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Friday, June 24, 2022

Azza Audacity- Parshat Korach 2022 5782

 

 

Insights and Inspiration

from the

Holy Land

from

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

"Your friend in Karmiel"

June 24th 2022 -Volume 11 Issue 37 25th Sivan 5782

 

Parshat Korach

 

Azza Audacity

 

It was in my opinion it was the blackest day of the history of the State of Israel. It was August 15th 2005. But perhaps the more significant date was that it was the 10th of Av; the day that we are told when the real destruction of our Temples burnt to the ground after its fires were started on Tish B’Av. I was sitting with my tourists in the Gush Katif Museum located in the Golan Heights where 20 families had moved to after being thrown out of their homes by the Israeli government on that day. Yossi was there and was sharing with us his story- but again, a more accurate word would probably be the nightmare- that he and his family along with the other 8600 residents of the 17 settlements that had dedicated their best years building, that had put suffered so many tragedies and overcame so many challenges developing. On that one day that all came crashing down. The government that had sent them there, that had encouraged them to settle the land of our ancestors and that had repeatedly told them of the strategic significance of their lives there betrayed them.

 

Yossi, recalled that day for us. They had naively believed that it would never happen. There was so much support from communities around Israel. In his house on that day there were 40 youths, friends of his children and friends of those friends. He hadn’t packed a thing in his house. Everything was the way that it always was. Their clothing in their drawers, their silverware in their cupboards, their bookshelves full of all their holy books. It wasn’t that he was fooling himself or living in denial. By that day when thousands of soldiers marched in the gates of their settlement of Kfar Darom, named after the city of the Mishnaic sage Rabbi Eliezer Ben Yitzchak who lived in the ancient city of that same name nearby, to remove them, they knew that their worst fears were about to be realized.

 

Yet, in Yossi’s word, he believed that if the soldiers came into their house and they saw a Jewish home with all of it’s holy books on the shelves, with it’s mezuza proudly on the door and with its Shabbos table candelabra and Kiddush cup all set, that somehow they would realize the travesty of what they were about to do. That the army of Israel and they themselves as soldiers of that army who had dedicated their lives to ideologically and spiritually to build and defend the State and its citizens was not there to throw Jewish families as our enemies had done to us throughout our 2000-year-old exile in every other country, from our houses, our homes and our communities.

 

But he was wrong. The soldiers that were selected for this horrible task were brainwashed. They selected soldiers from elite units that had too much to lose to disobey orders. It was like talking to robots. They were given a few hours to pack up their things and then they would have to leave or suffer being forcibly removed by the very army that Yossi was decorated and had received heroic medals serving in. And so tearfully they packed up their stuff.

 

As they exited their house an army of soldiers dressed appropriately in black stood in their yard to escort them out of the settlement to the waiting bus. Yossi, however told the soldiers that they needed to leave his yard. He would leave and he would walk with his family and entourage to the buses without any force, but he didn’t want any soldiers standing there. They left his yard and stood out on the street and Yossi once again barked at them to move out away from his home. This was a march that he felt strongly that he didn’t want any military standing around him or his children when he walked it. And once again the soldiers respectfully complied.

 

When I asked Yossi why he felt so strongly about this, his answer brought tears to my eyes. He told me that he knew that what was happening was a decree from Hashem. It was not something that was explainable. It was something that had a bigger and greater plan. It didn’t make any sense to him, but many things don’t. Yet he knew that his children would be traumatized and that they would never forget this moment. What was most important to him though, was that his children should never confuse what was happening to them with the Israeli army; with the soldiers that were carrying out this harsh decree of Hashem that was implemented by the secular if not wicked government. He wanted his children to one day have the privilege and honor, as he felt he had, in serving in the army. In putting their lives on the line for the nation of Israel and to defend the country Hashem had promised our ancestors and returned us to. He didn’t want this moment to scar their relationship with the love and dedication to Eretz Yisrael and its brave fighters that he spent his and their whole lives inspiring them about.

 

Much as the Jews that went into Exile in the times of Nebuchadnezzar or the Romans after the destruction of the 1st and 2nd Temples on this very day thousands of years prior to the expulsion from Gaza, recognized that it wasn’t the gentiles that were culpable, but rather mipnei chata’aeinu galinu mei’artzeinu- because of our sins were exiled from our land. So, he felt that this was the plan of Hashem and that his children should know that as Jews we need to point our fingers inward rather than at the messengers of Hashem that carry out His harsh decrees.

 

Yossi’s story seared into my heart and brain as I opened up this weeks Parsha of Korach. I read the Rashi and Midrash about Korach’s claim to Moshe of a house that is full of Jewish books shouldn’t need a Mezuza on it. A Jew that is wearing a garment made entirely of blue wool shouldn’t require tzitzis and I think about Yossi’s house. I think about Jewish houses and how many of them just like his throughout all our generations we had to leave. That we were exiled from. That had become swallowed up by the earth as Korach’s house did. They are Jewish houses. They are holy. They are full of Mitzvos. I can understand how an enemy of ours, A Nazi, A Crusader, an Arab army or a Roman or Babylonian could so heartlessly throw us out of and destroy those “small temples” we had built. But if Yossi was shocked that an Israeli soldier could do such a thing, how can we not stand perplexed of how Hashem, Who is really behind the scenes, could allow such a thing to happen to us.

 

This was the dilemma of Korach. This was his claim. The nation is holy, our homes are perfect. We all heard Hashem, not long before reveal Himself to us and we witnessed the miracles that took place. Can it be that we would lose that stature? That we need an intermediary. That we would lose it all one day and be swallowed up alive by the very ground that we were chosen to elevate Him from?

 

Sadly and tragically the answer is yes. The answer is yes, we can lose it all because we are missing the one most important component. We are forgetting that it’s not about our homes, our sefarim, our families and our ideologies. It’s about revealing the will and presence of Hashem in this world. It’s not about what we think. It’s about what He wants. Our sages tell us that Korach was a smart person, yet he was fooled by his vision, perhaps even spiritual vision, of the way that history was meant to play it out. He saw Shmuel that would anoint Dovid Ha’melech come out of his descendants. But the problem was einav’ hi’ta’aso- his own eye fooled him. It’s not about our vision, even our religious vision. It’s about Hashem’s plan and will.

 

Yossi stood outside of that bus with his family and told them that this was not the first time that Jews were thrown out of our homes. In Gush Etzion the four settlements were massacred by the Arabs in the War of Independence. It took us 19 years until the 6- Day war to return and restore Jewish life to the hills were Avraham, Yitzchak and Yaakov and the tribes of Israel had lived. We will return here, he told them. But that was easier. There it was the gentiles that had thrown us out. The fact that this is happening by our own people is much more harsh. It is a sign we have much more that we have to fix, to rectify, to atone and do teshuva for. But we will return. It may take a year, five years, ten years or twenty or fifty years. It may seem like a long time, but we are an eternal nation, and relative to eternity fifty or even a hundred years (god forbid) is not even a drop in the bucket.

 

When I asked Yossi, where he gets his strength and conviction from, he told me about his daughter Chelli (short for Rachel). When Chelli was in third grade, a young girl of 9, she was traveling on a bus to school in the neighboring settlement and their bus suffered a missile attack from Arabs from who had targeted the school bus with the knowledge that it was full of school children. The two teachers sitting in the seat in front of her were killed and she was grazed by the missile that flew over her head, that had it been a millimeter lower…. Lo aleinu…we shouldn’t know. When he was wheeling his daughter who had been injured by shrapnel in her wheelchair a few weeks later around his Yishuv, she turned to him and said

 

“Abba, y’know that in everything bad that happens, one has to see the and find the good”

 

He turned to her and looked incredulously into her innocent and pure little 9-year-old eyes and asked her what she meant. And so Chelli elaborated for her simple father. She said

 

“Hashem is good. And everything that He does has a purpose is good. So therefore, if something happens it must be that there is something good that is going on that we haven’t figured out yet. So we need to look for it. He wants us to find it.”

 

Once again, my thoughts turned to this parsha of Korach and it’s aftermath. The fire pans that remained and were burned from the incense offering that was used were dedicated and used to cover the altar in the Mishkan. It is mindboggling to think about. These tools that were used to rebel against Hashem became the covering for the mizbayach were all of our sacrifices were brought.

 

The Shem MiShmuel powerfully explains that what drove Korach and his men to the point of rebellion was their chutzpa. Their holy audacity that would not stop at anything to achieve their goal. Jewish chutzpa is a good thing. We are told that we should be bold like a leopard. Yet, it needs to be humbled at the altar. When they brought their incense offering by the command of Moshe they did so with holy intents. That holiness permeated those pans. Yet they were misdirected. They weren’t humbled to accept the will of Hashem. They needed to be integrated in the mizbayach where we sacrifice our own will and desire to that of our Creator. We need Chelli’s  and Yossi’s insight to recognize what is Hashem’s will and what is our own and then to try to find the good in His will. That then becomes the altar that atones for all of our sins. That is what will then return us back to our home.

 

There is a shul in Gush Katif that was discovered from the period of the Mishna 1800 years ago, with a mosaic floor that had a picture of King David playing a harp on it. Dovid lived in the Gaza strip for many years when he hid from Shaul. Our ancestors from the period of Avraham and Yitzchak who lived in Gerar through the Mishna, the Talmud and  in the 14th and 15th century was the largest Jewish settlement in Eretz Yisrael. In Hebrew and in the Torah it is called Azza- which also means chutzpa. It is that chutzpa that brought us there. It is holy Jewish audacity that returned Jews to those desolate sand dunes to rebuild and to plant in what the Arab for centuries called ‘cursed land’. And it is that same Jewish chutzpa and those shovels and pans of the sacrifices that have been made there and the recognition that the kavod Hashem is what is most important. As He is always good. It is those holy heroes that will merit for that harp of Dovid once again play the song of redemption in our land.

 

 

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Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

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YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

 

“A yid hot acht un tsvantzik pretzent pached, tsvey pretzent  tzuker, un zibentzik pretzent chutzpe A Jew is twenty-eight percent fear, two percent sugar, and seventy percent chutzpah.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK

answer below at end of Email

 

33)  The ceremony of the declaration of the establishment of the State of Israel  took place on (date): ____________

 

The  "Declaration of Independence" includes:

A)  The Partition Resolution

B)  The name of Jerusalem

C)  The borders of the State of Israel

D)  The construction of the Temple in the future 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE VIDEO OF THE WEEK

 

https://soundcloud.com/ephraim-schwartz/yedid-nefesh -  BRAND NEW RABBI SCHWARTZ COMPOSITION THIS WEEK- listen to my newest song arranged and sung by Dovid Lowy! Use it this Shalosh Seudos and every one from now on and get extra Rabbi Schwartz points…

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8e8aAdlfU5o   - Mordechai Shapiro’s new Dancing in the Rain with lyrics…

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PCZuNTdniDM    -Ba’Sof Yehiyeh Tov- Perfect song for this E-Mail from Asaf Harosh

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7i558zXzbHg -Loving Joey Newcombs latest song also great for this week’s Email Hakol Mei-ito everythings from Him

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ukmz7glYA7Q -And check out his new Morroco Medley

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S PARSHA/SHABBOS CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

 

Clothing Check- Korach – Korach has a place in infamy in Jewish history as being the man and his congregation that rebelled against Moshe and was swallowed up by the earth. Rashi notes that this parsha and story is adjacent to the mitzva of Tzitzit and he brings the Midrash that tells us that Korach approached Moshe in a garment made entirely out of the special blue Techelet thread that one wears on his 4 cornered garment to fulfill the commandment. He mocked Moshe saying that a garment made entirely out of tzitzit shouldn’t be obligated in strings as it is entirely blue. Similarly, the Jewish people shouldn’t require any special spiritual mediators between them and God. The entire nation is holy. We don’t need you or Aharon or the Levites to intermediate.

 

Korach was wrong. Our sages tell us that he was a great man; a scholar and even leader. But he was motivated by an awareness of the greatness of Hashem and his revelation in this world and expanding that. The thing that he was missing was humility. An awareness of the frailty of man and his distance from Hashem. The awesomeness of Hashem is certainly meant to engender a feeling of greatness of us and our potential and particularly the nation chosen by Hashem to reveal that to the world. But it has to be premised on a sense of humility and a feeling of negating one’s own ego to reveal that.

 

The Techelet on our clothing is there to take the simple clothes which cover up our bodies as just as Adam in the garden of Eden after he sinned was aware of the desire that runs through him. We as well have that yetzer harah that challenges us and can bring us down. So we wear clothing to cover that up. In Hebrew the word for clothing is begged- which also means to rebel. The clothing and our out-of-control desires are covered up to make us realize that naturally left as is our desires and bodies can run us amok. We are rebels. The Techelet that shows us upon that we can turn towards our purpose to service Hashem and keep our eyes to him. Korach was missing that point. And only saw the higher Techelet purpose. And thus, he sinned and failed.

 

Each Erev Shabbos our sages tell us

 

Chayav adam limashemesh begodov lifney Shabbos- Each Friday we need to check our clothing before Shabbos in order that we don’t forget something in our clothing and walk outside and carry it. The Nesivos Shalom sees in that phrase a deeper lesson. The letters of the word Shabbos also spell when rearranged the word boshes- shame. Each Erev Shabbos we need to check our begodim- our clothing or rebellions before Shabbos. We need to think about our week the sins we have committed and the distance we have grown in our weekdays from the holy place of Shabbos. It brings us as sense of humility and busha and we can then enter in Shabbos and reach our tachlis- the purpose of shamayim and aretz as we say in our prayers. The essence of all of creation.

 

We all wear special clothes on Shabbos, but as we place them on it our sages say we shouldn’t get carried away with this special day and holiness that we will get and experience. Start off checking those clothing. Remembering the humility of the week. Then you know you are truly wearing Shabbos clothes.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

 

Yonah Ben Amitai 750 BC –So, we’ll take a break from our chronological People, places and Eras and quickly cover the reading that is the crux of our Yom Kippur Mincha Torah reading; the Book of Yonah. Yonah ben Amitai was a prophet in the times of the First Temple in the period of the King Yerava’am the second, a few decades before the 10 tribes of the north were exiled. There are various seemingly contradictory midrashim as to his early roots, Chazal put him much earlier at the period of Eliyahu Hanavi, being the child of the woman that he brought back to life. There are some sources that suggest he was from the tribe of Zevulun and others from the tribe of Asher.

It’s a famous story that every kindergarten child learns. But here in Israel, as always I try to connect and make the story more real and experiential by visiting sites where we can live it. So in a nut shell there are three parts of the story. Part 1) Hashem tells Yonah to go to Ninveh, which is near Mosul in Iraq, and tell them to do Teshuva. Yep Iraq was wicked back then as well. Yonah didn’t want to. He felt that if he got them to repent it would reflect bad on the Jewish people who were not repenting despite the rebuke they had gotten. So he goes to Yaffo/Jaffa to chap a ship to Tarshish which it seems is a city today called Tarsus in in Central Turkey. The idea being that if he fled the land of Israel then Hashem could not appear to him, as Hashem only reveals prophecy in Israel. This of course is story that I share by the port of Yaffo, today and you can even see a little film in the visitor center there.

The second part of the story is when he goes out to the sea and a huge storm comes and he allows himself to be thrown overboard, once it becomes apparent that it was Hashem sending the storm in his honor. The cast lots and his number came up… He gets swallowed by a fish (or possibly 2 or 3 according to the midrash) and he davens to Hashem and he is expelled he goes to Ninveh and gets them to repent. This story I like to share when I stand by the water of the Mediteranean and its stormy, so you can get a feel of what it felt like. That happens a lot by Rosh Hanikra. As well when I walk down into the grottos there I always feel like I’m going into the belly of the whale. Alternatively, in Eilat when you go to the underwater observatory you get a feel for that underwater experience of Yonah.

The third part of the story or the epilogue is Yonah sitting in the heat and he complains about the heat. Hashem lets a Kikayon tree grow above him. He feels great, until Hashem sends a worm to eat up the tree and it dies. Yonah faints from the heat and tells Hashem that it’s too much for him to bear. Hashem then points out to him that if he is concerned with the death of a tree, Hashem certainly needs to be concerned with an entire city. The Kikayon tree according to most biblical botanists- yeah that’s a real thing is castor been tree- although I’ve certainly seen it translated as a gourd tree, but I guess this castor must be some type of gourd. At least that’s what they tell me it is when I take my tourists to Neot Kedumim which the place to go to learn about biblical agriculture. 

That’s our story. Now it’s up to you on Yom Kippur to find the deeper meaning and inspiration behind this story.

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S REALLY (and I mean really ) TERRIBLE ISRAELI HUMMUS JOKES OF THE WEEK

The definition of chutzpah:

Is the man who killed his parents who asks for mercy from the court.

The judge asks “On what grounds should we grant you mercy?”

Man “On the account of I’m an orphan!”

 

What is the definition of chutzpah – it’s when someone is being treated for a multi-personality disorder and wants a……..group discount

 

Q: Did you hear about the Jewish ATM? A: When you take out some money, it says to you, what did you do with the last $50 I gave you?

 

A little old lady sold pretzels on a street corner for a dollar each. Every day a young man would leave his office building at lunch time and as he passed the pretzel stand he would leave her $1.00, but never take a pretzel.

This offering went on for more than 3 years. The two of them never spoke. One day as the young man passed the old lady's stand and left his dollar as usual, the pretzel lady spoke to him for the first time in over 3 years. Without blinking an eye she said: "They're $1.25 now."

 

2 Jewish guys are walking down a street when they see a Catholic church with a sign out front that says "Convert today and get $1000 dollars". The first Jewish guy says "Can you believe their chutzpah, thinking someone would convert for money?!".

 The other Jewish guy says "A thousand dollars?! I'm gonna go for it!" and runs into the church.

Well the first guy is shocked, he stands outside waiting for his friend who comes out 30 minutes later counting hundred dollar bills. The first guy says to his friend "I cannot believe you! How can you turn your back on your religion, your family, forsake every spiritual thing you held dear, for $1000 dollars?!"

The other guy looks up from counting his money and says "Wow, it's always about money with you people, isn't it?"

 

A little Jewish grandmother gets on the crowded bus and discovers that she doesn’t have the correct change for the fare.

The driver says, “I’m sorry ma’am but without the correct fare you can’t ride.”

She places her hand gently on her chest and says, “If you knew what I had, you’d be nicer to me.”

 

He lets her ride. She tries to move down the crowded aisle, but people won’t make way for her. She places her hand gently on her chest and says, “If you knew what I had, you’d be nicer to me.”

The crowd parts like the Red Sea. She reaches the back of the bus where there are no seats. No one gets up. She places her hand gently on her chest and says, “If you knew what I had, you’d be nicer to me.”

Several people jump up and insist that she take their seat. She settles into a good one by the window.

A woman leans over to her and says, “I know this is none of my business, but just what is it that you’ve got?”

The little Jewish grandmother grins and says, “Chutzpah.”

 

Issy is walking down the road with his friend Max after listening to him go on and on kvetching for a n hour. when he suddenly says.

 You know what, Max, You’re a walking economy”.

Whatever do you mean by that?” Asks Max.

“ Well , it’s likely this…. your hair line is in recession, your stomach is a victim of inflation and the combination of these factors about you is putting me into a depression!”

 

Yankel from Williamsburg puts up a sign that says “Boat for sale”

Yoily, his friend says, “But Yankel you only own a house and a car”

“Dat’s right” Yankel responded “And dey are boat for sale”

 

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Answer is A – So I copped out a bit on this one, and imaginably I got the answer technically correct. I wrote that the date was the 5th of Iyar 1948. That was easy. I know when Yom Ha’Atzmaut is. On the other hand I wasn’t sure of the secular date, so I didn’t write it. If I had to guess I probably would’ve written the 5th of May which is wrong.

 

 It was actually the 14th of May. If they would’ve asked me when Cinco de Mayo is though I would’ve gotten that right. But the truth is since they didn’t specify what date (Hebrew or secular) I imaginably would’ve gotten the answer right. The second part of the answer though was fairly easy. They didn’t mention Jerusalem, certainly Jerusalem’s old city wasn’t even part of the State until 1967 and they didn’t know if they would get it. It was even controversial if they would mention Hashem or God and they settled on “Tzur Yisrael” the rock of Israel which could be open to definition with Ben Gurion begging that should suffice and not be forced to put to a vote, so forget about the building of the Temple. And no, they didn’t mention borders as they had no clue what the borders would be when the declaration was made what they would be.

 

 The correct answer, which is the Partition plan was mentioned as part of the justification for the establishment of the State. This is the final answer on this exam for the multiple choice section and so the final score would be Schwartz 25.5 and 6.5 for MOT (Ministry of Tourism) on this exam.

Thursday, August 11, 2016

Mussar Shmooze- Devarim/Chazon 5776/2016

Insights and Inspiration
from the
Holy Land
from
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
"Your friend in Karmiel"

August 12th 2016 -Volume 6, Issue 45 8th Av 5776

*(SEE BOTTOM OF E-MAIL FOR SPECIAL LAWS OF WHEN TISHA BAV FALLS ON SHABBOS)

Parshat Devarim/Shabbat Chazon

Mussar Shmooze
 
It’s an old Lakewood Yeshiva story. Or a joke. It could be true. It’s what makes it funny. Or sad. It’s a story only someone who spent time in yeshiva will really get and appreciate.
The story goes about a new worker that was hired to clean the Yeshiva. He arrived in the middle of the semester- or zman as we call it in yeshiva. After the long winter zman, the new semester began. As is the custom in yeshiva the first few days of yeshiva everyone is walking around outside tumuling. What is the Lakewood chavrusa tumult? It’s thousands of people trying to find a new study partner for the upcoming zman. Your chavrusa is more than just your study partner. It is the person that you will be spending hours a day with for the next few months, sitting shtender to shtender trying to unravel the secrets and intricacies of the Talmud with. Finding the right chavrusa is very important. Besides making sure its someone that is on your wavelength, you want someone who is knowledgeable, someone who you has a solid attendance record and most importantly someone who you feel will help you become the best you can become. Finding the right chavrusa takes a lot of legwork. It’s finding out information about his past chavrusas, finding out if he has anything else going on in his life that might distract him- is he dating? Is his wife pregnant? Is he a schmoozer? Maybe too intense? It’s like finding the right match for marriage. Even after you might have the right guy does he want to learn with you? You need the right shadchan. Someone who might sell you a bit. Welcome to the tumult.
So the first few days in Yeshiva everyone is walking around in circles doing reconnaissance. Who might be available, who’s breaking up with their old chavrusa and who might be a good match for me. Little groups of one or two people are schmoozing in corners, others running back and forth between groups. The story goes how this new Hispanic cleaning guy upon witnessing this scene for the first time goes over to one of the Kollel guys and asks him the famous question.
“What is this? Mussar Seder (the fifteen minutes a day that the yeshiva dedicates to personal reflection of one’s ethical spiritual growth- rather than Talmud and Jewish law)- all day?!!”
Ouch! See Mussar seder has generally been the one that everybody walks out after a 3-4 hour intense Talmud session with their chavrusa and breathes a little bit. It’s not most people’s favorite topic. It doesn’t demand the deductive analytical prowess that the study of Talmud does. It requires opening a book reading basic ethical and moral statements and directive and really inspiring and self-examining oneself on how to truly improve one’s connection with God, with ones fellow man, one’s prayer, one’s faith. All in fifteen minutes. All after an intense Talmud session on the nuances of an ox goring, finding lost objects, the laws of carrying on the Sabbath or the intricacies of the sacrifices depending on what you were studying. So guys just go out for a breather. The cleaning guy seeing thousands of guys mulling and tummuling around outside all day just assumed it was an extended Mussar session. His statement perhaps the greatest Mussar lesson- wake-up call to the yeshiva about the sad state of Mussar seder.
This week we begin the fifth and final book of the Torah; Sefer Devarim. These are the words of Moshe. The entire book is pretty much meant to be one long Mussar schmooze- the last of Moshe’s life to his beloved people. Chasidim refer to this book as the Torah SheBaal Peh of the Torah SheB’Ktav- the Oral teaching of the written Law. Whereas the first four Books of the Torah were the word o Hashem that Moshe wrote down, the book of Devarim is Moshe speaking and the ‘Shechina- is speaking through his throat.’ I guess it’s appropriate after a solid four books of Torah the end is the Mussar Shmooze. Maybe that’s where the Yeshiva system got it from.
Yet the Mussar schmooze is kind of a strange one. Certainly the beginning is. The first verses Rashi tells us is Mussar in disguise.
Devarim (1:1) “And these are the words- For they are words of rebuke. And he enumerated the places that they (the Jewish people) were angered before Hashem-. Therefore he put them vaguely and mentioned them by hints because of the honor of Israel”
Rashi of course derives this because the verse goes at great lengths to describe places where this speech supposedly took place but there seems to be too much if not even contradictory information.
“Across the Jordan, in the wilderness, in the Arava plains opposite the sea of reeds, between Paran and Tophel, and Lavan and Hatzerot and Dei Zahav”
This is very recognizable as a bad code hidden meaning type of message. The banks of the Jordan is not the wilderness is not the Arava and not near the Yam Suf of reeds or Paran. Rashi notes that Rabbi Shimon Bar Yochai notes that he checked the entire Torah and there is no such place as Tophell and Lavan. Thus Rashi and chazal- our sages note that these are all hints to places that “we were angered before Hashem”. The wilderness is when we complained about being in the wilderness without food. The plains is the plains of Moava when we sinned with their daughters by Baal Peor. The Sea of Reeds was when we were frightened and didn’t have faith when the Egyptians were chasing us. Tophel and Lavan is when they slandered the white tasteless look of the Manna and Paran is where the sin of the spies took place. The rest of the places refer to the sin of Korach and the golden calf. Not bad numbering all of our sins like that in one verse. How’s that for the start of a Mussar Shmooze.
The question though is what’s the point of this hidden message thing?  Everyone there knew what he was talking about didn’t they? If they didn’t then they certainly got the message, as this speech goes on and we see that Moshe does not pull any punches. Just check out chapter 9 in Devarim
“You are stiff necked people…You have angered Hashem” And in Tavera and in Masa and in Kivros hatava you have angered Hashem and you have disobeyed the word of Hashem…You have rebelled against Hashem from the day that I know you…”
 Ouch! What ever happened to the honor of Israel and hints?
There is a fascinating insight into giving successful Mussar and rebuke from the great Alshich Hakadosh. There is a cryptic verse in proverbs (although there pretty much isn’t any verse there that is not) from King Solomon says
 “Al Tochach Letz Pen Yisnaeka- Don’t rebuke a mocker lest he hates you.
Hochach Chacham Vyehohavecha- Rebuke to a wise man and we will love you.”
The Alshich askes the obvious question. Someone who is in the rebuking business is generally not the guy trying to win popularity contests. There is a reason why the Mashgiach who was meant to give the Mussar Shmooze in yeshiva was not the most popular Rabbi- at least in my yeshiva. So what is King Shlomo’s advice? Only rebuke the good kids. Don’t’ rebuke the jokers, the chevra-man as we used to call them in yeshiva- or more accurately what they used to call me. Used to? That doesn’t seem like effective advice.
I remember when I was in Kollel and I perhaps got the most effective rebuke I ever got. There was a tumult of some sort about the rather long delay of our paychecks. Guys were getting restless. To make matters even worse the Rabbi got up and started lecturing us about timeliness and guys not being as serious as they should be about their studies. The Kollel natives were getting restless. What type of Chutzpa was this? How dare the Rabbi who obviously is not taking our meager paychecks seriously come tell us about our studies? He should be happy we show up at all! Being the loudest of everyone and always one to stand up for truth and justice, I was marshalling the troops. The rebellion was brewing. Until I got a call from one of my other rebbeim.
 He started off the conversation with how much he is impressed with me. How great my studies are. How much I have accomplished and truly been a great leader in the yeshiva. He then said that he knew that I was very smart guy and he wanted to understand what was going on in yeshiva. He had heard I was leading a rebellion but it didn’t make sense to him, particularly from a smart guy like me. After-all at the end of the day nothing will really be gained besides making myself an enemy of the head of the Kollel. The checks will come when they will come, this won’t change anything. The speeches that the Rabbi which he thought I certainly understood were the Rabbi’s defense mechanism because he felt guilty about not paying us will probably escalate even more. At the end of the day, I’m too smart to fall into this trap. So why would I even bother…The rebuke hit the spot. Primarily because I knew that this Rebbe of mine was manipulating this conversation with me to put this thing down and telling me how great I was in order to get me to quell it. But it worked. I promised myself I would never do anything to force this Rebbe of mine to ever have to give me such a patronizing schmooze again. The Mussar schmooze for the first time made its way through.

The Alshich Hakadosh says that is the advice of King Solomon. Don’t ever rebuke someone by calling him or treating him like a mocker, a low life, someone who is beneath you or contemptible. He will hate you for it. It won’t work. He knows if you see him like that, then you really don’t get him. You really aren’t there for him. You’re wrong about him and you’re therefore not a reliable source of rebuke as well. Rather, King Solomon says rebuke to the chacham- to the wise man- Find the wise man, the tzadik in each person. Talk up to him-that same person who you might have thought is a letz a mocker. See beyond the exterior. Reveal and show him- the literal meaning of the word tochayach- that he is a chacham. Then he will love you. Then he will hear and respect your rebuke.  For you have reached his core. You have revealed his essence.
Moshe begins this harsh book of Devarim with the ultimate Mussar Shmooze to Klal Yisrael. He starts off with hidden terms but also terms that can reflect their holy and special nature. He speaks to the honor of the Jewish people. He headlines and introduces the sins in the most minor of ways. The wilderness they sinned why? Because as Rashi said they thought they were going to die. The Arava- Rashi notes because of the Arava. Because of the mixture that we had as we came close to the land of Israel and fell in with the daughters of Moav. As well the sins by the Yam Suf- the verse tells us we were literally across the suf- the sea was at our backs that’s why we sinned. The complained against the Manna was that it was white. And it was white. It was tasteless looking. The spies made us sin. Korach made us sin. Finally the greatest sin of all the Golden calf was because we had too much gold. We were overwhelmed with the bounty after being enslaved for so long.
Moshe is not merely alluding to each of the sins. He is rationalizing them. He is opening the conversation and the Mussar lesson uplifting us with honor. Referring to it all as the places where we got Hashem angry at us rather than the places where we rebelled, where we scorned where we strayed. We have fallen out from one another over the past forty years. Moshe is trying to restore that love and guide us as Hashem’s beloved nation by opening his final speech in the positive description of it all being a journey. A path that we have traveled where circumstances have caused us to fall. But we can do better. We will do better. That is the book of Devarim.
That speech of Moshe is always read this week before Tisha B’Av. Tisha B’Av the day when we sit on the floor and recall all of the tragedies. All of the horror our people have witnessed. The punishments, the exiles, the expulsions. The massacres the pogroms. All of them have come as we believe because we have failed to restore that love. To find within ourselves the chacham, the wise person, that truly believes and knows that we can make it all right again. Hashem still is waiting for us. We just need to hear that little bit more of Mussar that will bring us back to him once again.

Have a insightful and redemptive Shabbat Chazon and may this year Tisha B’Av be the one that is transformed to joy rather than mourning.
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
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RABBI SCHWARTZ COOL VIDEO CLIPS OF THE WEEK

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Mm11qDwSVlk – Gush Katif expulsion video 11 years ago this Tisha B’Av

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pyBxhWg0dFk – Trailer for great Tish B’Av movie Silver Lining

https://youtu.be/RSO4MTMNrjI    –Ari Goldwag and son Daddy Dear

https://youtu.be/BWN8XJB51y4    – Rabbi David Fohrman on Tisha B’Av very poignant Rachels Tears

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

“Vos ken vern fun di shof az der volf iz der rikhter?”- What will become of the sheep if the wolf is the judge?
RABBI SCHWARTZ'S JEWISH PERSONALITY AND HIS QUOTES IN HONOR OF THE YARTZEIT  OF THE WEEK

“It is impossible to tell people what way they should take. For one way to serve G-d is through learning, another through prayer, another through fasting, and still another through eating. Everyone should carefully observe what way his heart draws him, and then choose this way with all his strength."”

“Who would like to go with me to Jerusalem and greet Mashiach?”

 "On the day I die they will all be crying". – The Chozeh cryptically upon hearing that the mitnagdim were celebrating when he had fallen. The Chozeh passed away on Tisha B’Av when all of Israel was mourning.

Rav Yaakov Yitzchak Horowitz  the Chozeh of Lublin- 9th Av  this Shabbos (1745-1815)-
This Tisha B’Av will be the 201st  yahrzeit of Rebbe Yaakov Yitzchak, the Chozeh [Seer] of Lublin, who is one of the truly beloved figures of Chassidus. A disciple of the Maggid of Mezritch, he continued his studies under Rebbe Shmelke of Nikolsburg and Rebbe Elimelech of Lizhensk. After he moved from Lanczut to Lublin, thousands of Chassidim flocked to him, to savor his teachings and to be warmed by his saintly presence.
Reb Shlomo Carlebach says: "The Chozeh of Lublin - the heart trembles! Everybody knows that from the time of the Holy Temple there was not a group like this, like the chevraya Kadisha of Lublin. The Rebbe of Lublin said about himself that he had the neshama [soul] of the prophet Yeshaya. He didn’t have mamesh [actual] prophecy because he lived in chutz la’Aretz [outside of the Land of Israel]. He had some 5,000 Chassidim who had ruach haKodesh, and thousands upon thousands of others, who were simple Jews. They once asked Rebbe Naftali Tzvi of Ropshitz why the Chozeh and histalmidim didn’t bring Moshiach. 'I’ll tell you the truth,' answered Reb Naftali, 'it was so good (by the Chozeh) that we forgot to bring him.' But the Chozeh always yearned to bring Moshiach. What Reb Naftali said was just a matter of humor."
Rebbe Yaakov Yitzchak Horowitz of Lublin, who became known as "the Chozeh" only some fifty years after his passing, is known as the father of Polish Chassidus. Almost all the Polish Rebbes can trace themselves back to the court of the Chozeh. Besides the Ropshitzer, among his ardent followers were such Chassidic luminaries as Rebbe Yechezkel of Kuzmir, Rebbe Yaakov Yitzchak [HaYehudi HaKadosh - The Holy Jew/Yid], Rebbe Simcha Bunim of Pshischa, Rebbe Menachem Mendel of Kotzk, Rebbe Meir of Apta, Rebbe David of Lelov, Rebbe Moshe Teitelbaum of Uhel ["Yismach Moshe"], Rebbe Tzvi Elimelech of Dinov ["Bnei Yissaschar"], Rebbe Klonymus Kalman of Cracow ["Ma'or VaShemesh"], Rebbe [Sar] Shalom of Belz, Rebbe Yissaschar Dov Ber of Radoshitz, and many others. The present-day Chassidic dynasties of Ger [Gur], Satmar, Belz, Modzitz, Sanz, Bluzhev and many others, all had their origins in Lublin.
He merited the 'title' of Chozeh, which means seer or visionary, due to his great intuitive powers. For example, he had the ability to discern a petitioner's character, his past deeds, and the root of his soul by glancing at his forehead. The Chozeh could look into the future. He could see, it was said, "from one end of the world to the other." He could see events taking place, far away from where he was sitting.
The teachings of the Chozeh are preserved in three volumes: Zot zikaron (1851), Zikaron zot (1869), and Divre emet (1830–1831). These volumes are unusual in that he wrote them himself, unlike most other works in this genre that were collected and edited by later disciples long after the deaths of their authors.

The Chozeh’s writings provide a window into the development of his thoughts on the central concept of the tsadik. The Rebbe was a charismatic leader with divine authority to lead a community and would also take responsibility for the spiritual and material welfare of his followers. He was to serve as an intermediary between the community and heaven, enabling divine bounty to flow to his followers while at the same time representing their interests before the holy powers. It was, in his view, a tsadik’s role to help followers in what he considered the three crucial areas of life: children, health, and livelihood.
Some of Horowitz’s younger disciples rejected the doctrine of ‘material tsadikism’. They believed that a Rebbe was not to be a miracle worker but a mentor to guide the spiritual growth of his disciples. They also emphasized the importance of Torah study and striving for personal self-perfection. These disciples increasingly became alienated from the Chozeh, and they also aroused the opposition of the Seer’s other disciples who were threatened by the new and radical ideas. In 1812, The Chozeh’ closest disciple, Rabbi Ya‘akov Yitsḥak Rabinowicz (“the Holy Jew”; 1766–1813), broke with him and left Lublin to establish a new school of Hasidism in Pshiskhe.
One Hasidic tradition ascribes the rupture within the movement to a disagreement over the significance of Napoleon’s invasion of Russia in 1812. The Chozeh apparently interpreted the event as the war of Gog and Magog that was to usher in the Messianic era. During Simḥat Torah festivities in 1814, the Seer retired to his private room. He was later found injured and moaning beneath his window, having been severely injured in a fall. Horowitz did not recover and died nine months later on Tish‘ah be-Av. His disciples claimed he had been pushed out the window by the Sitra’ Aḥra’ (Evil One) as punishment for attempting to bring the Messiah prematurely. However all agree that the day that the Chozeh died as he predicted would be a day when all of Israel mourns. May his memory be blessed.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK
answer below at end of Email
The meaning of “Kiddush levana” is:
A.    Kiddush (blessing) of white wine
  1. A blessing for a new month
  2. A blessing for the returning of spring
  3. A blessing for the full moon

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S COOL RASHI OF THE WEEK
Not only do the words sources and interpretations have insights but even the order where he sometimes list things. Keep your eyes open and great insights can be revealed, particularly when there seems to be an anomaly in the list.
If I were to ask you what significant happened on Mt. Sinai, I imagine all of us would respond the giving of the Torah. If I asked you what else happened there, you might even say the building of the Mishkan-the Tabernacle, pushed a little more you might even say we came established the Sanhedrin. The truth is you could also say the golden calf. Perhaps if you remember being there that might be the upmost thing on your mind. The guilt and regret for that horrible betrayal of Hashem.
Rashi here notes something very strange. Moshe tells the Jews Rav Lachem Sheves BaHar Hazeh- You have spent too much time sitting by this mountain. Rashi quotes a midrash that says as follows
“Much greatness to you and reward by staying at this mountain- you have made the Mishkan, the menora and its vessels, you received the Torah, you established for yourself Sanhedrin and officers of thousands and hundreds”
The order here seems somewhat strange. The Torah was seemingly the most significant thing and chronologically as well. What is this order? One of the great Sefardic leaders of the last generation points out that the Jewish people were still traumatized over the golden calf and thus Moshe before encouraging them to move on first addressed to them that the sin of the golden calf had been provided with an atonement the Mishkan, the vessels. That is the key for them being able to ‘move on’. Only after he tells them that from their sin came out the Mishkan, the vessels then they could appreciate the fact that they received the Torah and that they appointed leaders and judges that would help guide them as they moved forward on their journey.
As I noted in the E-Mail above the book of Devarim and certainly Rashi’s commentary on it are the classic textbook on how to properly motivate and give rebuke. One just has examine Rashi throughout this portion and can find many tips in the nuances of his explanations in how that is done.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S COOL HISTORICAL EVENT THAT HAPPENED ON THIS DATE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK-
Expuslsion from Gush Katif- 10th Av August 15th 2005- If you asked me what the blackest day of our history since the establishment of Stte of Israel it was the 10th of Av 2005 when the State of Israel led by Ariel Sharon physically removed and expelled thousands of Jewish settlers who had been placed and encouraged to live there by the same Yitzchak Rabin and Ariel Sharon over 30 year before. To settle the land and provide protection and a buffer for the rest of the country. Yet whether it was due to world pressure, the desire of many Israelis to delude themselves that a unilateral withdrawal would satisfy the savages that have never been shy of their desire to push us into the sea, or perhaps just the desire for Ariel Sharon to recreate himself as a peace-maker, the decision to expel thousands of Jews from their homes was put into motion.  After 35 years of life in Gush Katif, the Israeli government implemented the Disengagement Plan and the 21 flourishing communities were destroyed in one week (August – 2005). The courageous campaign to stop the expulsion had failed. The original plan was scheduled for Tisha B’Av until they recoginized the significance of the day and was pushed off to the 10th of Av- when in fact our sages tell us the actual destruction of the Temple took place (it started on the 9th).  The Gush Katif residents were carried out of their homes by their own brothers in arms, dearly loved IDF soldiers. They were taken to buses that drove them for hours… to where? Here’s where this carefully organized operation ran into its first problem. There weren’t enough hotel rooms reserved or caravillas (temporary pre-fabricated housing units available in 60 (102 family members), 90 (3-7) and a few 120 sq. meters for families with 7 or more children.) prepared.
So the majority of former residents of 21 Gush Katif communities were initially scattered in hotels throughout the country, in Jerusalem, Be’er Sheva and Ashkelon. These weren’t prepared properly as many hotels weren’t made aware of the huge inundation of families. This was no holiday vacation. Families were separated onto different floors within the same hotel. Mothers longed to cook meals for their children and couldn’t. Children used to carefree community life couldn’t play unsupervised. Wonderful civilian volunteers helped out with laundry services, clothes, and provided much needed basic supplies as the expellees’ personal belongings were all in storage. Not all families went to hotels. Some communities were welcomed by high-school dormitories. Others were temporarily placed in high-rise apartment buildings. Many families with young children, mostly  religious, were now unexpectedly in urban, secular, not child-friendly environments and an end was nowhere in sight.
During that first year following the expulsion, communities were scattered at hotels throughout the country, high-school dormitories, IDF vacation homes, high-rise apartment buildings,  At the Yad Mordechai junction the community of Eli Sinai set up a tent city, determined to stay together and find a community solution. Their perseverance eventually bore fruit, and they were allowed to become residents of kibbutz Palmachim. But the bureaucratic hassle took years, and only as of a year ago are Eli Sinai families finally moving into their new homes.
Ten years later, a third of the expellees remain in these temporary homes. The others have moved into their new permanent homes in the new communities they’ve established – or strengthened. Yes indeed, Gush Katifnics now reside throughout Israel – from the south to the north. From the Halutza sands by the Egyptian border to Avnei Eitan in the Golan Heights. Several new communities even kept their original name, while others hint at their Gush Katif origin. Some communities are wholly comprised of residents from their former community, while others are a composite of several communities, and some have absorbed residents from throughout Israel.
Israel has since suffered three wars since that expulsion. Hamas builds tunnels daily to terrorize and plan attacks on our citizens. Missiles from Hamasistan-as the former Katif area is ruefully called have hit Tel Aviv and Jerusalem. And yet there are those that still feel that it is good to unilateraly give up land and that it would somehow make our security situation better here. As we mourn on Tisha B’Av which this year is on the 10th of Av let us remember as well the destruction once again caused by our hands, when a Jewish State forgets that all of this Lands is only given to us by God and it is not ours to ever give away.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S  JOKES OF THE WEEK
Shame on you for even looking this week. It is our time to mourn the Temple. There are no jokes this week…

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Answer is B – This is one of those questions that I don’t understand what it has anything to do with tour guiding. But far be it from me to complain when knowledge of basic Judaism is a requirement to be a tour guide. Although arguably there are two correct answers to this question. The correct answer of course is that it is the blessing recited upon the advent of the new month. Although technically speaking it is not as much about the month as it is not recited until a few days after Rosh Chodesh when the one can start to see the new moon. And although it is certainly not a blessing on the full moon as it is said in the beginning of the month when the moon is still small. I believe the argument can be made that there is a prayer there that asks Hashem to fill up the shame of moon and restore it to its former glory of being equal to the sun as it says by Creation the two great luminaries. Where Hashem minimized the size of the moon in order that there should not be any mistake of two great lights in the world, but ultimately He will restore that light. So one can argue that it is a blessing for a full moon in the future. But I don’t believe that it was the answer they were going for. Perhaps the ministry of tourism should brush up on their Judaism as well.

Due to the many requests here is a posting for the unique laws of Tisha'a B'Av which falls out on Shabbos and is postponed to Sunday. Everyone should feel free to ask their own local Rabbi for guidance this is just the general orthodox Ashkenazic tradition for observances of the day of the destruction of the Temple. Of course the primary obligation is remember the destruction and mourn its loss.

When Tisha B'Av falls on Shabbat or Sunday
by Rabbi Elozor Barclay and Rabbi Yitzchok Jaeger

Special laws that apply when the Tisha B'Av observance begins on Saturday night.

Note: The following laws are based on Ashkenazi tradition, and some points are subject to varying opinion. When in doubt, AYLOR (ask your local Orthodox rabbi)

1. What are the main changes when Tisha B'Av falls on Shabbat or Sunday?

When Tisha B'Av falls on Shabbat, the main changes are:

The fast is postponed until Sunday. 
Marital relations are forbidden on Friday night. 
Washing any part of the body with hot water for pleasure is forbidden on Shabbat. 
There is no special Seuda Hamafseket before the fast. 
Some of the laws of Tisha B'Av begin only at nightfall on Saturday night, instead of at sunset. 
Havdalah is postponed until Sunday night. 

2. May a woman immerse in a mikveh on Friday night that is Tisha B'Av? Yes. In this case, marital relations are permitted.

4. Are there any changes to the prayers in this situation? Tzidkas'cha is not said at Mincha. Pirkei Avot is not said at Mincha.

5. May one hold a public kiddush on this Shabbat? If the kiddush can be held on a different Shabbat, it is preferable to defer it. If the kiddush cannot be held on a different Shabbat -- e.g. for an aufruff (groom prior to his wedding), it is permitted.

6. May one eat meat and drink wine at the Shabbat meals? Yes. This is permitted even at Seuda Shlishit.

7. May one invite guests to the Shabbat meals? Yes. However, one should not invite guests for Seuda Shlishit unless he does so regularly.

8. May one sing zemirot at the Shabbat meals? Yes. This is permitted even at Seuda Shlishit.

9. May one go for a stroll on this Shabbat? When the ninth of Av is Shabbat, one may not go for a stroll at any time of the day.

10. May one visit family or friends? No.

11. May one learn Torah on this Shabbat? Before halachic midday, it is permitted to learn Torah. After halachic midday, many opinions permit learning Torah. If a person can limit himself to the topics that are permitted on Tisha B'Av, it is praiseworthy. It is permitted to read the weekly parsha and its translation all day.

12. May one take pills on Shabbat to alleviate the pains of fasting? It is permitted to take them on Shabbat until sunset only if they are mixed with a food or drink. One should preferably prepare the mixture before Shabbat. One may take them without water even on Saturday night, unless they are pleasant tasting.

14. Are there any changes to Seuda Shlishit? Although any food may be served, including meat and wine, and zemirot may be sung, the mood should be somewhat subdued. A person should not say that he is eating in order to have strength to fast, but he may think this. One must stop eating and drinking before sunset, since the fast begins at this time. People should be reminded about this, as it is unlike a regular Shabbat.

15. Must one say Grace After Meals before sunset? It is permitted to say the Grace after sunset, but one should try to wash mayim acharonim (after waters) before sunset, if possible.

16. May one say Grace After Meals with a 3-man zimun? Yes (unlike when the eve of Tisha B'Av falls on a regular weekday, where one should not make a zimun).

17. May one eat or drink after Seuda Shlishit? If one said Grace After Meals before sunset, one may eat or drink until sunset. It is not necessary to have this in mind when saying Grace After Meals.

18. Which prohibitions of Tisha B'Av commence at sunset? All the prohibitions except wearing shoes and sitting on a chair commence at sunset. These two activities are permitted until nightfall.

19. When should one change one's shoes and Shabbat clothes? There are two customs:

Some go to shul before nightfall and begin Ma'ariv at the usual time of Saturday night. The chazzan should say "baruch hamavdil bein kodesh lechol," remove his shoes, and then say "barchu." The congregation should respond to "barchu" and then remove their shoes. Care must be taken not to touch one's shoes when removing them. The Shabbat clothes are not removed until one returns home after Ma'ariv. This is the prevalent custom in the Diaspora.

Some shuls delay the commencement of Ma'ariv, allowing people to remain at home until nightfall. At the time of nightfall, everyone should say the phrase "baruch hamavdil bein kodesh lechol," remove his shoes, and change into weekday clothes before Ma'ariv. This is the prevalent custom in Israel.

20. According to the first custom, may one bring Tisha B'Av footwear to shul before Ma'ariv?  
Even if there is an eiruv this is forbidden, since one may not prepare on Shabbat for after Shabbat. It is also forbidden to change one's shoes before going to shul, since this is disgracing the Shabbat. It is therefore advisable to leave suitable footwear in shul before Shabbat to wear after Shabbat.

21. Is the blessing recited over the spices? No. It is forbidden to smell spices, since a person must refrain from such a pleasure on Tisha B'Av.

22. Is the blessing recited over a Havdalah candle? Yes. According to one custom, it is recited in shul before the reading of Lamentations. According to another custom, it is recited at home before Ma'ariv, if there is time. According to some opinions, the blessing should be recited over two regular candles and not over a braided Havdalah candle.

23. May one wash the Shabbat dishes on Saturday night? No. They may not be washed until Tisha B'Av afternoon.

24. Should a person who is not fasting recite Havdalah before eating? Yes. However, if he only needs to drink water throughout the fast, he should not recite Havdalah.

25. Should such a person recite Havdalah immediately after Shabbat or wait until he needs to eat? He should wait until he needs to eat.

26. Which sections of Havdalah are recited? The introductory verses and the blessing over spices should be omitted. The blessing over a candle should be omitted if he already recited or heard it at the termination of Shabbat, or if he is reciting Havdalah during the day.

27. Should Havdalah be recited over wine, grape juice, or another drink? According to most opinions, beer is the most preferred drink.  
If this is not possible, some opinions prefer the use of a drink that has national importance. (A rabbi should be consulted to ascertain which drinks qualify for this purpose.) Other opinions question the use of such drinks, and prefer the use of grape juice. If nothing else is available, wine may be used.

28. If wine or grape juice is used, should the cup be given to a child to drink? If a child above the age of six is available, the cup should be given to him. If not, the person who recites Havdalah should drink the cup himself.

29. How much of the cup should be drunk? A cheekful only.

30. Are children obligated to recite Havdalah before they eat? According to most opinions, they do not recite Havdalah before eating.

31. After the fast, may one eat or drink before Havdalah? With the exception of water, it is forbidden to eat or drink anything before Havdalah.

32. Which drink should be used for Havdalah? One should use wine or grape juice. The person who recites Havdalah should drink the cup himself.

33. Which parts of Havdalah are recited? Only the two blessings "borei p'ri hagafen" and "hamavdil." The introductory verses are omitted, as are the blessings over the spices and candle.

34. When are the various restrictions lifted? Some are permitted immediately upon completion of the fast (e.g. bathing, laundry and haircuts), while others remain prohibited until the following morning (meat, wine and music).

Excerpted from "Guidelines" - over 400 commonly asked questions about the Three Weeks (Targum/Feldheim).