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Friday, July 10, 2020

Mr. Right- Parshat Pinchas 2020/ 5780


Insights and Inspiration
from the
Holy Land
from
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz
"Your friend in Karmiel"
July 9th 2020 -Volume 10 Issue 37 18th Tamuz 5780

Parshat Pinchas
Mr. Right

We have funny magnets on our refrigerator door. I should know. I've been spending a lot of time reading them …every hour or so. For like 4 months. Even Pesach when I knew there was only potato flavored stuff inside. I really need some tours people. It's funny to see the evolution of our magnets. I think I should write a thesis on it one day. For example take this one

 "Thank God for dirty dishes, they have a tale to tell, while other families go hungry this one is eating very well…."  That was a very grateful for what we have towards the beginning of our marriage when we our kids were little and we didn't have time to do the dishes

The one that follows that is quite simply "We don't skinny dip- we chunky dunk". Yup, we no longer were the same people from our wedding picture. Well at least I'm not. My wife hasn't aged a day. In fact, sometimes I get confused and think I'm looking at my wedding picture. (whewww glad I double checked this one to edit)

The next one though is a little more graphic though. "Fridge pickers wear big knickers". We are evolving….

And most recent addition is "One day my fridge will have revenge on you. It will go to your room, open your door, stare at you for three minutes and then it will leave."

And then there is that dusty old one that has been buried under all the bar mitzva and wedding picture magnets. (Those are the worst by the way. Why do I want a picture of what I looked like by Eli's Bar Mitzvah? Who is Eli anyways?) I believe my wife bought it for me just a few birthdays after we had gotten married. It says

 When we got married I knew I was marrying Mr. Right … I just didn’t know his first name was Always."  Ahhh… the wisdom of magnets. They always know how to hit the nail on the head. They are the words of the prophets that are written on our refrigerator doors. And it only took her six years to learn the truth of the statement. O.K. Schwartz, stop dreaming, it was meant facetiously. The truth is the years of marriage have taught me that more often than not, it is she who usually has the more correct intuition about things and is more frequently right than I am (thank God she doesn’t read my e-mails-I'll just leave this little line out when I read it at the Shabbos table shhhh…)

 This is not to say that I have fully incorporated this reality into my approach in life. I don’t believe I would have received aforementioned magnet if I had. Yet, one of the great challenges in life, for Rabbis in particular, but in truth for anyone who feels strongly about a particular topic is to learn how and when to properly achieve and express the truth. My role model in achieving this goal has been of course none less an individual who was rarely wrong; our greatest leader Moshe.

This week's Torah portion shares with us an incredible incident and lesson of what truly made Moshe one of the greatest individuals of all time. As the Torah relates, Moshe, commanded by Hashem, tells the Jewish nation as they approach the land of Israel the laws of its inheritance. The Land was meant to be divided up each tribe by a divine lottery larger tribes would receive larger portions and  smaller tribes smaller portions. In order to maintain the balance between the tribes each tribe would pass down the Land to their sons so as to maintain the portion remaining in the family possession and not go to another tribe. Quite logical, yet as in all good plans a few good women manage to find a hole.

 “And the Daughters of Tzelafchad son of Hefor… drew near and stood before Moshe, before Elazar the Kohen (Aharon’s son) .. and the entire assembly …saying. ‘Our father died in the wilderness but was not among the assembly that gathered against Hashem in the assembly of Korach, but died of his own sin; and had no sons. Why should the name of our father be omitted from among his family because he had no sons? Give us a portion among our fathers brothers.’
 And Moshe brought their claim before Hashem.”

The Chafetz Chaim one of the most impactful leaders and authors in prewar Europe notes the incredible behavior of Moshe. Was he not the individual who had studied the entire Torah in heaven from Hashem? Did not Hashem reveal the answer to him on Sinai together with the entire Torah 40 years previously? Couldn’t he have extrapolated the answer which God gave (which was that they may inherit, yet should marry within their own tribe) on his own? Why is Moshe the ultimate “answer man” for all questions rendered answerless over this seemingly basic law?

His answer is I believe an inspiring perspective for all those in a position where your opinion is asked for. Moshe could have answered (as most of us might have been able to do) yet he was fearful that he had already been biased. Once the Daughters of Tzelafchad said that their father was not on Moshe’s antagonist, Korach’s, side he recognized that he would no longer be able to give a truly objective response. He had been biased in their favor and therefore recused himself from the decision. How remarkable! This greatest of all men was able to recognize that even the slightest personal factors has the power to influence his decisions and render his judgment impartial. And what was it already?  It wasn’t that he gave him a bribe or even sent him flowers it was merely that their father was from the 3 million other Jews that didn’t rebel (only 250 did). Yet that was what made Moshe our leader. The ability to recognize that to render an opinion of truth even the slightest hint of influence can render one impartial.

We live in a world where we are inundated with opinions. Radio, Newspapers, politics religion, relationships, and advertisements, all scream out to us with claims of possessing the truth. Fortunately, there are enough contradictions in all of them to allow us to see that none of them are as true as they claim to be. I don't think that there were times that were lived in that ws so obvious of how many expert opinions have been proven to be wrong again and again and again than in the current pandemic. Although I have yet to hear one of them admit it. Not even just a little bit…Yet we as well have become influenced that we must develop opinions and then of course give direction and share out wisdom with others as to what we perceive as being the right and proper way to approach things. And that's what we do again again and again. Some of us even write E-Mails each week about them, others comment, blog, or like and don't like. But we need to say something. The virtue of silence and humility is long gone.

Don't get me wrong. I don't feel it is wrong to have opinions and I believe that one should have strongly held opinions (even ask my wife). Yet all of those opinions must be held up to a Moshe- level scrutiny of whether they are entirely honest or is there the subjective personal “bribe” that may play a role in that which I present as being the right way. If Moshe could step down and ask himself that question, it behooves us to ask ourselves the same. We have entered the period of the three week's of mourning for our Temple. Israel was under siege. We were sinning, we were destroying ourselves. We had removed Hashem from our people. Trust me, everyone back then had an opinion they were sharing about whose fault it was. Who was to blame. What we should be doing different. Why this wasn't really a threat or why it is imminent destruction. There was no humility. Until… we were all on the ground mourning. Maybe as we mourn now once again we should all take a step back and stop already "knowing it all".  Maybe than can we truly become “Mr. Right”.

Have a Shabbos that is ALL right,
Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz


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RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

" Az men chazert tsu fil iber vi gerecht men iz, vert men umgerecht.."- If you repeat often enough that you’re right, you will discover you’re wrong.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK
answer below at end of Email

35) 19th century explorer of the Land of Israel:
A.  Richard Kauffmann
B.  Conrad Schick
C.  Erich Mendelsohn
D.  Yigael Yadin

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S COOL VIDEO  OF THE WEEK

https://youtu.be/GeLegZpWaqU   Today's the Day- Ari Goldwag Acapella version

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=gKSIEKX8enY     Umpinei- Rabbi K for the three weeks

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fMTJlEGYjXE   -Gad Elbaz and his father Team Acapella Shiyibanei

https://youtu.be/Ba7aufdSZSo?list=PLus2WfhoUaTpT189UI7KiyoqzyQ9CaXQ9    Beautiful Acapella Shabbat medley by the "Yidden"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=eL4hxGVwcwUSimcha Leiner Ani Maamin through generations

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S PARSHA/MITZVA CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

Parshat Pinchas – Mitzva of Inheritance–It is the last of the positive commandments in the Torah of the Rambam number 248. Yet fascinatingly enough, the mitzva of inheritance as it is mentioned in the Torah is not that the sons should inherit, rather the mitzva is that if a person dies without any sons then his daughter would be the one to inherit him. The assumption thsu being that if a man does have a son then his son inherits and not the daughter. The question though would be why doesn't the Torah write that explicitly. Even more fascinating is that it seems that this entire mitzva really only enters the Torah as a result of the request for clarity from the daughters of Tzlafchad who wanted to know what their status would be as their father died and didn't leave any sons to inherit. Moshe after conferring with Hashem comes back with the response that 'Mazel Tov" they get to inherit their fathers portion.

The idea behind this is perhaps that the entire concept of the Torah principles of inheritance are not one that at face value one would understand. Why is it that only sons inherit and not the girls? It's not even mentioned in the Torah in that context. The idea of inheritance is one that is not about getting my parents money, rather it is about placing the money or property of the parents in the place where Hashem wants it to be put. The daughters of Tzlfachad rather than protest, riot, loot or sneak sefer Torahs into the ladies section because of what some might see as their perceived inequity, approached Moshe for clarification. Doesn't the role to fulfill our father's legacy fall upon us when there are no sons to carry on his name and mission. The Midrash in fact tells us that they came to Moshe after he finished teaching the laws of the levirate marriage, where the woman is forbidden to marry someone else when her husband dies without children. She must marry her husband's brother to produce heirs that would carry on his name. Thus they understood that the inheritance of the land of their father should also fall under their responsibility. An inheritance isn't a windfall… It's a responsibility and obligation to utilize the land and assets the father is no unable to continue to use to further his presence and Hashem's presence that he revealed in this world.

When a man has sons it is his upon his sons that obligation falls. Part of that obligation is of course to take care of their mother, or even their stepmother as well as all of the father's daughters. It is they that have to provide for them and they have to marry of the daughters respectably- which in Israel means getting your future son-in-law an apartment… or so I'm told, I'll let you know if it happens…I'm not keeping my fingers crossed… As well there is a law that the first-born gets a double portion. Seemingly as well that would be because he has the double obligation to see that everything gets done. The Torah even prohibits one from not inheriting this way. It is on this note that the Rambam ends his list of positive mitzvos perhaps most appropriately. For at the end of the list of the mitzvos is assuring that even after one's death the mitzvos will still be continued to be fulfilled in his merit with the assets he has left over.

Throughout generations there have been rotten apples that didn't help out the daughters or sisters and our sages instituted precautions against that wherein the courts can enforce that the sons take care of their responsibilities. As well the only prohibition to subvert the Torah laws of inheritance is after death. While a father is alive he may set up trusts for his daughters and wife so that they are provided for external of the inheritance. In fact, there was a common custom that when a girl would get married her husband would be gifted with a dowry promising him and equal portion to the sons. As this was done while the father and structured as debt of the father rather than inheritance it was no problem. The State of Israel which works under the common secular law where daughters inherit equal to the sons had Rabbis that sought to establish this halachic loophole into the system. It didn't fly. But yet many of those wishing to do things properly certainly are in touch with their Rabbis when writing their wills. If one has a family that believes in Torah values them knowing that your last wishes were to follow the path of the Torah is certainly the greatest last lesson you can give them.

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

Shaul's 2nd War Part I-878 BC – It's hard to believe that the entire reign was just a mere two years. So much happened for good and bad. He accomplished a tremendous amount but somehow he always seemed to fall short. Yet the lessons of this first king of Israel really set the table for what will seem his Bizzaro world opposite Dovid Hamelech who will follow him.

After his first huge victory against Nachash the Ammoni by Yavesh Gilead, it was time to take care finally of the inner terrorists hounding us our old friends the Philistines. The navi tell us that Shaul took 2000 men with him in Michmash and the hills of Beit El while Yonasan, Shaul's son was in Givat Binyamin. All of those places have kept their biblical names. Michmash in the tribe of Binyamin is right outside of Geva Binyamin today- which is unofficially called Adam today. (Interesting side story is that everyone calls it Adam after the most senior Israeli general ever to get killed in battle Kuty Adam who was killed in the first Lebanon War. However, it was never officially called Adam because the biblical city of Adam is not near here at all). Michmash is a few kilometers from there in the Arab village called Mach'Mas on a hill called Tel Miriam just west of the modern yishuv of maalei Michmash Biblical Beit El just North of there is in the arab village of Bitin south of the modern city of Beit El. This is a serious West Bank tour and great stories to share when in the area.

So it starts when Yonasan kills the head of Philistine terrorist clan in Geva (Adam). This is not a stealth campaign that we are not admitting to. Quite the opposite it's time the boys learned there's a new sherriff in town and Shaul blows the shofar and lets everyone. Blowing the shofar was like tweeting back then. Well the Plishtim weren't going to take that sitting down. They come with 30,000 chariots (the ancient equivelant of tanks), 6000 riders and an army that was 'like the sand of the sea'. They were coming full throttle and the camped in Beit Aven which as well has been identified where the arab village called Burka is located just west of Michmash. This is a very hilly region of hills and valleys. Many of the Jews hid in those caves in the area some fled across the Jordan River to the area of Menashe. Things were heating up.

Shmuel had told Shaul that when he goes to battle he should await Shmuel's instructions in Gilgal where the Mishkan was. Shmuel would arrive bring sacrifices and then give the orders. Yet the 7th day had come and there was no sign of Shmuel. People started to get nervous and being to desert. It was not going well. This should have been the moment where Shaul marshalled the people to have faith. To introduce them to the concept of Jewish time which is never at the crack of dawn. We're always going to come the last minute. But he didn't. He brought the offerings himself and as he finished, lo and behold, Shmuel arrives and he's not a happy camper. Shaul makes excuses, that he was scared the Plishtim would attack him as they had not brought any offerings and thus he brought them himself, but Shmuel wasn't buying. He gives Shaul the psak that he will have a short kingdom and he will not rule long. Hashem is already preparing his replacement. Shmuel then counts the people and it turns out most had deserted. There remained just 600 from the original. To make matters worse the Jews didn't have any weapons. The Plishtim had killed all of the blacksmiths. All they had were farm tools to fight with. The scene is reminiscent of the Yom Kippur War where Israel as well did not have much to fight with since after the 6 Day War everyone, including the US of A refused to sell us even a bullet. We had to make do with whateve leftovers we had from the 6 Day War that were in pretty bad shape to defend ourselves. The Plishtim gathered by Michmash to fight in three different groups the West Bank was flooded with them. Things were not looking good.

Stay tuned next week for how it all turns out.

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S BEING RIGHT or WRONG JOKES  OF THE WEEK

You know the old story of the couple who comes to the rabbi for marriage counselling. First the husband tells the rabbi all his complaints about his wife and the rabbi listens attentively and then pronounces “You’re right.”
Then the wife pours out her tale of woe about her husband and, again, the rabbi listens very sympathetically and then says, “You’re right.”
Whereupon the Rebbetzin rushes into the room screaming, “How can they both be right?!’
And the rabbi smiles and says, “You’re right too!”
And you know what I say? The rabbi was right too!

Yankel was a rich man who was near death. He was very grieved because he had worked very hard for his money and wanted to be able to take it with him to heaven. So Yankel begins to pray.
An angel hears his plea and says to him, "I'm sorry, but you can't take your wealth with you."
Yankel implores the angel to speak to God to see if he might bend the rules. He said he would try. In the meantime, Yankel continues to pray.
When the angel reappears, he informs Yankel that God has decided to allow him to take one suitcase with him. Overjoyed, Yankel gathers his largest suitcase and fills it with pure gold bars and places it beside his bed. Soon afterward he dies and shows up at the Gates of Heaven.
The angel Gabriel, seeing the suitcase, says, "Hold on, you can't bring that in here."
Yankel explains that he has permission and suggests he verify his story with God.
Gabriel checks and says, "You're right. You're allowed one carry-on bag, but I'm supposed to check its contents before letting it through."
So Gabriel opens the suitcase to inspect the worldly goods that Yankel found too precious to leave behind and exclaims, "You brought pavement?"

Harry makes an emergency appointment to see his doctor.
“Doctor,” says Harry, “just look at the mess I’m in. When I awoke this morning, I looked in the mirror and was shocked to see my hair all wiry, my skin wrinkled and blotchy, my eyes bloodshot and bulging out of their sockets and my face so white that I looked like a corpse. What on earth is wrong with me, doctor?”
The doctor looks at Harry and calmly says, “Well, for a start, there’s certainly nothing wrong with your eyesight…”

A man told his doctor that he wasn't able to do all the things around the house that he used to do.
When the examination was complete, he said, "Now, Doc, I can take it. Tell me in plain English what is wrong with me." 
"Well, in plain English," the doctor replied, "you're just lazy."
"Okay," said the man. "Now give me the medical term so I can tell my wife." '

David, a senior citizen, was driving down the I87, when his mobile phone rang. Answering, he heard his wife's voice urgently warning him, "David, I just heard on the news that there's a car going the wrong way down the I87. So please be careful!"
"Yes I know," said David, "But it's not just one...there are dozens of them!"

   When Rivkah was called up for jury service, she asked the judge whether she could be excused.
"I don’t believe in capital punishment," she said, "and I wouldn’t want my views to prevent the trial from running its proper course".
The judge liked her thoughtfulness but had to tell her that she was perfectly suitable to serve on the jury.
"Madam," he explained, "This is not a murder trial, it's just a simple civil lawsuit. Mrs F is bringing this case against her husband because he gambled away the entire $15,000 he had promised her for her birthday so that she could carry out a make-over on her kitchen."
"OK," said Rivkah, "I'll join your jury - I could be wrong about capital punishment after all."

Lionel is walking home one Friday afternoon feeling quite downcast because he is starting a new job on Monday and desperately needs a new suit. But he can’t afford to buy one. Just then he passes the Hendon Menswear Shop and sees a large sign in the window: -
"What d'ya think, my name is Fink and I sell clothes for nothink."
Lionel goes into the shop and chooses a new suit. He is very pleased with it – it’s just right for his new job. He is about to leave the shop, looking good and feeling lucky, when his joy is cut short. Fink stops him and demands payment for the suit.
Lionel says, "But your sign in the window says, ‘What d’ya think, my name is Fink and I sell clothes for nothink.’ So how come you want payment?"
"You are reading my sign wrong," replies Fink. "It actually says, ‘What d'ya think? - My name is Fink? - And I sell clothes for nothink?’"

A police officer stops Yankel for speeding & reckless driving and asks him very nicely if he could see his license. Yankel replied in a huff, "I vish you guys could get your act togeder. Just yesterday you take avay my license and now today you expect me to show it to you...

Bernard, an elderly Jew, is bumped by a car while crossing the street.  He is seemingly unhurt, but Sarah, his wife, persuades him to go to the doctor, just in case.
Bernard returns home, and Sarah says –
"Nu, vos zogt der doktor?"  ["So?  What did the doctor say?"]
"Der doktor zogt az ich hob a flucky."  ["The doctor says I have a flucky."]
"Oy, gevalt!  A flucky!  Terrible!  What do you do for a flucky?"
"I don't know -- he didn't say, and I forgot to ask."
Well, by this time Sarah is in a state of high anxiety.  She tells her neighbours "My Bernard was hit by a car, and now he has a flucky!  I don't know what to do!"
Neighbour #1 says, "In the old country, when someone had a flucky, we always applied cold.  Cold is the best thing for a flucky."
Neighbour #2 says, "What are you talking about?  Cold is absolutely the worst thing you could do for a flucky! We always applied heat, that's the only thing to do for a flucky."
Cold, heat!  Oy!  Now thoroughly agitated, Sarah decides to call the doctor herself.  "Doctor, please tell me, what's wrong with my husband?"
"I told him... nothing's wrong.  He got off lucky."
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Answer is B–  Got it right. This wasn't easy but a good educated guess and I was good to go. The answer was obviously not Yadin, who wasn't even born in the 19th century (which is the 1800's in case you didn't know- it took me a while until I got that straight). That left the other three. Kaufmann and Mendelsohn sounded like architechts that deisigned buildings in Israel which was I guessed after the British mandate. Shick, though a German missionary though who's name is all over Jerusalem and was the guy that designed Meah Shearim and the Ir Dovid Siloam inscription in the Chizkiyahs tunnel was certainly before the 1900's. It had to be him… and it was. making the score Schwartz 25 and 10 for MOT (Ministry of Tourism) on this exam. Let's see if I can get my groove back.

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