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Thursday, November 14, 2024

The Avraham Accords - Parshat Vayeira 2024 5785

 Insights and Inspiration

from the

Holy Land

from

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

"Your friend in Karmiel"

November 15th 2024 -Volume 14 Issue 3 14th of Cheshvan 5785

 

Parshat Vayeira

 

The Avraham Accords

 

He went through a personal Holocaust. He survived being thrown into the ovens, but his brother didn’t. He had family members kidnapped. He was mocked and persecuted wherever he went. His own wife was taken to be abused across the borders. To Egypt. To Gaza. Only a miracle saved her. Miracles that he saw daily and that he dedicated his life to teaching the world about.

 

He wasn’t going to let the evil bring him down to their level. He was going to plant trees of life instead.  He was going to fill the world with kindness and light. For only light can chase away the darkness. There was no one too evil that he didn’t feel could be reached and reveal the spark of holiness and godliness hidden within. That love, kindness and forgiveness couldn’t motivate them to return and be saved. Love conquers all. The power of Torah will return everyone. The world can be fixed.  But he was wrong. So so very wrong…

 

His first wake up in call in this week’s parsha, is when Hashem appears to Avraham, our forefather, the first Jew in the history of the world. did you think I was talking about some Kibbutznik, Holocaust survivor that was a left-wing peacenik? Yes… let’s try to reframe the parsha and story of this first Jew and the lessons he had to learn to become our Patriarch so it’s relevant to us today as it’s meant to be. The first lesson Hashem teaches him is that there are some people that are beyond saving. Love doesn’t conquer all. The city of Sodom and its neighbors need to be wiped off the face of the earth. There is no saving grace whatsoever. Fire and brimstone is all they deserve. It’s the only option

 

There may be people there that are innocent civilians. Imaginably the infants, babies and I’m sure even most of the women and children and probably quite a few men weren’t evil. Weren’t terrorists. Yet at the same time they weren’t tzadikim. They were certainly by no means righteous individuals. For the city to be saved when there’s a terrible stink there, when it is evil at it’s core, there needs to be at least ten holy righteous tzadikim in it. If there aren’t ten on that high level. If there aren’t ten that are willing to stand up and decry the actions of the evil-doers and that haven’t fallen under the influence of the regime. Even if they didn’t vote for them, but at the same time they didn’t vote against them or decry or rebuke them… Then the city must burn. They all must die. Avraham, Hashem tells him, understand that evil can’t always be turned. Sometimes it just needs to be eradicated.

 

This is not an easy lesson to understand for someone that went through persecution, horror and genocide and that had dreams of a better world. Yet this is the perquisite to him becoming the father of Yitzchak. It’s a lesson that he needed to learn five minutes after he was told that he would become the father of the Jewish people. It’s as if Hashem was telling him in the same sentence, that it’s the first and most important lesson that will come with your father and nationhood to pass down and convey to your descendants.

 

Lesson two though is an even more challenging lesson. The truth is lesson 2 really started even before this week’s parsha. It began right after Hashem first told him that he would inherit the land of Israel and would merit to have children. The lesson that Hashem gave him right after that first tiding and covenant was that the wife that Sarah had given him, her prize student Hagar, and her eventual child, would not inherit with Yitzchak the land.

 

Now understand who Hagar was. She was truly a tzadekes. She rejected her father Pharaoh’s house. One can assume that she was disgusted with his evil ways, having seen him take Sarah as a hostage. She left all the glory of that palace and attached herself willfully to Sarah, seemingly inspired by her and Avraham’s loving, peaceful forgiving and Hashem oriented lifestyle. Sarah wouldn’t have just given anyone to her husband. Hagar was her prize talmidah. Eventually Hagar will return and be Avraham’s wife for decades after Sarah’s death. Her deeds and ways our sages compared to ketores; the heavenly incense. She’s a good Arab, The best and most loyal.

 

The child that she would bear as well, Yishmael, will become the ultimate Baal Teshuva. The greatest Kohen Gadol that Hashem Himself asked for a blessing, thousands of years later, is even named after him. He is Avraham’s first-born child, right after Hashem promised him descendants. He’s the miracle kid born to him at age eighty-six years old. There’s no one that Avraham has higher hopes for. His own Sarah, who was greater in prophecy than him, even told him that this is what he needed to do. Yet…. again he was wrong. Yishmael and Hagar will never become who they need to become with love. That’s not how they’re built. That’s now what will make them into who they need to become.

 

Sarah, tell Avraham last week that he’s mistaken. He’s more than mistaken. His contzeptzia of treating Hagar with love and with equality and kindness is in fact …. Are you ready for the word she uses?

 

Chamasi alecha- You are Chamas… My wrath is upon you.

 

If you treat them equally and with kindness, you Avraham, are in fact just building the foundation of  Hamas. Hagar can only become Ketura if she recognizes that she is a second-class citizen. Yishmael will only become righteous if he is raised in a house where it is as clear as day that-

 

Lo yorish ben ha’amah ha’zot im bni im Yitzchak- that the son of this maid servant will have no inheritance rights with my son Yitzchak.

 

If you don’t believe Sarah, which Avraham it seems had a hard time accepting, Hashem Himself tells Avraham, that she is correct. The angel even comes down to Hagar as well and tells her to return and accept the abuse of Sarah. It’s good for her. She needs it. It’s the only way that she can fulfill her purpose. This is the lesson that Avraham needs to learn even before he is foretold of the birth of Yitzchak. He needs to understand, once again that love and kindness is not necessarily the way to work and to be mekarev everyone. There are some that require a different medicine. There are some that need to be put in their place. They are pereh adam- they are creatures that will not respond as do most humans created in the image of Hashem towards loves and hugs. They are pereh- wild at their core and thus need to be reigned in. They need to be whipped. They need to be beaten into obedience. And then they will flourish and become the great nation they are meant to become. Then Yishmael can become a Baal Teshuva and Hagar can become the great Keturah.

 

The lesson becomes even more vivid in this week’s parsha when Avraham is commanded to expel Yishmael. To throw him out like a dog to the desert with a “Chaymas Mayim”- (am I the only one that notes the irony of that strange word for water jug and its phonetic similarity to Chamas- the wrath that Sarah had on Avraham and that seemingly he is throwing and expelling with Yishmael out of his house, out of our land…). Rule number one today in chinuch especially when dealing with a child that is trying to find his place, that may not be fitting in, that may be getting involved in inappropriate or even sinful activity is to keep them close. Is to shower them with love. Is to accept them for who they are and try to find the positive points to uplift them. To build them. Throwing them out is absolutely the worst thing one can do. It’s pretty much writing them off for good. If that’s the case for us today, imagine how much more so, this must have been for Avraham. He’s the king of kiruv. He’s Hashem’s ultimate representative of kindness. And this is his miracle child of his holy rebbetzin Hagar who returned to be abused and silently accepted her new God given incomprehensible role and raised him for 13 years. And now just chuck him out?! And the answer is yes.

 

See Yishmael has a problem. And to be honest we have a problem too. Yishmael’s problem is that he has a confusing life. On the one hand he is a son of Avraham. A first-born to be accurate. A first-born of whom the Torah-which Avraham observed- not only tells us receives a double portion, but for whom it is even forbidden biblically for the father to remove from his rightful birthright and give it rather to the younger favored son. In fact, Reb Chaim Brisker even suggests that this was Avraham’s dilemma when Sarah told him that he needed to throw him out. How can that be? How can Yishmael have absolutely no inheritance. Not as a first-born and not even as a son. It’s why Hashem had to come and tell him this explicitly. A Yishmael who thinks he has a right of inheritance to live in the land of Israel is a very dangerous being to have in the world. Yishmael can only become who he needs to become if he is thrown and understands that his status and only ability to even reside in Eretz Yisrael is to be that of a second-class guest of ours. A ger toshav that recognizes he has no sovereignty or rights. Only what we give him. Only if he plays by our and Hashem’s rules.

 

This lesson, by the way, is all taught to Avraham in Gerar. Or should I say the border and coastline of Gaza today. The place where incomprehensibly tragically and ironically we did the absolute opposite throwing out the children of Yitzchak from there and giving it as an inheritance to Yishmael. This is the starting point that Hashem choses to teach Avraham the hardest lesson that we have never ever really learned or fulfilled since Hashem first commanded us as such. Yishmael has no right to live in the land of Israel as a citizen. Israel is the inheritance of Yitzchak and only Yitzchak. It will as well become that of Yaakov and only Yaakov who will inherit it from him when that inheritance is removed from Esau. We’ve never learned this. We’ve never expressed this.

 

Even when coming into the land when Hashem explicitly told us that the seven nations need to be wiped out because this is our inheritance, we didn’t do the job. Even when we ruled the land in the times of King David and Shlomo there were still nations living in our inherited land as citizens. They were living in our kitchen. In our living room. In our Galil. In our Negev. In our Shefela. In our hills, in our valleys in our farms and cities. Israel is meant to be a Jewish state. A godly country with the only one true faith that shines out from here. Others may live here as practitioners or at least adherents of our faith. But they need to accept first of all that they are not inheritors of this land and that they have no portion in it and are mere dwellers at our pleasure. Second of all they have to recognize and acknowledge that Hashem is the true God, we are His chosen Nation and the Torah and all its teachings are true. If they don’t do that… they need to be expelled immediately. They are preventing the Shechina from being revealed. They are preventing the world from becoming fixed. And we who do not demand this and understand this are just as culpable if not even more culpable then they are.

 

Incidentally, and in case you think that I’m talking Messianically here. I’m not. Our obligation today of Yishuv Eretz Yisrael- to settle the land of Israel, at least according to the Ramban is not merely to live on a hilltop or buy an apartment in Tenuva or Shneller of even Karmiel. It is to inherit the land. It’s to make sure it is “not left in the hands of the gentiles” in his words. Mashiach’s job according to the Rambam and our sages is to wage wars, to build the Temple, to wipe out Amalek. It has nothing to do with settling the land. That’s for us today even before he gets here. For hundreds of years, there were many Jews that mistakenly thought and even preached that it was forbidden to move to the land of Israel until Mashiach will gather in the exiles and bring us home. So they didn’t move here. They stayed there… and got killed. Until all of sudden-without Mashiach first coming they returned. They came home. They settled here and made it the largest Jewish population in the world. All without Mashiach whom we are still daily waiting and davening for having come.

 

Mashiach doesn’t have anything to do with returning to and settling the land. As well he doesn’t have anything to do with throwing the gentiles and Yishmaelites out. The only ones stopping that from happening is the “contzeptzia” that we have allowed to foster that “the ben ha’amah” has a right to inherit together with the children of Sarah and Yitzchak. We came back to Israel and still come back as ‘settlers” as “conquerors” as “victors” as a homeless persecuted people returning to a biblical homeland and dwelling place. Those are all wrong. Our return to Israel is because this is our inheritance. It’s ours. It’s not theirs and never was. Even when we left and were thrown out, it was always our inheritance. Someone doesn’t return to their father’s inherited house because he wants to settle it, or because he conquers it. He returns because it’s his. When one returns because it’s his, he chucks out everyone else that’s squatting there and doesn’t accept our sovereignty. Everyone who doesn’t accept that it’s not and never will be theirs. It’s not even theirs until Mashiach comes when we take it back. It’s already not theirs today…

 

We have a hard time saying this, because we are infected with the Avraham syndrome and gene. We are too loving. We suffered so much and we don’t want others to suffer. We believe redemption is always possible. We’ve been treated like second class citizens and worse and as sub-humans and we can’t possibly imagine anyone else being treated like that. Certainly not at our kind and moral Avrahamic hands. We want to look for innocents in Sodom. We want to find reasons not to chase out Yishmael. We believe so fundamentally in the image of Hashem that is found in humanity, we can’t possibly imagine not treating them with that dignity. I get it…

 

Until this second year of war and the reading of these two parshiyot and these stories, I pretty much felt that way as well. I still have those 3000-year-old contzeptziot t that our nation has not yet been able to overcome. Yet it’s a message that rings true. It’s the voice of Sarah whose prophecy is greater than ours. I’ve seen Yishmael and I understand how true it is that the carrot will never win him over or elevate him. Although to be honest, I still don’t even see that by all of the Arabs here. I don’t see that by the Druze, by the Christian Arabs, by “friendly” Yishmaelites. It’s like many in America don’t see that in their “friendly” Esau-vites  neighbors that are “pro-Israel”. That love Jews. That say Good Morning and Good Evening to them and that they work with and shop with. They don’t see the hatred our sages tell us is a halacha bi’yadua- an established halachic fact that they hate us. They can’t fathom that they can turn tomorrow into Nazis, Crusaders, Cossacks and Amsterdamians… They don’t see it, as I don’t… but we’re starting to. More and more and more. We know it to be true, but just as for Avraham, its hard for us to swallow. It’s hard for us to have our contzeptziot broken. It’s hard for us to even think of saying the words “Israel is not a democratic state. All Christians, Muslims and non-believers have no right to live here. If they remain they will be killed. Hashem gave us this land as our inheritance. Just as no one can live in my inherited houses basement without my permission, they can’t live in my land. They have no rights. The son of the maidservant needs to remain and return to be afflicted under his Mistress.” That there is only one language and one solution. One accord. One State. One Faith and then the world can unite around the true claim that inherently they have all been waiting for us to finally declare. Am Yisrael Chai!

 

Are we ready to say that yet? Does it sound crazy? Is it possible? I don’t know. I know that there are many Muslim countries that have laws where they unabashedly say that no other religion may be practiced on pain of death or expulsion and nobody really seems to blink.  I know that throughout history, as do you, that countries and empires declared themselves Christian and threw out and killed all those that didn’t practice or believe in the State religion. No one knows those laws better than us. But were those laws and experiences meant to motivate us to create a free, democratic, freedom of and from religion State, as most of us have been living.  Or perhaps quite ironically the opposite. Perhaps it was for us to build up enough confidence in our own role in this world and have the gumption to declare that same historical right and heritage that every other religion and empire has co-opted from us, for ourselves and even more significantly for Ha’kadosh Baruch and for all of mankind. Has Hashem brought us back in time to the point where we realize that when we don’t do that then… Chamasi alecha… My Chamas will be upon you… Or are we still suffering from Avraham-itis? Are we not listening to the voice of Hashem as spoken through Sarah?

 

Sounds crazy right? Sounds apartheid-ical, correct? But is it Torah? One hundred percent. Is it what Hashem wants? This is what He’s told Avraham from the beginning that it’s always been about. Has Rabbi Schwartz lost his mind… I think so… But hey, there’s a new president in the United States. The Abraham Accords will be back on the table soon. It’s time for a revision of them. It’s time to give Yishmael and Hagar what they really need and become who they need to become. It’s not just America that needs to be great again. It’s the world. It’s Hashem. And it starts with us. With breaking our conteptziot. The journey and lessons of our parsha conclude with Mt. Moriah. With the final test of Avraham. With Hashem telling us that he doesn’t need us to sacrifice any of our children anymore. He doesn’t want that. He never did. The Mountain is already ours. We just need to claim it.  

 

Have a revelatory Shabbos,

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz 

EXCITING NEW NEWS!

 

SO AFTER MUCH DELAY… SHIPPING YOM TOV AND ALL I’M DELIGHTED TO TELL YOU THAT MY BOOK HAS FINALLY ARRIVED TO THE SHORES OF THE UNITED STATES AND THE FIRST COPIES HAVE BEEN SHIPPED OUT ALREADY…

 

It’s here!!!

NOW IT’S TIME TO GET YOUR COPY TODAY…

 

TOUR TORAH

 

FROM the Back Cover!!

 

There are Torah parshah books and there are Eretz Yisrael books and there are even tour-guide books, yet this latest work by Rabbi Schwartz puts them all together in a soulful literary adventure and exploration of the timeless messages of our Torah, seen through the eyes of a Rabbi and tour guide, that speak to each of us today.

 

Tour Torah is a collection of essays compiled from fourteen years of writings from his weekly emails, “Holyland Insights and Inspiration,” that reach tens of thousands of readers and fans of his Mishpacha Magazine columns and articles on sites in Israel. His work as an outreach rabbi in far-flung communities across the United States, together with his having studied under the great Rabbis and leaders of the last generation mixed with his unique sense of humor, make this series one that will invite discussion, laughter, and inspiration at every Shabbos meal and in all who have a passion for our Holy Land.

 

With resounding response from his previous publications, The Most Enjoyable Book series on Pesach, Rabbi Schwartz takes his love and passion of years of being one of Israel’s most popular tour guides and opens up worlds and gateways in Torah that can only best be appreciated with a tour and journey each week through the parshah to discover its stories, narratives, and insights.

 

 

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YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

 

“Der emess kumt arois azoi vi boimel oif der vasser.”.- The truth comes out like oil on water.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK

answer below at end of Email

 

28.A term that describes animal or plant life that is located in a single and narrow

distribution area is_____.

 

What is scoria?

A. A type of volcanic rock

B. A species of bird

C. The name of a rodent

D. A sect of zealots

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S COOL VIDEO OF THE WEEK

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=5xi-m2h3C0g   – Must watch.. Chacham Ovadia song on Yom Simcha L’Yisrael Yom Tilim on Yishmael… Awesome..

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cYtF2-TCotM   – Vayomer Hineini story and song Yiddish… nice..

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jA3ZM1InEKQ -  Reb Shlomo Carlebach Yartzeit this week with this new Pini Einhorn Carlichuppa medley…

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8SOqCf_j3OI   – Tamid ohev Oti African Version…?

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JsXZFSlwDnE   – Alex Clare new album Shabbos Yom Menucha

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

 

Tzfanya- 639 BC – Before we discuss the incredible era and kingship of the child king Yoshiya, let’s pause for a moment, as we did by Menashe and explore the prophets of his time that influenced him. Like his father Menashe, the prophets Nachum and Chabakuk, whom we discussed were still alive and prophesized. However unlike Menashe, who’s grandfather was Yeshaya who he killed, Yoshiyahu didn’t have the prophet Yeshaya, yet fascinatingly enough he did have a prophet who according to the Radak may have been a descendant of Chizkiya the King. The Navi gives us the prophet Tzefanya’s lineage and traces him back four generations to “a” Chizkiya”. If that is the same King, as the Radak suggests, then it would make Yoshiya his younger child uncle, despite being only about 8 years old, and Tzefanya being older. That’s kind of interesting…

 

However besides that little clue, we don’t know much about the identity or even life of Tzefanya. He is the 9th book of the 12 prophets and the final one that dies before the destruction. He will be joined by Chulda who we will discuss next week and eventually Yirmiyahu as well. Yet as he names translates Tzfon Hashem- the hidden of Hashem, we don’t have much information about who he was. Even his work the Navi is only three chapters and is rather short.

 

The thrust of his prophecies are about the sins of Yehuda. Particularly the inequity of the rich taking advantage of the poor and the rampant idolatry. He repeats the theme of a judgement day which he calls the Yom Hashem and how Jerusalem will be destroyed. Perhaps most fascinating and relevant is that he foretells of the destruction of the land of the Philistines and Gaza by Bavel, which is Iran… Hmmm… Their cities will be destroyed and be empty shells. We will see that will actually happen when Nevuchadnezzar will come, as well when Pharaoh Necho of Egypt will launch a war. Yet, Tzefania’s prophecies and rebuke had its desired effect on King Yoshiya. He took it to heart and thus began his teshuva movement. The greatest one since his grandfather Chizkiya. But sadly it only delayed the end. This is the last hurrah… And Tzefanya gets the credit for being the first source of that inspiration if not the primary one.

 

One last cool little tidbit of Tzfanya, his grave is in Lebanon in a place called Jabel al Tzafi that is actually a Hezbollah stronghold that Israel has attacked recently near Nabaita… There are actually many Jewish graves in the area that tradition date back including Betzalel and Achisamach the builders of the Mishkan as well as the ancient Sarfad where the woman that Elisha resurrected her son was from. These are part of the borders of Biblical Israel that the Olei Bavel conquered and god willing Hashem is returning us hopefully very soon so we can daven at…

 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TERRIBLE CITIZENSHIP IMMIGRANT JOKES OF THE WEEK

 

A Mexican man is taking his US citizenship test and is at the speaking portion.

The proctor says to him "I want you to use pink, yellow, and green in the same sentence."

The man thinks for a bit and finally says, "The phone go green green, I pink it up and say 'Yellow?'"

 

I was applying for Mexican citizenship and the interviewer asked, “Do you have a criminal record?”

I said, “No. Is that still required?”

 

Trump walks into the Oval office, turns to his administrative team and says, “I want to organise the deportation of 10,000 Muslims and one kitten.

Everyone looks around the table and, after a long silence,

The Secretary of States says. “Mr. President, why do you want to deport a kitten?” Trump smiles and turns to the rest of the table. “You see, no one cares about the Muslims.”

 

I just passed by Canadian citizenship test! I got an eh +

 

I went to the Islamic book store in London and asked if they have the book about Muslim deportation. The guy says get the heck out of here and never come back.

I replied yes that's the one, how much.

 

My friend from Prague finally got his US citizenship approved. That makes him a cancelled Czech

 

Two foreigners in America are applying for citizenship. They're lined up outside the Citizenship and immigration office, along with many others, not wanting to risk deportation now that Trump is in office.

Guy #1: I've had enough of this waiting, save my place, I'm going to shoot Donald Trump myself.

several hours later he returns.

Guy #2: well? did you get him?

Guy #1: no, The line for that was even longer than the one here.

 

Can one get Slovenian citizenship through a spouse? Asking for a President.

 

A man goes to apply for Finnish citizenship.

A man goes to apply for Finnish citizenship. He says to the employee, “I want to be a citizen of Finland.” The employee responds in broken English.

Employee: “You nice?”

Man: “Um... I suppose so.”

“Back of line.”

“What’s the problem?”

“Nice guys Finnish last.”

 

My friend just became an American citizen, but he was forced to give up his Chinese citizenship.

It’s been a real disorienting experience for him..

 

When you apply for American citizenship, you have to write a short paper about yourself. Or in other words,

 

A poll was taken in California, asking if people thought illegal immigration was a serious problem. 29 percent said, 'Yes, it is a serious problem.'

71 percent said, 'No es un problema serio.'

 

The answer to this week”s question is A – Finally got one entirely right! It’s about time… The first part was fairly easy. The word in Hebrew and English is the same, interestingly enough, is endemic, which of course is the correct answer. The second part was a bit trickier. For a second I wasn’t sure if it was referring to the rebels in the bar Kochva revolt called the Sicari by Jospehus, which were like assassins pretty much. So I wasn’t sure since it sounds similar. Yet I figured it was a trick and some where in the back of my memory I remember something like that having to do with Volcanic rock and so I went with that and I was right!!! Cool.  So back in the game I’ve got the  new score at Rabbi Schwartz having 18 points and the MOT having 10 points on this latest Ministry of Tourism exam.

Thursday, November 14, 2019

Tent Women- Parshat Vayeira 2019 /5780


Insights and Inspiration
from the
Holy Land
from
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
"Your friend in Karmiel"
November 15th 2019 -Volume 10 Issue 4 17th Cheshvan 5780

Parshat Vayera

Tent Women

I'm not a feminist. According to google Feminism-is the advocacy of women's rights on the basis of the equality of the sexes. Yeah… I don't buy that. Men and women aren't equal. My wife gave birth to my children. I was there. It's not something I could ever or would ever want to do. I don't think any normal man would. My son had a bris, my daughters didn't. They're not complaining. I don't even know what it means to be equal? One plus one equals two. I get that. They are numbers. Numbers can equal things. People aren't equal. The sexes aren't equal. Animals aren't equal. Tomatoes aren't equal neither or oranges and certainly not all chulents are created equal. The only real thing that is equal is broccoli, cauliflower and split peas. I won't touch any of them equally and I will not discriminate.

As well I'm not really sure I agree with this whole 'rights' thing. Judaism doesn't really believe in rights. We don't have the right to say whatever we want, we don't have the right to eat whatever we want, we don't have the right to look at or do whatever we want. We have obligations. We have commandments. We believe that those are our instructions on how to get the most out of life. Hey, Hashem created the world. He pretty much returns our neshomas to us each morning when we wake up. He knows what makes us tick and what will mess us up. The instructions are your iphone might tell you that you should not immerse it in water. Now you can do what you want with your phone. There might even be some Rabbis that might tell you that it wouldn't be a bad idea to drop it in the bathtub. Certainly my wife wants to do that every time I pull it out by dinner. Is that discriminatory against iphones that I can't use them in the bathtub? My rubber ducky can go in to water no problem. But iphones don't have rights they have instructions that the Steve Jobs put in them for how they should be used. You can do what you want with yours, but Judaism says it's probably smart to listen to our Creator.

So I'm not a feminist. At the same time, I do believe that men and women should both have equal opportunities to become the best that they can be. I think they should be paid them same for equal labor…which is usually more expensive than I want to pay anyways. I think they should both be allowed to vote, which in this country seems to be quite a pointless exercise every few months or so. But most importantly I think that we both are entitled to have a basic appreciation and education of what the Torah and Hashem tells us is the way that we are meant to achieve the fulfillment and purpose for what we were put here on this world for our limited lifetime to achieve.

Now I'm not just a talker, although some might argue that I certainly do a lot of talking I'm a doer, I'm a teacher. I'm a preacher. I'm a midnight toker (I don’t know where that came from…It wasn't Reb Shmuel Miller… maybe a different Miller band ... anyone getting this…?) So ss much as I hate reading about misogynist men or Rabbis writing about women and their place in the world. It's this week's parsha and it's what's on my mind. And maybe it will even give a different approach. Or you could just skip to the jokes on the bottom.

Now the starting point of course is our first patriarch and matriarch; Avraham and Sarah. Last week we were introduced to them and we are familiar that they had an incredible Kiruv/Outreach enterprise going. Avraham worked the men and Sarah the women. They were partners and they both worked together. According to the Medrash their Kiruv revolved around food. They would eat and drink and then Avraham would ask them to bless Hashem. Some things never change. But what were the dynamics of that relationship. Was Sarah merely "kitchen kiruv"? I know that when my wife and I did outreach around the States, I would say more people became connected to Judaism from my wife's chulent than from any of my classes. And as good as the chulent was it wasn't just the chulent. It was the connection they made and had with her. Her modesty, her humility her insight and her hospitality. Kitchen Kiruv, is definitely an approach that she excelled at. Classes though were never her thing.

Avraham, who certainly gave incredible classes, was no slack when it came to domestic activities as well. We find him in this week's Torah portion welcoming his guests. He's even "tabling" standing outside and trying to pull em in off the street. He himself is running and slaughtering and preparing food. He's a really wealthy man at this point in his life, he had no shortage of servants that could've been doing it for him, but that's no excuse. A man's place is just as much in the kitchen as the woman, if she lets him and he doesn't break too many things. If there's a mitzva to be done and he has the skills then why not?

But perhaps most interesting is that dialogue with the angels/ three guests that he has. They ask him where his wife Sarah is and he responds that 'She is in the tent'. What is the point of this discussion? Rashi notes that they asked Avraham to point out her modesty, to endear her to him. I saw one of the commentaries that note that being they're about 100 years old already you'd figure that they were beyond any need for Shalom Bayis compliments. But at the same time since they were going to be new parents they needed an extra boost to recapture that newlywed new parent's endearment. But yet why would telling strangers your wife is in the kitchen endear her to you.

But perhaps even more interesting is that the Torah continues to focus on this tent thing. Avraham is sitting pesach ha'ohel- {at the} entrance of the tent. He's looking for guests. It tells us that as the angels give their good tidings the verse as well tells us
 V'Sarah shoma'at pesach ha'ohel- and Sarah listens {at the} entrance of the tent.
In both cases the verse doesn't say ba petach ha'ohel- at the entrance of the tent. Rather just 'entrance of tent'.

This tent theme seems to repeat itself after Sarah dies and Yitzchak brings his wife Rivka to the tent of Sarah his mother. As well Rachel and Leah we find repeatedly the notion that they are women of the tent.

Now there are many that would take from this that a woman's place and her modesty in the tent. Keep her out of the limelight. Perhaps even hide her behind a burka. But certainly we find many women that made their mark including our matriarchs out in the fields, whether it was the fact that they were shepherdesses, or Miriam who led the women in song and went out to see Moshe, Devora the judge and perhaps even one women who our sages say was even more blessed then the "women of the tent"; greater than our matriarchs. Now I know that might be hard to swallow.
But in the song of Devora, the Keinite woman Yael who seduced the vicious general Sisera and smashed in his brains with a tent peg is more blessed than the 'ladies of the tent'; Sarah Rivka Rachel and Leah according to Rashi and the other commentaries. In the words of the Midrash that Rashi quotes.

"For they gave birth and raised them but if not for Yael this wicked man would have killed them all"

So being a tent woman doesn't mean that a woman is necessarily supposed to remain barefoot and pregnant in the kitchen. In fact, it doesn't mean that all. Someone pointed out to me that in the Eishet Chayil that we recite each Friday night by Shlomo Hamelech (who certainly had plenty of experience with wives…1000 of them according to Chazal) the majority of the verses can be read simply about the working woman.

Haysa ka'aniyos socher –mimerchak tavi lachma-She is like a merchant’s ships; from afar she brings her sustenance. (she wholesales!)
Zamima sadeh vatikachehu mipri kapeha not'a karem -She considers a field and buys it; from the fruit of her handiwork she plants a vineyard. (she dabbles in real estate and commercial investment portfolios!)
Ta'ama ki tov sachra- lo yichbeh ba'layla neira -She senses that her enterprise is good, so her lamp is not extinguished at night. (she’s an entrepreneur who’s works late nights on her computer)
Sadin osida va'timkor v'chagor  nosna la'canani -Garments she makes and sells, and she delivers a belt to the peddler. (she retails!)
Piha pascha b'chochma v'toras chesed al lishona -She opens her mouth with wisdom, and the teaching of kindness is on her tongue. (she’s an educator!)
Tzofiyah halichos beysa v'lechem atzlus lo sochal- She anticipates the needs of her household, and the bread of idleness, she does not eat. (she can balance a budget, she’s an accountant, an economist, and a life coach!)

Now of course Chazal and our commentaries have all types of deeper understandings and metaphorical insights that Shlomo Hamelech intended as well in this perhaps most sung Jewish poem of all times. But there is the simple reading and idea as well. A woman that is praised is one that can be just as-if not even more successful, than a man in the outside-of-the-tent world.

Yet, the praise of Jewish women is that they are always connected to that tent. Whereas Avraham sees himself always pesach ha'ohel reaching out to conquer the world; in of course the most spiritual of ways. Sarah, as well, is pesach ha'ohel. She is always at the entrance of the tent. but her world, her view and focus is directed inwards to her family, to building the home. To creating that home. To filling it with light. When Yael and every Jewish woman may be fulfilling their mission and making ends meet outside of their tent but their eyes, thoughts and emphasis is always back towards the tent. Whereas the Matriarchs role was to birth and raise the children of Israel, the role of Yael was to "get out there" and save them.

The angels that are coming to Avraham are not there to tell him that he will have a son. He knows that already. Hashem told him the Bris Bein Ha'besarim. They are here to tell Sarah. Sarah is not merely eavesdropping behind a door. The Torah tells us she is shoma'at- she is always listening for that child. The Meshech Chochma notes brilliantly (and differently than all the other commentaries) that the verse continues and tells us

V'Sarah Shoma'at v'hu acharov- And Sarah listens and it is behind him

Rashi understands that the "it" behind him is a reference to the door that is behind the angel from which he is listening. The Targum Yonasan says that it is Yishmael who is behind the door listening. Other commentaries suggest that is it the angel that is behind the door. The Meshech Chochma however says that he believes that this is a reference and continuation of their prophecy. "A child will be born"- Yitzchak. And Sarah listens. She stands at the entrance of the tent. The angels note that and then they continue and direct their words to her "v'hu acharov" and he, the child Yitzchak will be the one that follows Avraham.

Avraham is focused, like most men are on the here and now. Sarah, our matriarchs, our righteous Jewish women throughout the generations are women that recognize that we are merely in tents. We are here for the big picture. For our generations. For the families that will continue and herald in the generation of Mashiach of the redemption. That is what their role is. Perhaps it comes with being the ones that actually give birth. They are the mother of all flesh. That is their inherent nature. To build a world for the future, to understand the sanctity and primacy of the tent that men don't necessarily or naturally appreciate.

We live in a world today, where there is much gender confusion. Where everyone is so focused on their rights as they believe that rights will give them the satisfaction they are seeking. But they are not finding it. We also live in a world that more and more of our women in the world are out of the house and tent more than they are in it. This is true in the religious world as much as it is in the secular world. In the religious world it is even a basic necessity to pay the incredibly high expenses of our lifestyle. Private school tuitions, Kosher, Seminary, Shabbos meals the bills are endless and our eishet chayils have jumped to the rescue, to the side of their husbands to partner with them in what is biblically the man's responsibility. I don't think it's relevant if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Or if there is a solution. {besides moving to Eretz Yisrael where tuitions are only a few hundred dollars a year and health insurance is as well. But that would be too radical.} Yet it's important for us, the children of Avraham and Sarah not to lose focus on where each of us will only find our sipuk from. Where only we can achieve the jobs that we were meant to and created for. We both sit on the entrance of our respective shared tents. We both have full time jobs. But ultimately the shechina will rest on our tent only if we can both appreciate the inward and outward primary focus that each one of us was meant to concentrate on our energy on. Because if we don't have that focus, and shine that tent light out to the rest of the world then nobody else will.


Have a peaceful  Shabbos,
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz


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RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

“Ven di veib trogt di hoizen, vasht der man di spodnitsen..”– When the wife wears the pants, the husband washes the floor.

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S COOL VIDEO  OF THE WEEK

https://youtu.be/nDGqWHjHBEM   – I'm loving this video way too much. It's one that has to be watched like a million times... Shevet Achim V'Achayot with all the Jewish singers..

https://youtu.be/cG2bItVnSao    –Donald Trump at an Orthodox Jewish fundraiser… I don't know what to say..

https://youtu.be/9kv1Y-YnYms?list=TLPQMTQxMTIwMTnnsVweLu0tiw-  Shlom Carlebach 25th yartzeit concert Shifchi  


https://youtu.be/C79lR1wE3hk   - Shlomo Carlebach on Parshat Vayeira

https://youtu.be/x-C3TOvAqLc?list=TLPQMTQxMTIwMTnnsVweLu0tiw  – In honor of the "peace" Shlomo Carlebach  Yehi Shalom

https://youtu.be/9kv1Y-YnYms?list=TLPQMTQxMTIwMTnnsVweLu0tiw-  Shlom Carlebach 25th yartzeit concert Shifchi  


RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK
answer below at end of Email
1) Calcrete rock (nari) develops on one of the following rocks:
A.    Chalk (kirton)
  1. Basalt
  2. Calcareous sandstone (kurkar)
  3. Dolomite

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S PARSHA/MITZVA CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

Bikur Cholim- Visiting the Sick- The book of Bereishit is full of acts of kindness. Avraham our patriarch gifted us with that trait. The Talmud (Sota 14.)  tells us that when one emulates the ways of Hashem it is a fulfillment of the commandment of Acharey Hashe Elokeichem teileichu- one should follow the ways of Hashem. In our parsha we find that example when Hashem comes to visit Avraham after he has his circumcision. The Talmud even tell us how Rabbi Akiva visited a student and that visit literally brought him back to life. Rabbi Akiva was so inspired that he stated that anyone that doesn't visit the sick is like a murderer.  The Rambam learns this is part of the mitzva of loving your friend like yourself. It's a big mitzva.

We are told that there are two purposes in the mitzva. The first is to see the person first hand and therefore be inspired to pray on his behalf. Face-timing them is probably not enough for this. Seemingly if one just visits and doesn’t' pray for the person afterwards they also haven't really fulfilled their obligation. Interestingly enough to fulfill this mitzva, the sick person doesn't have to see you. They could be sleeping or behind a window, or even in a quarantined ward that no is allowed in. They can be in a situation where they do not want or are even allowed visitors. There is still an obligation to go to inspire your prayers on the sick person's behalf. So it's not an excuse. We are told as well that as well as being inspired to pray when one leaves the sick person, there is a special mitzva to pray in the room with them as we are told that the shechina-Divine presence is above their head.

On a more pragmatic level though the mitzva is to visit in order to see if there's anything one can do to help them. Clean, cook, call a nurse. The Shel"A Hakadosh suggests that's why it is called Bikur Cholim which can be translated as the examination of the sick. One should what he is lacking and try to assist them. There is nothing that should be one's honor to do. After-all Hashem came in all His glory to Avraham, we should be able to do that for the sick as well. A sick person's needs don't only include the physical. There is the reassuring of him mentally and emotionally that their family is taken care of, that they have a support system that is there for them. At the same time one has to be careful not exacerbate the choleh's situation. One should be smiley and happy and not grim and somber. Leave your own baggage outside. Don't stress them, don't grill them about "what the doctor's say" and their prognosis and don't stay too long that you become a burden.

There are not a lot of Mitzvos that we can emulate the ways of Hashem. The mitzva of visiting the sick is even greater than the learning Torah when there is no one else to do it or if you can add something that no one else can. It certainly is worthwhile taking off time to fulfill this mitzva and B'H it is one of the greatest Kiddush Hashem's I believe when we see these incredible organizations that are there for our sick, these singers that go preform for them and the Rabbis that come and visit them. But it's not just a mitzva for them. It's a mitzva for all of us.


RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

Wicked Avimelech and his brother Yotam  1044 BC  So it seems the last years of Gideons life he was busy. Tanach tells us that he had 70 children from the many wives that he had. If that wasn't enough he also had one concubine out in Shechem where he had a really winner of a boychik called Avimelech from. This little kid eventually grew up to be one of the wonderful psychopaths that led at least a portion of the Jewish people. Tanach tells us that he rounded up the people of Shechem and in the ancient Israeli tradition convinced them with a little silver "bakshish" to back him as their ruler. He claimed to be one of them and he would enrich all of them. Why should they be subject to the whims and bureaucracy of the 70 sons of Gideon making the decisions. He would be the one man show they were looking for. And it worked!

After getting elected to office he gathered for himself a nice little gang of hooligans headed on up to Ofra where his brothers lived and killed 69 of them on a stone. Talk about nasty. The surviving brother named Yotam stood up upon Har Gerizim and gives his famous botanical parable and curse. He tells the story of how all the trees got up and decided they want a king. They first approached the olive tree which of course told them, in a very un-Israeli like fashion that he already has a full time job making oil, he has no time for these politics. Next they approach the fig tree, which also turns down the job. He claims his too sweet for the job. I guess sweetness is not a great quality for leadership. Next on the list of candidates is the grape vine which also turned down the job. It seems he was a bit of an alcoholic. He had to make more wine.  The last on the list, talking about 'scratching' the bottom of the barrel was the thorn bush the Atad. The thorn bush has no problem taking job. He however tells them quite ironically that if they want him they should come under his shade and if not a fire should come out from the bush and eat the cedar trees of Lebanon.  

This parable is a lot of fun for Israeli botanical archeologists and tour guides as well. There are plenty of the first three species to talk about their symbolism in Yotam's mashal. The Tanach commentaries see each one of them as representing a different kind of leader. The first choice is the olive tree which represents yichus- a pure lineage and respected family. Olive oil is used of course to anoint Kings and Priests which are generally passed down by lineage. The oil lasts for generations and can provide light. As well a respected pure family is something that is steadfast and has proven itself and is the best criterion for leadership. It's the first place that people turn to a familiar name. Kennedy, Bush or Clinton being modern examples of names that captured people's popularity.

The fig represents wealth. Although wealth isn't a sign of purity but it does give one stature and a righteous wealthy leader can provide his community. Figs produce in abundance throughout its season. It grows very soon after being planted and its fruits are delectable. Wealth has a tremendous power and it allows one not to be subject to financial constraints or bribes.. hopefully. It also helps pay for big political campaigns. Know any modern day wealthy world leaders?

Finally, the grape vine represents wisdom. It tastes better with age. It has experience it has nuances and it discerning flavors. A wise man despite having no wealth or family lineage can lead by the mere power of his or her wisdom. As well the grapevine is lowest of the three species growing close to the ground and thus it represents humility. The wise person is the humble one. Unfortunately, we don't have any of those running for office any time soon. Ahhh… for the good ole days of honest Abe Linclon.

The thorn bush as opposed to these tree has no fruit, has no sweetness and it doesn't even provide shade. That was part of irony of Yotam's curse. Try sitting under a thorn bush for shade and you will get pricked. Yotam is telling them if they are hanging out with Yotam it will come back to bite them. As well they are extremely flammable. Hang out with a thorn bush and when the fire comes you will get caught up in its flames. On a less cynical note in the thorn bush parable Yotam notes that all the trees came. This would include the fig, olive, and grape vine. The only power that the thorn bush could lead with is unity. If it can bring everyone to subject itself to it. If all the subjects agree to and unite even under a simple, no-family, poor leader it can work. But it will only happen if there is total subservience that is enforced by fear of thorns and fire, being tortured or killed.

Yotam gives this curse on Mt. Gerizim, right next to Shechem. Interesting enough in Israel this Mountain is called Har Bracha. This is the mountain that the tribes that were meant to deliver the blessings stood. But our Rabbis note that when they received those blessings they were looking at Mt. Eval opposite it. That would be the true Mt. of Blessing. On the other hand, Mt. Eval, where the curses were recited faced Mt. Gerizim which would be then the Mt. of Curse.  And that is why Yotam chose that mountain. I wouldn't tell that to the Samaritans that live there that I visit with my tourists though; they might get insulted.

Stay tuned next week to learn the fulfillment of the curse.

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S TERRIBLE MYSOGINIST JOKES  OF THE WEEK


 Google is definitely a woman. It makes suggestions before you even finish what you're trying to say."
"Then Bing is definitely a man, since it tries to convince everyone that it's superior while it does a horrible job of pleasing users."

What to give a man who’s got everything? A woman. She’ll tell him how everything works.

Everyone says the world would be better off if it was run by women. Sure, maybe there wouldn't be violence and territorial conquests fueled by male testosterone. But instead, we'd have a bunch of jealous countries that aren't talking to each other.

For all the guys who think a woman's place is in the kitchen, remember that's where the knives are kept.

Newlyweds wake up one morning on their honeymoon and the man suggests: "Darling, why don’t you brew us some coffee?"
Wife looks confused: "But that's your task, honey."
“What? Why?”
 "It’s all over the Bible, dearest."
 "The Bible says nothing about who’s supposed to be brewing coffee!"
The wife grabs hold of a copy and starts flipping pages at random: "See? Everywhere: Hebrews, Hebrews, Hebrews."

A little boy looks at his mum at a wedding and says, “Mummy, why is the girl dressed all in white?”
His mum answers, “The girls is called a bride and she is in white because she’s very happy and this is the happiest day of her life.”
The boy nods and then says, “OK, and why is the boy all in black?”

Honey, do you think I gained weight? No, I think the living room got smaller.

A man noticed his credit card has been stolen - but he never reported it. The thief was still spending considerably less than his wife.

An investigative journalist went to Afghanistan to study the culture and was shocked to discover that women were made to walk ten paces behind the men. She asked her guide why and he said, "Because they are considered of lesser status." Outraged the journalist went home. A year later she returned covering violence in the region and was surprised to see the women walking ten paces ahead. She turned to her guide and this time asked, "What has changed?" The guide answered, "Land mines."

At a medical check-up: Do you do dangerous sports? Well, sometimes I talk back at my wife.

Q: Why did God create Adam first and Eve as second? A: Because he wasn’t interested in listening to anyone telling him how to make Adam.

A boy asked his father, "Dad, how much does it cost to get married?"
Father grimly replied, "I wouldn’t know son, I'm still not done paying for it."

85% of married life consists of yelling "what?" from the other side of the house.

One easy step to lose an argument with a wife: 1) Argue.

Men who ignore their wives’ raised eyebrows are losing valuable time in which to escape.

In any argument, a wife has the last word. Anything the husband says after that last word is the beginning of a new argument.

Yankel approached his Rosh Kollel and asked him if the 1000 year prohibition and ban of Rabbeinu Gershom for an Orthodox Man to take a second wife is already over. The Rebbe noted that is was still in effect but asked the young man why he was interested in taking another wife?
Yankel answered "It's hard to make it on one income these days…"

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Answer is A–  Well I'm off to a bad start on this latest exam. First question and I already got it wrong. The truth is back in the day when I took the exam I probably would've know this as I spent a lot fo time studying this because rocks and geology are really not my thing. But I haven't used this information in years. I wouldn't say I deleted it it just got buried and replaced with more important information, like where the good mehadrin restarunts are… Anyways I knew that Nari is a veering on the rocks that is hard and I knew there's a lot oof it in Beit Guvrin which is where they have all these burial caves and cisterns by which the nari was the upper layer. But I forgot what rock was there. I guessed it was Dolomite. But the right answer was kirton/ chalk stone. Ahhh well…So we start off this exam with a negative The score is Schwartz 0 and 1 for MOT (Ministry of Tourism) on this exam.