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Thursday, July 26, 2018

Not Mourning Tisha B’Av- Devarim / Tisha B'Av 2018/5778


Insights and Inspiration
from the
Holy Land
from
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
"Your friend in Karmiel"
July 19th 2018 -Volume 8 Issue 39 8th Av 5778

Parshat Devarim /Chazon

Not Mourning Tisha B’Av
 
I have a problem with distorted history. You know how we always like to look back and think about the alteh heim. How great it was. How holy everyone was. How much better it was in simpler times. It may be great to build up the previous generations and give our children something to aspire to become and achieve. But let’s get real. Life was bad. Life was always pretty bad for the Jews. We talk about “golden ages” in our history, but anyone that reads a bit of history will realize that we haven’t gone a century or two without incredible persecution, anti-semitism and expulsion. As well we haven’t gone a century or two without Jews forgetting all of the terrible things that continuously happened to us mere decades before and deluding themselves into thinking “but now it’s different”. Now we have learned. The “world” will never allow it. We are more civilized, we are advanced, they are our friends. They need us. We are too influential. We have lobbies. Uh huh…As King Solomon and all the prophets teach us “same old –same old…”

I admit, I’m no different. It’s hard to wrap my brain around the concept that normal, nice, seemingly moral people, civilized nations, and regular Moms and Pops could become so hate-filled, so rabid, so evil as to do the things that were done to my nation. I read the stories. I guide in Yad Vashem. I have given classes on Jewish history and I have even shed tears as I read about all the different eras when we have been killed, massacred and been taken like sheep to the slaughter. It is an essential part of our prayers. When we recite tachanun each morning we beseech the almighty

“Habeit Mishamayim U’ri’ey- look down from heaven and see that we have become an object of scorn and derision amongst the nations; we are regarded as sheep to the slaughter, to be killed, destroyed, beaten and humiliated”

“We are exhausted but allowed no rest”

“Why should the nations say ‘Where is there God now?’”

“Listen to our voice and be gracious-do not cast us off into the hand of our enemies to blot out our name”

Do these words have meaning to me living in my nice, comfortable, home in Karmiel and with the most powerful, dedicated and holiest army in the Middle East watching my back. Does is it have any semblance of relevance to you living behind your picket fences and manicured lawns with your kosher restaurants, shtibels, synagogues and behind the wheel of your well air-conditioned, blue-toothed stereo new or leased car. Did it mean anything to the Jews of Germany, of Spain, of the Communist revolution, France, England, Babylonia, Morocco, Yemen, Syria and Africa. Or were they feeling just as comfortable as we do. Were they as excited as I am when there’s a new groom, or a bris in shul on Monday and Thursday and we don’t have to recite tachanun. When we don’t have to recite those words above that seem foreign to us.

This Shabbat is the 9th day of Av, we will eat, we will drink, we will sing songs. In the words of our sages one can have a feast like King Solomon in his times. But it’s Tisha B’Av? But our temples were destroyed? What about all of the tragedies? Shabbos there is no aveilus. There is no mourning. It’s like not reciting tachanun when we have a festive guest. On Shabbos we are afforded a taste of Olam Haba- the World to Come. On Shabbos we are halfway there to having our Beit Hamikdash back. Shabbos is the one day that I realize what life could be like when I am basking in the divine presence. There are no phone calls, no work worries, no obligations that take me away from connecting to my soul’s deepest desire to unite with my Creator, with my people, with my family, with the entire world in a song about Creation.

It is on Shabbos that I appreciate how much I am missing out on life during the weekday. During the week, I have to run out of davening, I have no time to learn, I am wiped after the day and have no patience for my family, my wife. I can’t think about the rest of the world because I am too busy taking care of everything that needs to be taken care of.  The messages I have to respond to, the responsibilities that consume us. Yet when those candles are lit an aura of tranquility rests on the world. I am uplifted. I close my eyes and sing Lecha Dodi and I for the first time truly long for a day that is always Shabbos. I long for the Mikdash. I come close to Hashem and want Him always with me from my table that is set like King Solomon’s; Shlomo HaMelech who built that first temple. I don’t need to sit on the floor and cry on Shabbos, I don’t want the Divine presence returned because I have it so bad. I want it because I have a small taste of how good it is and I want that ta’am- that flavor forever. I want the whole world to have it.

On Shabbos as well I connect to all of our history and ancestors. They may have not Shabbos clocks to turn on their lights, Air conditioners in their synagogues or crockpots for their chulent, but their Shabbos experience was not much different than mine. The Jews in even the worst conditions had that one day of tranquility. It started in Egypt when Moshe got us Shabbos off, recognizing that it was the key to us appreciating what redemption could be like. Jews in Babylonia, in Russia, in Spain even in the concentration camp testify that even if they were forced to do who knows what, Shabbos still brought with it some medium of hope of faith and yes even of respite. When I pray on Shabbos, when I look out at my Shabbos table, I think of the thousands of years that my people have “sung the song of Shabbos” to the world. And I think of a yom shekulo shabbos- a day and era that is all Shabbos. And I long for it.

Our Temples destruction, our exile from our land and all of the pain and tribulation our people have endured is because we have lost that feeling of the unity of the world that takes place on Shabbos. The lack of appreciation of the land of Israel that led to us to cry and wander in the wilderness upon hearing the report of the spies- that is mentioned in this week’s Torah portion of Devarim by Moshe in his final rebuke to our people, is a result of not appreciating how Eretz Yisrael is essential to achieving the Shabbos of the world. We can’t really have it without being here. The world won’t be one until we light those candles here. The idolatry, murder and abandonment of Hashem and the Torah which led to the destruction of the first Temple again resonates with the break of the nation with our Creator. We had Eretz Yisrael but we failed to connect it to Hashem. We didn’t have those songs of glory that bring that peace and harmony between Hashem and His people.

Finally the last Temple and the 2000 years of Exile that we suffer from. Yes, suffer even in times of tranquility. We suffer even though we may not feel, even though we may not even be persecuted. We suffer because there is no era of Shabbos in the world. We are plagued with sinat chinam, which although in the times of the Temple may have meant murder and Jews killing each other in civil wars, and thank God we have moved beyond that. But we have not yet heralded in an era of love harmony and peace that only the return of the shechina can bring.; That we can taste on Shabbos, when we are hearts and souls are open to one another and to the entire world. We are lacking an era when

(aleinu prayer) “Kol bnei basar yickri’u vishmecha-when all humanity will call out in your name, to turn the earth’s wicked to you…On that day Hashem will be one and His name will be one.”

It is a time when every Jew appreciates the essential role each of us has. When we can see the beauty in each other. When we can look at the entire world and realize that they all have a part of Creation. Each being is in the image of our Creator and we will see it as the whole world is sitting at a Shabbos table, just as my children sit around my Shabbos table and I see their beauty and blessing. That is what we don’t have. That is what we need to long and pray for on a Shabbos that is Tisha B’Av.

My brother sent me a beautiful little prayer from Rabbi Asher Weiss and I couldn’t not include it.
“May we have a litvishe head, a chasidishe heart, the honest and integrity of a yekke, the temimus and purity of a Hungarian (and their cooking- my addition) the honor of Torah and its scholars of a Sefardi and the love of Eretz Yisrael of a Religious Zionist”

The perfect Jew though is not one that has all of these. But one that is able to reveal the beauty of each of us and the Hashem in each of us. Let’s all have a Shabbos meal together. If we did perhaps we would then merit it together in Yerushalayim rebuilt with our Temple and our Father at the head of the table.

Have an amazingly holy Shabbos
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz


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RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

“Zi veynt mit tsibele-trern”- She's crying onion tears

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK
answer below at end of Email
Q. The stepped stone building in G area in the City of David is dated to the:
a. Late bronze – Iron age I
b. Early bronze age
c. Persian period
d. The Hasmonean period

RABBI SCHWARTZ COOL VIDEOS OF THE WEEK

https://youtu.be/5bw-lJlyuqA      - The Children are waiting

https://youtu.be/tAZ8zdMCiuQ  - Time to Wake up- if only….

https://youtu.be/JrCFXs8K8Vs - The Promise -the story of Torah in Space

https://youtu.be/ARikT-8lKos - For those that know me this is the song that never fails to bring tears to my eyes.


RABBI SCHWARTZ'S HAFTORA CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

Parshat Chazon – This is not a week for pulling punches. Moshe may have in his introduction to the parsha alluding to the sins by the names of the places that we camped, but he gets right into it afterwards lamenting the behavior of the people in their complaints, with the spies, and their lack of faith. In our haftorah Yeshaya doesn’t pull any punches. He is writing during the period when the ten tribes in the north were exiled and when Jerusalem and Yehudah were next on the slate for destruction and exile. And he gives it to them… to us…
“I have raised sons and they sinned against me. An ox knows its owner and a donkey his masters trough and Israel does not know my people does not comprehend.Woe a sinfulnation, apeople weighed down with inquity evil offspring, destructive children. They have forsaken Hashem, they have angered the Holyone of Israel and have turned their back to them”
And it gets worse. We are harlots, we have bloody hands, murderers, corrupt, thieves, every dirty name in the book. It’s Tisha B’Av. There’s no sugar coating today. As long as the Beis Hamikdash is destroyed it is as if we have destroyed it. The sins then are still haunting us. Sure we have more Torah and more services and more prayer than ever before, but the prophet tells us that
Ibid (1:11) “Why do I need your numerous sacrifices? Says Hashem…
Bring your worthless meal-offering no longer, it is the incense of abomination to Me, the new Moon and Sabbath and your calling of convocations, I cannot abide dishonesty with solemn assembly. My soul detests your New Moons and your holidays they have become a burden to me.”
Hashem wants us to be just to vindicate the innocent render justice to the orphan and care for the widows. It’s all about tzedaka. It’s all about taking care of the needy. The Torah the mitzvos, the holidays and the Shabbat are just means to get to the core which is taking care of one another. Ahavas Chinam. Loving our fellow man. Until we get that right, we are still missing the boat. We will still mourn and we will still not fulfill our mandate here on this world. It’s a rough read, but a necessary one. We read the haftorah with the Eicha mournful cantillation. If we allow the words of the prophet to inspire us then God willing this year Tisha B’Av will turn to a day of rejoicing as we have the Beit HaMikdash rebuilt.

Yeshaya Hanavi Era of Prophecy (780-700 BC)- Yeshayahu received his tradition in prophecy from his Rebbe the prophet Amos. The Baal Shem Tov suggests that the power of Yeshaya was that unlike the prophet Yirmiyahu who when he heard of the impending exile of the Jewish people did not pray for them. Yeshayahu, whose name means Hashem should preform salvation, would pray on behalf of the Jewish people. Which is why Yirmiyahu, ultimately suffered at the hands of the Jewish people when he was thrown into a pit whereas Yeshaya was treated with respect.

ABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK
70 date trees Eilim- 1312 BC-  The next stop leaving Egypt and after our first water crisis was in a place called Eilim, From there we entered into Midbar Sin- or the Sinai desert. The Torah tells us that there were 12 springs of water there and 70 date trees. The 12 obviously symbolic of the tribes and the 70 for the number of elders of the Jewish people.  Many archeologists and historians place this site to be El Arish in the Sinai Desert Others say that El Arish was Sukkot their first stop after leaving Egypt before the slitting of the Sea, but geographically that would be problematic-despite the fact that Arish is Arabic does mean Sukkas or huts. Currently it’s a great beach town in Egypt and the capital of the Sinai desert although for quite a bit of our modern history there were plenty of Jews there.

A few interesting factoids about the place are that it was actually proposed by Theodore Herzl to be the State of Israel and Jewish national homeland in 1903 when Palestine didn’t seem like a viable option. In 1948 the Israeli army came pretty close to there and it was almost ours. In 1956 the Sinai campaign it was actually under conquered and under Israel control until we gave it back after the war in our ceasefire agreement. Once again in 1967 it was under Israel control and then we held on to it until 1979 when Menachem Begin returned it to Anwar Sadat in the agreements ultimately destroying the Jewish settlements that were built there.

One place I don’t talk about Eilim is the yishuv Chad Nes that was built in the Golan heights to take in the members of the Sinai settlement that was there; Charuvit, Dikla, Neot Sinai Because Chad Nes never took in anyone from there. So I won’t mention it. On the other hand I do talk about the “girush- expulsion from Sinai when I drive through the Negev and pass points where we can see into Sinai near the Gaza border. As well no visit to the Begin museum in Jerusalem is complete without discussing the peace agreement and controversy that surrounded the return of Jewish although perhaps not biblical land. And finally I of course talk about the date palm trees whenever we are in the Dead Sea and Yericho Jordan valley area. Dates are known to grow the sweetest in the world in this area. The reason is because dates grow the best in the worse possible conditions. The Dead Sea has terrible earth, almost no rain and not a lot of agricultural minerals. And that’s why dates are the sweetest there. It’s also why Dovid Hamelech says that a tzadik grows like a tamar. A righteous person, doesn’t grow in the best conditions, yeshivos, communities[es1] , mikvas.the righteous person grows in the worst conditions out in the midbar where it is desolate. Only one person does the Tanach testify is a tzadik. Not Moshe, not Avraham, not Yaakov or Aharon. Noah-ish tzadik. Noach is the righteous person because he grows like a date tree in the worst conditions and the worst world.

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S JOKES  OF THE WEEK

It’s Tisha B’Av shame on you for even checking out this column…!
See ya next week J

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Answer is A– This one is easy although somewhat controversial. The two answers that are wrong ar of course the Early Bronze which pretty much goes back to briyas haolam as it is dated as 3500 BC or so. As well the Persian period is also incorrect coming after the first Temple destruction and they didn’t really build much here. Interesting enough the early archeologists to Israel being the minimalists that they were assumed that this huge structure in the Ir David was fortified in the 2nd Temple by the Chashmonaim that were fortifying Israel and its new expanded borders after the Temple rededication and Chanuka story. However most modern archeologists agree that the structure was certainly in use in the time of Dovid HaMelech and may be the Milo that was described that he filled up after conquering the cities. And many archeologists as well place it as being built by the Jebusites- Yevusim that lived in the city before it was conquered. It was perhaps where they taunted Dovid and his army with the blind and crippled people guarding the walls proclaiming their invincibility. Big mistake. Don’t mess with Hashem’s people. Either way the Yevusi or Dovid are both late Bronze early Iron period 1300-1000 BC.
I like when my weekly questions of the week happen to be timely (I take the questions in the order of the Tour guide Exam of the week). Certainly there is nothing more timely then going to the Ir Dovid to this area and seeing the burnt remains of the archives of Israel under the palace of Dovid Hamelech. May we soon see it rebuilt.

Friday, July 13, 2018

No Questions Asked - Matos Masey 2018 /5778


Insights and Inspiration
from the
Holy Land
from
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
"Your friend in Karmiel"
July 13th 2018 -Volume 8 Issue 38 1st Av 5778

Parshat Matot/Masei

No Questions Asked
 
“Are we almost there yet???”

 “How much longer will it be?”

“When are we going to get there already???”

Every parent’s favorite question to be asked generally twenty minutes or so upon embarking on a three hour trip. Usually that is followed with an “I have to go to the bathroom” or ‘He’s/She’s touching me…’ Fun, fun, fun…There’s nothing like quality family time cooped up in a car together for a few hours. Who remembers the good old days packing everyone in the old station wagon, with a few kids in the ‘spaceship’-my father’s ingenious way of making us want to sit in the back-back before the world realized that this was very very dangerous. We barely had air conditioning, the 8-track cassette player would inevitably get broken, and my mother would have us play I-spy or some find the license plate game. Sure we fought and sure we asked the traditional how-much-longer questions. But they were simpler times. We didn’t even dream that there would be a day when we would be able to watch movies in the car on a tablet, with our own personalized climate control and listen to songs on our own little pocket headphones. But if we had dreamed of that, I’m sure we would never think that we would ever complain about our trips. That we would ever ask how much longer it would be. We probably wouldn’t even need to go to the bathroom or eat. Yet whadaya know? They still ask. The questions it seems are eternal ones. Will they ever end? And there I go again.

The truth is as a tour guide I get this question more often than then the usual family traveler. That’s because I pretty much do this every day with families. There are some kids that are a bit shy to ask me the question for the first 20 minutes or so. So they ask their parents who would never answer that question in their own cars or family trips. Parents learn very quickly that the question is a rhetorical one. The child is not asking for a time frame so they can plan out the rest of their day. They are merely figuring out how much is kvetching is necessary to aggravate the parent, and whether they should immediately start the kvetching or space it out meaningfully over the next undisclosed period of time. Yet when it is on a tour bus, the parents seem to forget their role, and quickly and immediately pass the question on to the tour guide to answer. I of course do not fall into that trap. I give my father’s sagely answer. “We will get there when we get there.” But… But…. But… But when will that be?” the persistent continue to ask. “It will be when we get there. Not a second before or a second after. Exactly when we get there.”  And so the tour continues. They don’t know if it’s worth kvetching or not. They certainly aren’t dreading or trying to figure out how long this may be. They appreciate that they are in for the ride and may as well have fun as we travel and the journey continues.

We sing songs, I point out things, I tell stories, make jokes and before you know it we are here. OK some of them just stick their headphones back in and go to sleep. But that’s just the parents J The kids at least I have engaged. At least till the next time we get back in the car.
This week’s Torah portion called Masei begins with the travels of the Jewish people; our family trip of forty years in the wilderness. One wonders how many times the children asked ‘how much longer?’ The forty nine verses that recount our 42 different travels and encampments over the forty years do not recall any of the incredible incidents that took place during those 40 years. No mention of the giving of the Torah, the sin of the golden calf, the spies, Korach, Bilam. Nothing at all. Just names and places. There is one glaring and perplexing exception though. Three entire verses that tell us of one seemingly minor incident. Bamidbar (33:37-40)

“And they traveled from Kadesh and he camped at Har Hahar at the edge of the land of Edom. And Aharon the Kohen went up to Har HaHar by the mouth of Hashem and he died there in the fortieth year from the children of Israel going out of Egypt”

Yes. The death of Aharon is the only incident that the Torah felt it was necessary to mention. But it does not just end with his death. The Torah continues and tells us when this took place

“In the fifth month on the first of the month, And Aharon was 123 years old when he died on Har Hahar.”

In case you’re not familiar with the Jewish calendar that is the first of the month of Av. In other words today is the yahrzeit of Aharon. Not only is it today, but each year the Parsha of Masei is always read on the week of his yahrzeit. We even caught up with you slow-pokes in America and the diaspora in honor of the yahrzeit. Incidentally this is the only person in the entire Torah that the Torah explicitly tells us when he died. It doesn’t tell us when Adam died, not Avraham, not Moshe, not any of the 12 tribes. Just Aharon. Strange.

The Torah then continues

“And the Canaani the king of Arad herad and he dwelled in the south of the land of Canaan whne the children of Israel came”

Rashi notes that this is coming to tell us that the death of Aharon is what he heard, and that {as a result of that} the clouds of glory had departed and he thought that it was given permission to battle Israel.

Why Aharon? Why is this the only incident? What is the significance of telling us about this particular reason for Canaan attacking us? We had many nations attacking us in the wilderness, many battles.

The Midrash Yalkut Shimoni goes at length to describe the death of Aharon. Hashem commands Moshe to tell Aharon of his impending death and Moshe engages in Aharon in a discussion about his death. He asks him how he feels that because of the sin of Adam death was instituted in the world. Aharon responded that it is the decree of Hashem and we must accept it. Moshe continued asking him and if Hashem decreed that you must die in a hundred years how would you feel. He said I would accept the judgement. And if he said it would be today? Aharon responded that he would bless the Dayan Emet- the True Judge who thus decreed. Moshe then took him up the mountain. The Midrash describes how the angels in heaven clamored at the sight. Hashem pointed out the similarity of the scene to none other than the binding of Yitzchak. Just as there Avraham brings his son up. Yitzchak and Avaraham both know that he is going to his death and he accepts without questions. He stretches out his neck. He is ready to accept the will of his Creator. No questions asked.

Aharon as well goes up. With him is his younger brother Moshe and his son Elazar. Moshe removes his clothing, he places them on his son. Yet there are no questions. Aharon is one with his Creator. Aharon ends his career just as he began his career. Remember back in Egypt. Aharon was certainly the leader and the future of the Jewish people, yet when his younger brother Moshe returns. His brother who was raised in an Egyptian house. His brother who had fled the country for forty years and married the daughter of a Midianite priest. Aharon not only steps down, he accepts and greets Moshe with love and joy for his brother who would be taking the role of leadership. No questions asked.

Later on perhaps the high moment of our history the day that the tabernacle is dedicated and his two children are killed by a heavenly fire. The Torah tells us two words about Aharon. Vayidom Aharon- and Aharon is silent. He accepted the world of his Creator. He appreciate and is perhaps the greatest teacher of the idea that we ae mere travelers in this world. In His world. Whatever happens is because Hashem is leading us. He’s the tour guide. Our job is not to question, rather it is to be from the students of Aharon as our Pirkey Avot teaches us. To be lovers of peace. To see in each human being a fellow journeyer. Someone we can bring close to our Father in heaven. A way of life that removes all personal agenda and that lives in harmony with our Creator and with one another.

The Torah reiterates the story of our journey in the wilderness, Rashi in the beginning of the Torah portion tells us to teach us that Hashem is the one that is leading us like a father leads his son and is bringing him back from being healed. Our wanderings, Rashi notes, are divided into our leaving of Egypt until the spies-14 travels. 20 travels over the next 38 years and 8 travels after the death of Aharon. The death of Aharon is the transformation point. It is when our journey leaves the clouds of glory and yet we have learned and are able to stand on our own faith. The yahrzeit and passing of Aharon on the month of Av gave us that power of faith. The mourning for his death and the subsequent commitment to maintaining his legacy is the power that is just as potent as the clouds of glory. For they are the ultimate clouds of glory. The sukkat shalom -the tents of peace that unite and protect us.

The Canaani thought we had lost it. They reacted. Their job-as our sages tell us they were really Amalekites were to create doubt. To ask questions. How much longer? Will you survive? Yet our journey continued just as before. With Hashem leading us. With the faith that Aharon had embedded to us forever in our hearts and souls. And that journey still continues today. We enter the saddest month of the year of Av with the death of Aharon and the reading of his death. As we prepare and even escalate our level of mourning, we are meant to find hope and see redemption in that mourning. On Tisha B’Av every year we recount all of the tragedies of the Jewish people throughout the millennia since our Temples were destroyed. We don’t question. We don’t accuse. We cry. We mourn and we recognize that we are being led on a journey ultimately back to our home. Back to His Temple. That is the legacy of Aharon. May we see that ultimate journey reach its final glorious conclusion this year.

Have a Chodesh Av Tov and a blessed Shabbos
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz


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RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

“Besser mit a klugen in gehenem aider mit a nar in ganaiden”- It’s better to be with a wise man in hell than with a fool in paradise.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK
answer below at end of Email
Q. According to the Biblical text, Channa prayed in:
a. Mitzpah
b. Shiloh
c. Rama
d. Bethel

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S HAFTORA CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

Parshat Matos Maaasey – As we are in the period of mourning of the Temple we read that haftoras of mourning from the prophet Yirmiyahu. Yirmiyahu who lives at the period before the destruction of the second Temple, is horrified, aghast and extremely verbose about the disappointment he and Hashem has with his sinning Nation.
(2:12)  Be appalled, O heavens, at this. Be horrified, utterly dazed!”
Reading the Haftora one keeps hearing the question that Yirmiyahu keeps describing to the Jewish people of how they question the existence of God and instead fill up their water in broken up cisterns. ie: false gods and idols. Know any Jews like that today? That search in other religions for meaning and purpose not realizing that we have it all here. He doesn’t pull punches, he blames the priests, the prophets, Kings and leaders. They are all culpubae they all have abandoned the God who has done so much for them. Who has taken them out of Egypt and saved them from all troubles. Yet we have ignored the Mussar and the rebuke. These are the messages that we are mean to reflect upon. These messages are eternal as we continue to fail to merit to bring the Messianic era and the return to Jerusalem rebuilt with the Beit Hamikdash.

Yirmiyahu (590 BC) – One of the last prophets of the first temple. Yirmiyahu prophesied for the last kings of Yehuda Yoshiayahu the righteous King, and his following kings Yehoachaz, Yehoyachin, and for the 11 years of King Tzedkiyahu who was captured and exiled by Babylonians. Yirmiyahu certainly living in one of the most tragic periods of our downfall’s prophecies are full of rebuke trying to get the people to repent and avoid the impending destruction.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

Marah bitter waters- 1312 BC-  Our first stop outside of Egypt the Torah tells us was in a place with bitter waters named Marah. Moshe throws a stick in and the water turns sweet. This site is not in Israel of today but in the Sinai Desert not far from the Suez Canal. Archeologists identify it with the “small bitter Lake” north of Suez and others with spring known as Ein Musa- or Moses’s spring. Being that it is in Egypt I can’t really show either place to you. However, I can definitely take you and show you some of the incredible “miraculous desalinization plants we have here in Israel. Israel has three plants in Ashkelon, Hadera and Sorek near Tel Aviv. We are the leading country in the world in alternate water resources. With over 600 million cubic meters of water annually. In a nut shell the way it works is that water is shot through membranes that are very thin and the salt stays behind and the water is clean drinking water. We will soon be exporting water to other needy countries.
In addition we are the leading country in water recycling. 86 percent of the water that flushes down the drain here is reused for agriculture after it has been “’purified” by little parasites that eat up all the sewage. That second largest country to do this is Spain and they only recycle 19 percent of the water. You can visit the plants at Shafdan near Tel Aviv and see this amazing process. So no we don’t have miraculous sticks to throw into water. But seemingly the first challenge hashem gave us was to deal with water challenges and B”H he gave us the wisdom and technology to perform miracles in this arid region.

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S JEWISH HELL JOKES  OF THE WEEK

Yankel feels all lucky that he is at the Super bowl game. This is the most sold out game of the year.
He had been sacicng up and waiting for years and managed to get best seats in the front row. But as he sat down he noticed that there's an empty seat in the row behind them. When intermission comes and no one has sat in that seat, He notices it’s his friend Berel sitting next to the empty seat and asks, "I hate to bother you but I was wondering why that seat is empty."
The woman says, "That's my late wife's seat."
Yankel is horrified and apologises for being so insensitive. But a few minutes later, he turns around again.
"Without meaning to be rude or anything, this is an incredibly hard game to get into. Surely you must have a friend or a relative who would have wanted to come and see the show?"
Berel nods, but explains, "They're all at the shiva."

Maurice was a good, well-respected elderly Boro Park man. He felt that death was close and asked his sons to take him to the Holy Land, to die there and be buried in Jerusalem.
The loving sons did as he asked, brought him to Jerusalem, put him in a hospital and waited for death to come. However, once in Jerusalem Maurice started to feel better and better and after a few weeks was again strong, healthy and full of life.
He called upon his sons and said: "Quickly, take me back to Boro Park."
The sons were somehow disappointed and asked: "Father, how come? You said you want to die in the Holy Land and be buried in Jerusalem!'
"Yes," answered Maurice, to die it's OK but to live here....!?"

Shlomo goes to Doctor Lewis for a check up. After extensive tests Doctor Lewis tells him, "I'm afraid I have some bad news for you. You only have six months to live."
Shlomo is dumbstruck. After a while he replies, "That's terrible doctor. But I must admit to you that I can't afford to pay your bill."
"Ok," says Doctor Lewis, "I'll give you a year to live."
Arnold had reached the age of 105 and suddenly stopped going to synagogue.
Worried by Arnold's absence after so many years of faithful attendance, his Rabbi went to see him. He found him in excellent health, so the Rabbi asked, "How come after all these years we don't see you at services anymore?"
Arnold looked around and lowered his voice. "I'll tell you, Rabbi," he whispered. "When I got to be 90, I expected God to take me any day. But then I got to be 95, then 100, then 105. So I figured that God is very busy and must have forgotten about me and I don't want to remind him."
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Answer is C– So all the answers are biblical cities Mitzpa is where the tragic story of the Pilegesh of Giva takes place, as well as where Shmuel judged the people and where Shaul was anointed King. Rama is the burial place of Shmuel and some attribuite to being where Nebi Samuel is. Beth El is also a city where Shmuel would go out from to judge the nation besides being the place where Yaakov had his dream and later on the King Yeravam had a Mikdash. Get the theme here? These are all Shmuel oriented answers, as Chana was the mother of Shmuel. She prayed for his birth in the Mishkan in Shilo though and the High Priest Eli thought she was drunk at the time. A great place to visit by the way.

Wednesday, July 22, 2015

Imagining the Imaginable-Devarim/Chazon 5775/2015

Insights and Inspiration
from the
Holy Land
from
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
"Your friend in Karmiel"

July 24th 2015 -Volume 5, Issue 37 8th of Av 5775
*(SEE BOTTOM OF E-MAIL FOR SPECIAL LAWS OF WHEN TISHA BAV FALLS ON SHABBOS)
Parshat Devarim/Chazon

Imagining the Imaginable

We live in a world of imitation stuff. We’ve got fake sugar to put in our coffee. Fake designer clothes and watches. I’ve been eating these fake burgers and chicken stuff made out of soy, tofu or some other things all week long. I miss my cow. I have a friend of mine that was complaining to me about how his fake plants died the other week, because he forgot to pretend to water them… No, but seriously When our sages describe this world as an Alma Di’Shikra- a world of falsehood as oppsed to the Worldto Come as the Olam Ha’Emes the World of Truth, I don’t think that they were referring to the notion that when I go shopping in the supermarket half the foods there are imitation something or other, or that when I walk down the street half the people are not really who they seem to be- their hair color might come out of a bottle or be covered up by a wig or toupee, their face is makeup or cream, even their tan could come out of a bottle. Sometimes I think my belly is the only thing real around. And I do mean a round.

This fake world that were living in extends of course to the Political realm. We have fake leaders that are not leading anyone rather they are following the masses and the polls to wherever hole we may be burying ourselves in. We have a fake United Nations that was formed to insure world peace and instead seems to be united in only one thing, bringing the world to its Jihad fulfillment and to passing resolutions against Israel. We have world media spreading fake stories about our country, supposed brutality by the most humane army in the history of military warfare. We murderers and terrorists and despots who have regimes that persecute it’s citizens and that keep them impoverished and that treat women with less respect and freedom that they do their own dogs, that are presented to the world as peace makers and humanitarians worthy of peace prizes and sympathy. All the while decrying Israel and threatening them with boycott and divestment and arming our enemies. Falsehood and malicious accusations and double standards are the world that we live in.

The truth is the global and political worlds and outlook is merely a reflection of each of our personal worlds. Entertainment today is watching imaginary people, have imaginary dramas to generally happily ever after endings. Kids and way too many adults are sending me invites to play some silly games that consist of angry birds and farming some sheep. Secular music is about fantasy love songs at best and much more damaging and illicit behavior that has become normalized at worse. People have “friends” that they “like” and sometimes “poke” and share silly details of their existence with and they still are able to wake up in the morning and look at themselves in the mirror and feel that they have healthy lifestyles and social interactions. We are no longer living in a real world, it’s not even a virtual world anymore. It’s just fake, artificial, and one big plastic universe that has eaten away the core of our soul and our humanity. The robots have taken over and we are them.
The process of this fake world many can and will attribute it to the last half century or so. Old timers remember the good old days when kids would play in the park, when the news was meaningful and people were engaged in the pursuit of something higher than their immediate gratification as fake and fleeting as it might be. And to a certain degree they are correct. The world used to be different. Although it could be argued that things weren’t always happy and healthy back then as well. The world was perhaps repressed more, but under the surface and in different periods and eras all had their fleeting fake worlds that were never truly a connection to Emes- to the creating a society where our souls and our worlds were working in synch. Where meaningful true relationships built upon values that tap into the essence of what we are here for, are what is the guiding force of how we lead our lives and is the fuel that drives the worlds existence. From the Greeks who spoke about philosophy and meaning out of one side of their mouths while pursuing every imaginable form of hedonism, to the Romans and their barbarism, to the “religious” zealotry of our Christian and Muslim cousins as they massacred and decimated the world in the name of their fake God created in the image of their fake prophets and religious leaders. Not that the atheists, communists, and Nazis were any better in their pursuits of a utopian society and the early Puritans in the States were no great picnic either ask the “witches” and slaves. It’s pretty much been a lousy world for a long time. Little islands of sanity in a sea of tears, wars and the obfuscation of truth and the world that Hashem had planned for us.

It’s been so bad for so long it’s hard to think about how it could be; how it should be. Not to steal from a guy that had a band named after an annoying household bug, but “Can you imagine a world” with the Temple rebuilt? Whereas he imagined a world without a heaven or hell below us and nothing to kill or die for and ohhh no religion too. Rather a brotherhood of Man sharing the whole world as one and being dreamers together, I also have a dream. But my dream, the Jewish dream is of a world quite different than I believe most people want to even consider dreaming about. I dream of a world without religions but certainly with a heaven. A world that is connected to our Father who lives there and who also has a place over here on a small mountain top in Jerusalem. I dream about the brotherhood of the Jewish people uniting in that one mission of bringing Hashem’s glory to the world. I long for the day when we finally realize we are a family and that there are different paths towards sanctifying our Fathers name in this world, but that all of them revolve around us observing all the words of His Torah, the parts that govern our daily lifestyles in the way we interact with one another and the way that we connect with Him. There are no more denominations in this glorious world I dream of, no religious and no secular, no Jew more holy or privileged than another, just as there is no one part of a body that is more privileged or holier than another.

In this world, families uplift one another, our souls connect with one another, the betterment and love we feel for each other is as natural as the betterment and love of ourselves. Mankind as a whole looks at that model Godly universe we have created here, around our Temple in the land Hashem repeatedly has told us is the only place where this is meant to happen, and in turn finally sees us as the light we are meant to be, as the emissaries to the nations and as the empire of Priests who have been charged and chosen to create that reality that will bring the world to its ultimate glory. The Supreme Court will declare that Jerusalem is not only the capital of Israel, but that it is the capitol of the world. The United Nations will truly be united in the principle that Hashem is Echad, the only true force that can create unity. Ein Od Milvado- There is none besides Him and everything is Him. It is the one soul we all share. It is the only thing that can truly bring the brotherhood that will be true.

I am dreaming. No, neither are you. At least not if you’re a religious Jew. You’re praying. For this. Each Rosh Hashana, when you daven the Shmona Esrei the above is almost a word for word translation of those prayers. Each Friday night when you sing Lecha Dodi and recite the Psalms preceding it, the vision of Hashem’s reign upon the world and a Jerusalem rebuilt from the ashes is all you are singing about. Every time we recite an after blessing over bread, every Jewish wedding and every Bris these are the prayers and blessings we make. Three times a day we daven and map out this world. We just don’t always see it. There is a time that you can see it though. That time, Rebbe Levi Yitzchak of Beriditchev says, is this Shabbos; Shabbat Chazon, the Shabbos of vision. It is not just a Shabbos when we read the vision of Isaiah of the impending destruction of the Temple and our exile during his times. But it is also the time when we can actually visualize the Temple being built and the world finally being perfect.

It has been said that one doesn’t really appreciate or see things clearly until they have been taken away from us. No one loves their parents or appreciates them more than when they are sitting Shiva for them, tragically enough-(it should be after 120 years). This week have been sitting Shiva. Mourning for the world that isn’t. Remembering what it was meant to be. What it could be. What we can bring it to. This year in particular Tisha B’Av falls out on Shabbat and our sages note that although, the fast is pushed off until Sunday. Yet one can fulfill the mourning and loss of the Temple through the celebration of life and joy that Shabbos, which transforms the world and is a taste of that World of Truth, can bring. In fact the Mishnaic sage Rabbi Yehudah is of the opinion and rules that once Tisha B’Av has been postponed it is gone, one does not have to mourn again or even fast on the following day. His ruling was not accepted by the sages, perhaps because they did not feel we could truly take this Shabbos and envision in our joy and celebration the perfection of the world that will be restored to a “day when everything is Shabbos”.
Yet I believe we can. We won’t have to fast this Tisha B’Av if we can all not just imagine but really visualize the perfection of a world that has Shabbos. A world that is united. A world that will unequivocally speak truth and lead civilization to our glorious future. It’s time for the imagination to turn into a vision, for our prayers to lead to our actions, our home to become Divine.
“You may say I'm a dreamer
But I'm not the only one
I hope some  this day you'll join us
And the world will live as one”
 
Have a Shabbos of eternity and a Chodesh that truly is Menachem our Av-that consoles our Father,
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
  
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RABBI SCHWARTZ'S VIDEOS OF THE WEEK

A Different kind of Imagine

The children are ready

  Great Rabbi Orlofsky Tisha B’av

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RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK
While in the states I picked up a great book with yiidsh quotes and wisdom and I have always wanted to teach my kids Yiddish so here we go each week another great proverb in yiddish maybe you guys will learn it too!!

“Vos lenger a blinder lebt, alts mer zet er”-  The longer a blind man lives, the more he sees.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S FAVORITE QUOTES  OF THE WEEK
"The whole religious complexion of the modern world is due to the absence from Jerusalem of a lunatic asylum” -Thomas Paine

.“From the time of the destruction of the Temple, Hashem has left his palace in heaven and awaits outside, until his children will rebuild his Temple in Jerusalem”- Zohar

“Rav Lach, Shabbos, B’Emek Habacha, Vhu Yachmol Alayich Chemla-Great is you- the Shabbos- that falls out in the valley of tear-ie Tisha B’av- for it is from you that we will have the mercy for the redemption”- Maor VaShemesh-Rav Kloynamous Kalman Epstien

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK
(New exam this week these questions are from the most recent tour guide exam-let’s see how I do)
answer below at end of Email
The words of the vision of the “dry bones” were found at
A.    Hurkiniya
B.     Tekoa
C.     Migdal
D.    Masada
.RABBI SCHWARTZ'S COOL MIDRASH OF THE WEEK
The special Haftora of Chazon is the beginning of the prophecy of the book of Isaiah-Yeshaya Hanavi. The Midrash tells us that Yeshaya’s prophecy began on the day that a great earthquake took place in Jerusalem. It seems that the king Uziya at the time, got it in his mind that he would bring the daily sacrifice in the Temple, something that is of course only permitted for the Kohen to do. When the Kohanim tried to stop him, Hashem stepped in and caused a huge earthquake that split the Temple Mount. Also an angel came down and made the King into a Leper where he had to flee and was never heard from again. On that day Hashem asked who will be my prophet to admonish the Jewish People-my children. When Yeshaya/Isaiah volunteered for the position.
 Hashem said “I sent Micha and the prophet and the people did nothing but slap him. I sent Amos the prophet to rebuke them and all they did was ridicule him for his stammer. Isaiah, My children are rebellious and a great burden. If you are willing to be humiliated and beaten by them, you can go on my mission. If not, I cannot send you.”  
Yeshaya responded “I fully accept this condition ‘I surrender my body tot hsoe who smite me, my cheek to those who pull out the hairs of my beard (50:6).
So Hashem responded that Yeshaya has ‘chosen righteousness’ – “To make my children more righteous. ‘And you have despised evil’-to see my children as evil. Therefore I have anointed you above all my other prophets. Whereas all other prophets will be guided by a human master, you will be guided by Me. Whereas all other prophet’s will speak in single phrases yours will be in double phrases-as it says Arouse Arouse, I will rejoice, I will rejoice in God, I am, I am your comforter, Console, Console, My people.. And thus his prophecy begins..
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RABBI SCHWARTZ'S COOL THINGS TO DO IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK-
That Yonah doesn’t think I can come up with each week…
Experience first hand the destruction of our Temple – Jews have been mourning the destruction of our Temples for over 2000 years in every country we have ever been in exiled to. Yet with the return of the Jewish people to our homeland on one hand we feel closer to the redemption. Yet on the other hand there is no place more prominent than to experience the destruction than in Jerusalem. One need only look up to our holy mountain and see that monstrosity that stands proudly where our Temple is meant to be a house of prayer for all nations. One can tour underneath the ruins of the old city and literally see ashes from the burnt city. One can walk along the southern wall and see the remains of the rocks of the Temple mount walls that had been cast down precisely as described by our sages into the streets below. Perhaps most moving-although I have never experienced it-although I have been told, is to recite the Kinos lamentations from the top of Herodian the exact spot where Jews stood and watched the Temple burning while the destruction was here. The Talmud says he who mourns the Temple merit to see it be rebuilt. Here in Israel God willing will be the best place to experience that happening as well. God willing it should be this year.

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RABBI SCHWARTZ'S NO JOKES OF THE WEEK
No Jokes this week…shame on you for looking for them…
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Answer is D: If you had to ask me what is one of the most moving and amazing finds in Israel it would be this scroll with the prophecy of Yechezkel/Ezekiel that describes a field of dead dry bones come to life again in the Messianic period. What makes this so amazing is that this scroll was found as Yigal Yadin was excavating on Masada, the place where the Romans thought they had wiped us off the face the earth. We were dry dead bones. And then wadda boom wadda bing less than 25 years after the holocaust the Jews have returned to this exact place and have dug up the ruins and out of the ground comes this scroll with the words of the prophecy. An E-Mail from God. Our Rabbis tell us that we have more prophecy today than they had 3000 years ago. For they had to take the prophecies on faith while we are living the fulfillment. May all the prophecies of our redemption likewise be fulfilled.
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Due to the many requests Here is a posting for the unique laws of Tisha'a B'Av which falls out on Shabbos and is postponed to Sunday. Everyone should feel free to ask their own local Rabbi for guidance This is just the general orthodox Ashkenazic tradition for observances of the day of the destruction of the Temple.Of course the primary obligation is remember the destruction and mourn its loss.

When Tisha B'Av falls on Shabbat or Sunday 
by Rabbi Elozor Barclay and Rabbi Yitzchok Jaeger 

Special laws that apply when the Tisha B'Av observance begins on Saturday night.

Note: The following laws are based on Ashkenazi tradition, and some points are subject to varying opinion. When in doubt, AYLOR (ask your local Orthodox rabbi)

1. What are the main changes when Tisha B'Av falls on Shabbat or Sunday?

When Tisha B'Av falls on Shabbat, the main changes are:

The fast is postponed until Sunday. 
Marital relations are forbidden on Friday night. 
Washing any part of the body with hot water fro pleasure is forbidden on Shabbat. 
There is no special Seuda Hamafseket before the fast. 
Some of the laws of Tisha B'Av begin only at nightfall on Saturday night, instead of at sunset. 
Havdalah is postponed until Sunday night. 
2. When Tisha B'Av falls on Shabbat and is postponed until Sunday, is the preceding week considered as "the week in which Tisha B'Av occurs"?

There are different opinions about this. Therefore:

One should be strict about this concerning laundering and haircuts.

One may be lenient about matters concerning cutting nails and making clothes. As for meat and wine, Sefardim could eat without restriction; for Ashkenazim certain leniencies apply (for example, regarding who can eat meat at a Bris). 

3. May a woman immerse in a mikveh on Friday night that is Tisha B'Av?

Yes. In this case, marital relations are permitted.

4. Are there any changes to the prayers in this situation?

Tzidkas'cha is not said at Mincha.

Pirkei Avot is not said at Mincha.

5. May one hold a public kiddush on this Shabbat?

If the kiddush can be held on a different Shabbat, it is preferable to defer it.

If the kiddush cannot be held on a different Shabbat -- e.g. for an aufruff (groom prior to his wedding), it is permitted.

6. May one eat meat and drink wine at the Shabbat meals?

Yes. This is permitted even at Seuda Shlishit.

7. May one invite guests to the Shabbat meals?

Yes. However, one should not invite guests for Seuda Shlishit unless he does so regularly.

8. May one sing zemirot at the Shabbat meals?

Yes. This is permitted even at Seuda Shlishit.

9. May one go for a stroll on this Shabbat?

When the ninth of Av is Shabbat, one may not go for a stroll at any time of the day.

10. May one visit family or friends?

No.

11. May one learn Torah on this Shabbat?

Before halachic midday, it is permitted to learn Torah.

After halachic midday, many opinions permit learning Torah. If a person can limit himself to the topics that are permitted on Tisha B'Av, it is praiseworthy.

It is permitted to read the weekly parsha and its translation all day.

12. May one take pills on Shabbat to alleviate the pains of fasting?

It is permitted to take them on Shabbat until sunset only if they are mixed with a food or drink. One should preferably prepare the mixture before Shabbat.

One may take them without water even on Saturday night, unless they are pleasant tasting.

13. May a communal Seuda Shlishit be held in shul?

No. Everyone should eat at home.

14. Are there any changes to Seuda Shlishit?

Although any food may be served, including meat and wine, and zemirot may be sung, the mood should be somewhat subdued.

A person should not say that he is eating in order to have strength to fast, but he may think this.

One must stop eating and drinking before sunset, since the fast begins at this time. People should be reminded about this, as it is unlike a regular Shabbat.

15. Must one say Grace After Meals before sunset?

It is permitted to say the Grace after sunset, but one should try to wash mayim acharonim (after waters) before sunset, if possible.

16. May one say Grace After Meals with a 3-man zimun?

Yes (unlike when the eve of Tisha B'Av falls on a regular weekday, where one should not make a zimun).

17. May one eat or drink after Seuda Shlishit?

If one said Grace After Meals before sunset, one may eat or drink until sunset. It is not necessary to have this in mind when saying Grace After Meals.

18. Which prohibitions of Tisha B'Av commence at sunset?

All the prohibitions except wearing shoes and sitting on a chair commence at sunset. These two activities are permitted until nightfall.

19. When should one change one's shoes and Shabbat clothes?

There are two customs:

Some go to shul before nightfall and begin Ma'ariv at the usual time of Saturday night. The chazzan should say "baruch hamavdil bein kodesh lechol," remove his shoes, and then say "barchu." The congregation should respond to "barchu" and then remove their shoes. Care must be taken not to touch one's shoes when removing them. The Shabbat clothes are not removed until one returns home after Ma'ariv. This is the prevalent custom in the Diaspora.

Some shuls delay the commencement of Ma'ariv, allowing people to remain at home until nightfall. At the time of nightfall, everyone should say the phrase "baruch hamavdil bein kodesh lechol," remove his shoes, and change into weekday clothes before Ma'ariv. This is the prevalent custom in Israel.

20. According to the first custom, may one bring Tisha B'Av footwear to shul before Ma'ariv?

Even if there is an eiruv this is forbidden, since one may not prepare on Shabbat for after Shabbat. It is also forbidden to change one's shoes before going to shul, since this is disgracing the Shabbat. It is therefore advisable to leave suitable footwear in shul before Shabbat to wear after Shabbat.

21. Is the blessing recited over the spices?

No. It is forbidden to smell spices, since a person must refrain from such a pleasure on Tisha B'Av.

22. Is the blessing recited over a Havdalah candle?

Yes. According to one custom, it is recited in shul before the reading of Lamentations. According to another custom, it is recited at home before Ma'ariv, if there is time. According to some opinions, the blessing should be recited over two regular candles and not over a braided Havdalah candle.

23. May one wash the Shabbat dishes on Saturday night?

No. They may not be washed until Tisha B'Av afternoon.

24. Should a person who is not fasting recite Havdalah before eating?

Yes. However, if he only needs to drink water throughout the fast, he should not recite Havdalah.

25. Should such a person recite Havdalah immediately after Shabbat or wait until he needs to eat?

He should wait until he needs to eat.

26. Which sections of Havdalah are recited?

The introductory verses and the blessing over spices should be omitted. The blessing over a candle should be omitted if he already recited or heard it at the termination of Shabbat, or if he is reciting Havdalah during the day.

27. Should Havdalah be recited over wine, grape juice, or another drink?

According to most opinions, beer is the most preferred drink.

If this is not possible, some opinions prefer the use of a drink that has national importance. (A rabbi should be consulted to ascertain which drinks qualify for this purpose.) Other opinions question the use of such drinks, and prefer the use of grape juice.

If nothing else is available, wine may be used.

28. If wine or grape juice is used, should the cup be given to a child to drink?

If a child above the age of six is available, the cup should be given to him.

If not, the person who recites Havdalah should drink the cup himself.

29. How much of the cup should be drunk?

A cheekful only.

30. Are children obligated to recite Havdalah before they eat?

According to most opinions, they do not recite Havdalah before eating.

31. After the fast, may one eat or drink before Havdalah?

With the exception of water, it is forbidden to eat or drink anything before Havdalah.

32. Which drink should be used for Havdalah?

One should use wine or grape juice. The person who recites Havdalah should drink the cup himself.

33. Which parts of Havdalah are recited?

Only the two blessings "borei p'ri hagafen" and "hamavdil." The introductory verses are omitted, as are the blessings over the spices and candle.

34. When are the various restrictions lifted?

Some are permitted immediately upon completion of the fast (e.g. bathing, laundry and haircuts), while others remain prohibited until the following morning (meat, wine and music).

Excerpted from "Guidelines" - over 400 commonly asked questions about the Three Weeks (Targum/Feldheim).