to it glorious conclusion.

 

Have a spectacular simcha and mazeldike Shabbos

 

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

 

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SHABBOS PARSHAT EIKEV

CANDLELIGHTING- 7:12 PM 

MINCHA & KABBALAT SHABBAT- 7:25 PM                                                 

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RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

" Men zol zikh kenen oyskoyfn fun toyt, voltn di oremelayt sheyn parnose gehat." - If people could hire others to die for them, the poor could make a nice living

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK

39) The term “lent” in Christianity is related to the:

A) Three special days before Christmas

B) Ascension of Jesus Yoshka into heaven

C) Fast before Easter

D) Death of the first martyr

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S COOL VIDEO  OF THE WEEK

 

https://soundcloud.com/ephraim-schwartz/choson-choson  – My latest song in honor of my Son Yonah's wedding this coming week- getting on your dancing shoes for "Choson Choson" . The words come from the Rambam in the laws of marriage. The singer and arranger? The great Ari Goldwag!

https://soundcloud.com/ephraim-schwartz/pihah-pascha   – And my second latest song composed for the Chasuna this week in honor of my lovely future daughter-in-law Batya for her chuppa. Piha Pascha sung and arranged by my dear friend Yitz Berry

 

https://soundcloud.com/ephraim-schwartz/mi-adir    - My Son Yonah's compostion for his Chuppa…beautiful Mi Adir aung and arranged by Dovid Lowy!

 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S PARSHA/ ERETZ YISRAEL CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

 

Do I need to say More? – Parshat Eikev- I call it the tour guide Aliya, although I rarely get it. It's the first Aliyah of this week's parsha where Hashem gives his tour guide brochure of all of Israel. Being the first Aliya it usually goes to the Kohein which I'm not. This week though I got it three times. Because we read the Torah by Mincha on Shabbos of the coming week and Monday and Thursday and we only read the first Aliya, so this becomes the third Aliyah on those days. I got them all three times. Is that a sign from Hashem or what?

 

Well it's late. It's Erev Shabbos. I'm tired and happy I even got this E-Mail. So I'll just give you Hashem's sales pitch. You really shouldn't need much more than that to be inspired. So This week Hashem is your tour guide Eretz Yisrael Dvar Torah of the week…

 

For the Hashem your God is bringing you to a good land, a land with brooks of water, fountains and depths, that emerge in valleys and mountains; a land of wheat and barley, vines and figs and pomegranates, a land of oil producing olives and honey; a land in which you will eat bread without scarcity, you will lack nothing in it, a land whose stones are iron, and out of whose mountains you will hew copper. And you will eat and be sated, and you shall bless the Lord, your God, for the good land He has given you.

 

C'mon… isn't all you really need to hear…

 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

 

Dovid Mourns- 840 BC – With the death of Avshalom and the vanquishing of his army, it was now time to break the news to Dovid. Achimatz, the son of Tzadok the Kohen, wanted to be the one to bring the news to Dovid, feeling that Dovid would be pleased with the victory. Yoav on the other hand knew that the knowledge of Avshalom's death- or murder by Yoav to be more accurate- would be upsetting, to say the least, to Dovid. Instead Yoav, sent the Kushite that had first spotted Avshalom hanging from the tree by his hair. Achimatz however as well insisted on telling Dovid.

 

Dovid meanwhile was sitting by the walls of the city of Machanayim on the other side of the Yarden awaiting word. When he saw Achimatz coming he figured it must be good news. Achimatz told him of the incredible victory. But when Dovid immediately asked him about the welfare of his son Avshalom, Achimatz realized this wasn't such a good idea. He stammered and said he really didn't know. The battle was heated; he couldn't really see it. The Kushi was next to come however and when Dovid asked him he told Dovid that all of his enemies should have the same fate as Avshalom. It was a politically correct of telling Dovid that Avshalom had died.

 

Dovid did not take the news well. It was not proper to cry and mourn in front of the people. So he went up to the roof and cried;

 

"Beni-my son Avshalom Beni Beni Avshalom- would that I have died instead of you Avshalom beni, beni-my son my son…"

 

8 times he cried Avshalom's name as he continued his heartfelt lament. Chazal tell us that with each of his cries he raised Avshalom up another level from Gehenam and into Gan Eden. We generally have a rule that children can elevate their parent's soul after death by reciting Kaddish and preforming mitzvos and learning Torah for their souls. Generally, parents can't do the same for their children. Dovid though was different. In some ways he was culpable for Avshlaom's death for it was a punishment for Dovid for his sin with Batsheva. Upon reading the text in the Navi, the reader can feel the pain of Dovid through the pages. His pain was immense and all of his men and soldiers could feel it. They returned from battle quietly in mourning despite their victory. The joyous victory was spoiled.

 

Yoav sensing what was happening approached Dovid and demanded that he stop mourning. The people just won. They fought hard. They needed their commander in chief to recognize this and put aside his own personal loss. This is even harder for Dovid, but yet he pulls through. Of all of Dovid's tragedies this one feels like it’s the greatest. But it is these tragedies and real emotions that pour out to all of us in the book of tehillim he left us. It is our eternal consolation.

 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S TERRIBLE CEMETERY JOKE OF THE WEEK

 

One year, Yankel didn't know what to buy his mother-in-law for her birthday, so he bought her a large plot in the cemetery. 

The following year, Yankel bought her nothing for her birthday and his wife was quick to comment loud and long on his thoughtlessness to her mother. 

"So, why didn't you buy her something?" she snapped at him. 

"Well, she hasn't used the gift I gave her last year," he replied.  

 

Isaac was a very successful marketing director. Sadly, his wife Rifka dies. At the cemetery, Isaac's friends and family are appalled to see that the headstone reads: - 
"Here lies Rifka, wife of Isaac Levy, MCIM, Post Graduate Diploma in Marketing and Marketing Director of Quality Marketing Services Ltd." 
Isaac was standing in front of Rifka's grave reading the headstone when he suddenly burst into tears. 
His brother says to him, "I'm not at all surprised that you find this distasteful. It's right that you should cry, pulling a cheap stunt like this on our Rifka's headstone." 
Through his tears, Isaac sobs, "You don't understand. They left out the phone number." 

 

Friends and family were at Finchley cemetery for Moshe’s funeral. Just before the funeral service commenced, Rabbi Zeller goes over to Ruth, a very elderly widow, and asks, "So how old was Moshe?" 
"He was 101, kin-a-hora," replies Ruth, "two years older than me." 
"So you must be 99?" says Rabbi Zeller. 
Ruth replies, "Yes, hardly worth going back home is it?"

 

When Beethoven passed away, he was buried in a churchyard. A couple days later, the town drunk was walking through the cemetery and heard some strange noise coming from the area where Beethoven was buried. Terrified, the drunk ran and got the priest to come and listen to it. The priest bent close to the grave and heard some faint, unrecognizable music coming from the grave. Frightened, the priest ran and got the town magistrate.

When the magistrate arrived, he bent his ear to the grave, listened for a moment, and said, "Ah, yes, that's Beethoven's Ninth Symphony, being played backwards."

He listened a while longer, and said, "There's the Eighth Symphony, and it's backwards, too. Most puzzling." So the magistrate kept listening; "There's the Seventh... the Sixth... the Fifth..."

Suddenly the realization of what was happening dawned on the magistrate; he stood up and announced to the crowd that had gathered in the cemetery, "My fellow citizens, there's nothing to worry about. It's just Beethoven decomposing."

 

An old Jewish woman, on her 80th birthday, decides to prepare her last will and testament. She goes to the rabbi to show it to him and to ask him for advice on a few points, chief amongst them is her request that she not be buried in a Jewish cemetery.

"But why Mrs. Epstein?" the rabbi asks. "You don't want to be buried with the rest of our people?"

"No," Mrs. Epstein said resolutely. "I want to be buried at Bloomingdales."

"Bloomingdales?!" the rabbi said in disbelief.

"Yes. Then I'll be sure that my daughters will visit me at least twice a week!"


One day a fundraiser for a Jewish institution came to the home of John McLaughlin.

"We have you down for a $500 pledge," said the fundraiser.

"But that's impossible," said McLaughlin. "I didn't make a pledge. And besides, I'm not even Jewish!"

"I'm sorry," said the fundraiser, "but our institution never makes mistakes. Are you sure you aren't Jewish?" "How can I prove it to you?" said McLaughlin. "I go to church every Sunday, my mother used to direct the Christmas play at school every year, and my father, alav hashalom, is buried in a Catholic cemetery."

 

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Answer is C- I don't know this from my tour guiding course. I zoned out for most of the Christianity meshigas part of our course. But I did know the answer from living in a goyishe country for 40 years or so. Easter which is Pesach time is preceded by "Ash Wednesday" and Lent which is Christians fasting and doing penance before the easter holiday when they believe he "rose up" again. Hallelukah! It's the "teshuva" before the "redemption". Shkoyach. Anyways I got this right, that's what counts. So the score is 31 for Rabbi Schwartz and 8 for the Ministry of Tourism on this exam.

 

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