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Friday, January 28, 2022

A Farmer's Tale- Parshat Mishpatim 2022/ 5782

Insights and Inspiration

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Holy Land

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Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

"Your friend in Karmiel"

January 28th 2022 -Volume 11 Issue 18 26th Shevat 5782

 

Parshat Mishpatim


A Farmer’s Tale

 

Reb Leibel had a successful business in Monsey, NY. ABC Rentals was a flourishing party supply rental company that he had spent years building it up and he was finally seeing the fruits of his labor. But those were not the fruits he was looking to reap. He wanted holy fruits. He wanted the fruits that his ancestors for generations and millennia had hoped to be able to partake in but were never able to. He wanted the fruits of the Eretz Yisrael and all the holiness that a life in that Promised Land offered. Yet, Monsey was his home. He had a family, children, a successful life and community with all the frillings that galus sometimes provides for us- at least when they’re not enslaving, oppressing, persecuting or throwing us into gas chambers, which generally happens after we’ve had too many of the frillings and forget where we really are meant to live.

 

But a drive down the local avenue where he did his shopping one day changed his mind. There were some “corner” youths that were hanging out on the street corner. They didn’t seem dangerous, just some goyim with nothing better to with their time but to start up with the passing cars; particularly those that were being driven by the local Jewish residents. As he stopped at the red light, they started jeering at him and threw at him the question that he had been struggling with the last few months. But when it came from them- it seemed like it was like the voice of an angel coming through what clearly resembled the mouth of the donkey of Bila’am.

 

“Hey Jew- Why don’t you go back to your own country!”

 

That was all it took. A short sentence, a racial epithet, and the question that he himself finally understood he was given the answer to. He came home that evening and after discussion with his Eishes Chayil decided at age 38 to pick up the family and make the move. It was time to finally go home.

 

Doron’s story was quite the opposite story. He was a third generation farmer who’s family came in the early days of the State from Iraq. They moved to the Moshav of Azarya that was named with an acronym by its original Olim from Zaku, Kurdistan (near Iraq), O’ley Z’aku R’au Y’eshuas Hashem- the immigrants of Zaku have seen the salvation of Hashem. In the early years of his farming career Doron had done what most of the farmers in Israel do in order to avoid the Shemitta and still work their fields and support their families. They availed themselves of the halachic loophole of Heter Mechira in which their lands are sold to gentiles for the year and they work and manage the fields in exchange for the profits that it produces. This is certainly not the ideal way to observe the mitzva of giving the land a rest for the year- neither is the Otzar Beis din method for that matter either, which also relies on many leniencies in order to enable the farmers to work and produce fruits that are taken by the Beis Din- Jewish court and are distributed. Yet this is the way that it was done in most places in Israel and certainly just shutting down his eggplant and vegetable farm which had just signed huge million-shekel contract with the Sabra salatim company didn’t seem too feasible.

 

That all changed one day when Doron bumped into some youth that were hanging out on the side of the road by his field. Unlike the ones Reb Leibel bumped into, these were really “brothers” whose long coats and hats were the only things black about them. They as well threw a question at Doron that changed his life. It was a few months before the start of the new Shemitta cycle and they wanted to know if he was going to be observing Shemitta properly by allowing his fields to lie fallow for the entire year. When Doron told them that he was utilizing the heter mechira as he always had done in the past, they looked at him a bit astounded.

 

Don’t you realize that for thousands of years your ancestors, our ancestors, dreamed of coming to Israel to fulfill the mitzvos that were given of the Land? Now that you’re here, how can you not do what they had been longing to actualize?”

 

Doron was given pause. He thought about it. The words pierced his heart. There are so few Jews in Israel that have the opportunity that he had. All of those frummies in Bnai Brak or Jerusalem may be able to learn Torah better, daven harder, find all types of halachic areas in which they can serve Hashem in their own special ways that they can come up with. But how many people actually had farms that were working the land of Hashem? Of those, how many of them lived in the biblically obligated areas rather than the Arava or expanded areas of Israel? Of those how many were religious and of even the religious ones how many didn’t take advantage of selling their lands? The eyes and souls of those generations that sacrificed before him seemed to all be looking at him to be the one that will stand up and have the strength to give the land that rest that Hashem promised it will receive in this year. To reveal to the world that the entire world is really never ours. It’s Hashem. It’s why He gave us this land. To teach that to the world. And he was really one of the only few Jews in the world qualified enough to teach that lesson.

 

He came home that day and discussed it with his wife Ilana who had already been inspired to up their shemitta observance a notch. Her father had died not long before and when the Mishnayos to study for his yartzeit was distributed they had unknowingly taken upon themselves to learn the tractate of Shevi’is about this special mitzva and all of it’s intricacies. At first they figured they would tip their toes into the process. Maybe some fields would be shemitta la’chumra (by which the fields would be left entirely ownerless for all to take or to be distributed) and the rest would be sold as they did in the past. Yet, as it got closer and after a few meetings with the Rabbis from the Shemitta organization that assists and guides farmers through the process of Keren Ha’Sheviis, they realized that they had to be all in.

 

The only problem was that they were a bit late in the game. See, Doron had already ordered 10’s of thousands of eggplants that he had planned to plant before Rosh Hashana so that they would be permissible during the first year they grew; as they would still be considered 6th year produce. They arrived late however and he had planted them after Rosh Hashana. A big mistake. They would now be forbidden. Not only would they be unable to eat or sell them, but they were forbidden for anyone to eat as they were grown in the Sabbatical year and they had to be destroyed. Ouch!

 

Now you and I might not appreciate the relationship between a farmer and his crops. Although I certainly could understand that more than I do those people that buy or adopt four legged animals that they seem to care a lot for and walk them every morning and scoop up their stuff with. I never understood my wife’s connection to the rabbit phase she once put our family through for a few years until one morning one of my neighbors four legged felines ate them all in the great Karmiel Schwartz rabbit massacre of 2015. But getting attached to eggplants? To salad? I can understand sheep or even chickens despite their smell, because at least you get a nice shwarma or schnitzel at the end of the day. But salad? Yet, I could see in Doron’s teary eyes as he told me about how his eggplants that they were more than just babaghanush to him. They were even more than just a way of making a ton of money by selling them to salatim companies all over the world. He was attached to them. He cared for them. He planted them and watched them daily, growing and flourishing. And now he had to watch them die.

 

Yet, it seems that Hashem wasn’t just happy with a passive euthanasia for these poor eggplants of his. The rabbis had told him that all he had to do was just stop watering them. Without water they certainly wouldn’t be able to sustain the heat of the hot houses that they were being grown in and they would just wither and die. It was just like pulling the plug. A DNR so to speak.

 

But bizarrely enough these little guys didn’t pass on quietly. Much to his surprise and perhaps even consternation, they continued to grow and flower. Weeks went by and they got bigger and bigger. This was not good. They needed to die. They couldn’t be hanging around much longer. Someone might eat them. It seems Hashem was demanding an  Akeidas Yitzchak” of him or “Eggplate-us Doron if you will oyyyy… ”. So upon the advice of his Rabbis, Doron got up early the next morning, just like our ancestor Avraham, he took the special pesticide that they used on vegetables and he poured it into the water pipes. There they would turn into gas after being pumped into those hothouses that would now become eggplant crematoriums, that still stand tall there until today as a reminder of the heroism of this holy servant of Hashem.

 

20,000 new eggplants grown in shemitta would never see the inside of a sabra chatzilim container. They would never be used a dip on a Shabbos table with challah. They would never be carved out and have techina poured inside of them with paprika to make them look pretty. They died however in the greatest Kiddush Hashem an eggplant could ever achieve. The last song on their purple fleshy lips was ani maamin be’emuna shlaima- I belief with full faith that Hashem is the Master of the world. The entire land of Israel is His. He gave it to His holy nation so they may shine that light out to the world, because this is the only place that we can do that from.

 

The Ohr Hachayim Ha’Kadosh notes an amazing idea in this week’s Torah portions that interrupts the story of the Giving of the Torah from last week, with a whole litany of mitzvos that range the entire gamut of Jewish life. Right at the center of those mitzvos the Torah tells us two mitzvos.

 

Shemos (23:9-10) You shall not oppress a stranger, for you know the feelings of the stranger, having yourselves been strangers in the land of Egypt.

And Six years you shall sow your land and gather in its yield; but in the seventh you shall let it rest and lie fallow. Let the needy among your people eat of it, and what they leave let the wild beasts eat. You shall do the same with your vineyards and your olive groves.

 

What is the connection between the mitzvos of not oppressing the convert or stranger in our land with the laws of Shemitta?

 

The Ohr Ha’Chayim explains that the key to us never being strangers again in a foreign land and being subjected to exile is by adhering to the laws and mitzva of Shemitta. But it seems that it is even deeper than that. For to a large degree Shemitta is really like going into exile a bit from our own land. It is saying the fields are not mine. Those aren’t my eggplants. Those aren’t my tomatoes or vineyards. It’s Hashem’s land. I’m just a dweller here. A stranger that has been offered eternal hospitality on the five star level in the greatest country in the world. The fruit and food and livelihood that a farmer has during this Shemitta year is essentially like the Manna that we received in the wilderness. It’s lechem min Hashamayim- bread from heaven. It’s understanding and revealing that all the fruits and vegetables that I toil and plant for the 6 years really as well just come from Hashem. He provides whether I plant and work the field or not. He commands His blessing and I receive.

 

When we don’t observe Shemitta, when we live here in Israel and we forget that we are strangers in this world that are guests on the table of Hashem, when we think we have to go into the kitchen and get our own meal, then Hashem sends us into exile so that the guys on the street corner will remind us that we’re not home there. We belong on the King’s table. We belong in the holy land.

 

During this year of Shemitta, there are more and more holy farmers that I meet that share the stories of what we might see as sacrifice and heroism, but they repeatedly assure me is only blessing and even pragmatism. They have seen their fields and parnassah flourish in so many unexpected ways. They have seen the thousands of people that visit them and even come to them for blessings-as Rav Chaim Kanievsky as well as other great Rabbis have recognized that the power to bring all types of much needed yeshuot for so many who need them in all areas of life, health, children and marriage.  That power to break down the decrees of heaven lies in the strength of faith that these farmers have. So the people come. And the blessings do as well.

 

The portion that follows the mitzva of Shemitta and of being stranger in a foreign land is the mitzva of three times a year bringing all of our sacrifices and gifts to Hashem on the holidays of Pesach, Shavuot and Sukkot to the Bais Ha’Mikdash. May the merit of the observance of Shemitta that has returned us to our land, bring us to the next stage when the shechina itself returns to the place it belongs and we may once again visit our Father in Yerushalayim rebuilt.

 

Have a holy restful Shabbos and a Happy Chodesh Adar Aleph!

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz


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RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FAVORITE YIDDISH PROVERB OF THE WEEK

 

“Vildeh grozen vaksen iber nacht.” .- Crabgrass grows overnight.  

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK

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13)  The name "Mount of the Curse" (har ha’klala) was given to: __________.

A controversial discovery at the site was identified by the excavator as being:

A)  The Ark of the Covenant

B)  The site of Balaam’s curse

C)  Joshua’s altar

D)  The site where  Jesus “Yoshka” was betrayed

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S COOL VIDEO OF THE WEEK

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_iqtiYCZrlc   – Ilana Tauvig, Doron (aboves wife) of the Shemitta farm and eggplants!

 

https://youtu.be/Jyb15mqfBBw   - Bo’ee Kallah- Yoni Z’s latest Chuppa beautiful song…

 

https://youtu.be/q6Km9gFqV0M  – Benny Friedman and Shuki Solomon’s latest collaboration Shir Ha’tzedaka

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ri_RpM474Bs   - Motty Shteimetz a Shemitteleh Gevein- Yiddish and English

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EG30sBjmZ2I  - Yoel Gold- Saved by Shemitta story Cool!

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S PARSHA/SHABBOS CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

 

Shabbos Shemitta or Not? -Parshat Mishpatim- Could you imagine a year without Shabbos? How about one without Pesach Shavuot or Sukkot either? Incomprehensible, right? Yet Rashi in this week’s Parsha quotes the mechilta that tells us that is in fact the exactly what one might think the law is from the Torah. In fact it has to go out of its way to tell us that it is in fact not the case.

Our Torah portion this week which brings down a chulent of varied laws tells us the mitzva of the Sabbatical/ Shemitta year, which we’re observing this year in Israel. Right after that the Torah tells us the mitzva of Shabbat and the Mitzva of the pilgrimage holidays. Rashi, seemingly troubled by the juxtaposition of these laws, explains that one might think that in the Shemitta year one did not need to observe the weekly Shabbat of Bereishit/Creation-seemingly because the entire year is called by the Torah, Shabbat. Hashem therefore tells us the mitzva of Shabbat to tell us that even in the 7th year one must observe it. Similarly, Rashi notes by the holidays that one might think in the Sabbatical year the holidays might be removed from their place and therefore Hashem commands us about them as well even in that year.

 

This is truly a mind-blowing concept. Why would I think there would be no Shabbos or holidays, just because it’s a Sabbatical year? Perhaps the clue is in the word that Rashi uses “Shabbat Bereishit”. There are two aspects to Shabbos. One that we remember that Hashem created the world and that it belongs to Him. The second is, that he runs the world, controls it and gave it to us as a special day to remember that He took us out of Egypt; “zecher li’yitziat mitzrayim”. When a farmer observes the Shemitta year, to a large degree he is already testifying that the land belongs to Hashem. He has shut down his business, he allows anyone who wants to come in and take what they like each day. It is a daily testimony to what Shabbos Bereshit is meant to mean to us. Therefore, one might think that Shabbat Bereishit is extraneous.

 

As well, the holidays as they are brought down in these verses, speak about the agricultural aspect of the holidays; the spring, reaping and harvesting seasons of Pesach, Shavuot and Sukkot. The idea being Rashi notes, that in a year that one does not engage in these activities one might thing that the holidays are “moved from their place”. Our farmer has moved beyond his fields already. He is already in a spiritual state, there is no need for him to connect the holidays with the agricultural seasons.

 

For both of these days Hashem tells us, yes but Shabbat was given to you as a day of rest as well. The holidays were given to you so that you may come see “My Face” and celebrate with Me. Regardless if you are working your fields this year or not, regardless if you already acknowledge My existence. I want you to celebrate Shabbat and Yom Tov because it is our special time together. They are days for you and I to bond. What a beautiful thought!

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

 

Tombs of the Known (Enemy) Soldiers- 797 BC-   The end of what should’ve been the reign of glory of Shlomo and the building of the Beit Ha’Mikdash ended ignominiously. Shlomo, being the 15th generation from the period of Avraham Avinu, is like the full moon when Klal Yisrael is at its peak. From the middle of the month then moon’s light begins to wane as did the spiritual level of our nation. Shlomo himself was not necessarily held personally accountable for the sins of the inappropriate and idolatrous wives that he had married from other nations, as he remained righteous. Yet Hashem told him that ultimately his kingdom will not have longevity and will be full of strife.

 

Two specific enemies that attacked and reigned terror on Eretz Yisrael were Hadad Ben Adad, who was an Amalekite descendant- interesting that the other Amaleki name we know is called Agag. I guess they like the Aleph then double letter construct. And the second was Razon ben Eliyoda who was based up in Damascus under the empire of Aram. So basically was getting hit in the South from Egypt- despite Shlomo having married the daughter of Pharaoh there and in the North from what is today Syria in the Golan Heights.

 

Hadad actually had a bit of history with the Jewish people. His father Adad and their men were wiped out by Yoav, Dovid’s general without his permission. He only let the women live and killed the men. It seem he misread or misinterpreted the verse that says to wipe out the memory (zecher) of Amalek, rather he read it as the males (zachar) of Amalek. Dovid then in an extraordinary act goes back to that battlefield and takes the bodies of the enemy Edomites that Yoav had killed and left there and gives them all a proper burial. With this a tremendous Kiddush Hashem was made, that every human being no matter how evil is created in the image of Hashem and deserves the dignity of a proper burial.

 

Today in Israel there is in fact two cemeteries where the Israeli army buries enemy terrorists. The first is near Gesher Adam in the Jordan Valley, the former bridge to Jordan. It was established in the late 70’s when many terrorists entered Israel from the refugee camps that were in Jordan to attack Israel. They were killed and buried there. As well during the Lebanon wars a cemetery was established near Gesher Bnos Yaakov and later moved near Amiad where as well there were hundreds of bodies interred in graves there. Over the years in various exchanges with our terrorist neighboring countries Israel has returned hundreds of bodies to their countries. More often it was in exchange for the wonderful peace we share with them or for bodies of our own holy soldiers that they had been holding on to.

 

The Midrash tells us that in Messianic times in the battle of Gog and Magog, in the valley of Meggido (thus the word Armageddon),  the nation of Israel will spend 7 months burying the bodies of our enemies that will be killed here. Then the land will finally be purified. Hopefully that day will be soon.

 

Next week we finish the life of Shlomo with his final internal enemy and successor Yeravam Ben Nevat.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S TERRIBLE FARMER JOKES OF THE WEEK

 Dudi Shaked, an Israeli farmer purchases an old, run-down, abandoned farm with plans to turn it into a thriving enterprise. The fields are grown over with weeds, the farmhouse is falling apart, and the fences are collapsing all around.

During his first day of work, the local Rabbi stops by to bless the man's work, saying, "May you and God work together to make this the farm of your dreams!"

A few months later, the Rabbi stops by again to call on the Dudi. Lo and behold, it's like a completely different place -- the farm house is completely rebuilt and in excellent condition, there are plenty of cattle and other livestock happily munching on feed in well-fenced pens, and the fields are filled with crops planted in neat rows.

"Amazing!" the Rabbi says. "Look what God and you have accomplished together!"

"Yes, Rabbi," says the farmer, "but remember what the farm was like when God was working it alone!"

 

Back in one of the shtetels of Europe, the local Rebbe was having a conversation with a poor farmer about the nature of belief, and how even difficult financial times, everything comes from Hashem. The Rebbe said to the poor farmer, "Reb Yid, let me ask you, if you had a horse, and you were asked, would you give it to Hashem?"

"Yes," replied the farmer.

"And if you had a cow?"

"Absolutely."

"And a goat?"

"Of course."

"A wagon?"

"Rebbe, that's not fair!" protested the farmer. "You know I have a wagon!"

 

A rabbi, a Hindu priest, and a politician went hiking. Night fell and they were exhausted. The hotel on the map was nowhere to be seen. They knocked on the door of a farm and asked if they could spend the night.

The farmer said, “Of course, but I only have a small room with two beds. One of you will have to sleep in the barn.”

The Hindu priest said, “I need no material comforts. I will gladly take the barn.”

The rabbi and the politician were settling in when they heard a knock on the door. They opened it to find the Hindu priest standing there.

“So sorry, my friends, but there is a cow in the barn, and I cannot sleep beside such a holy animal.”

The rabbi said, “No problem, my brother. I’ll take the barn.

The Hindu priest and the politician were settling in when they heard a knock on the door. They opened it to find the rabbi standing there.

“So sorry, my friends, but there’s a pig in the barn, and I can’t sleep beside such a filthy animal.”

The politician said, “OK, let it be remembered that I sacrificed my comfort for the greater good.”

The rabbi and the Hindu priest were settling in when they heard a knock on the door. They opened it to find the pig and the cow standing there.

 

Morty Applebaum bought a donkey from an old farmer for $100. The farmer agreed to deliver the mule the next day. The next day, the farmer drove up and said, "Sorry, but I have some bad news. The donkey died."

"Well, then, just give me my money back," said Morty.

"Can't do that,” replied the farmer. “I went and spent it already."

"OK, then. Just unload the donkey."

"What ya gonna do with him?"

"I'm going to raffle him off."

"You can't raffle off a dead donkey!"

"Sure I can. Watch me. I just won't tell anybody he's dead."

A month later the farmer met up with Morty and asked, "Whatever happened with that dead donkey?"

"I raffled him off. I sold five hundred tickets at two dollars apiece and made a profit of $998."

"Didn't anyone complain?" asked the farmer.

"Just the guy who won,” said Morty. “So I gave him his two dollars back."

 A  man was driving down a country lane when he spotted the most beautiful horse he'd ever seen standing in the middle of a field. He slammed on his brakes and stopped to have a quick look. "I must buy that horse," he said to himself and immediately went in search of the owner. Arriving at a nearby farmhouse, he knocked on the door.

"Are you the owner of that magnificent animal in the field back there?" he asked.

"Yes," replied the farmer, an old Jewish man named Moishe.

"Then I simply must buy him from you."

"I can't sell him," said the Moishe the farmer. "He doesn't look too good."

"What do you mean? He's the most beautiful horse I've seen in my life. Please!"

"Well, okay," conceded Moishe the farmer, "If you insist. Does a thousand dollars sound reasonable to you?"

"Absolutely," said the man, and he took the horse home on a trailer.

A few days later, Moishe the farmer heard another knock on his door. It was the man with the horse. "You ripped me off!" yelled the man. "That horse is as blind as a bat!"

"I tried to warn you," answered Moishe the farmer. "I told you he doesn't look too good.”

 What day do potatoes hate the most? Fry-day!

 What new crop did the farmer plant? Beets me! What grows under your nose? Tulips! Where do farmers send their kids to grow? Kinder-garden.

 What did the baby corn say to the mama corn? Where's popcorn?

 “Why did the cow cross the road? To get to the utter side!

Why did the rooster cross the road? To prove it wasn't chicken!

Why did the horse cross the road? To visit his neighborhood!

Why did the farmer cross the road? To get all of his animals back!

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Answer is C – OK So how many of you answered Har Gerizim? Well you’re close but no cigar, as they say. Har Gerizim or as it’s called today by the Shmoronim or Israel is called Har Bracha. Har Eival was the mountain where the curses were directed to when they were recited when the Jews first came into the land and had the historic gathering between these two mountains. On Har Eival there’s a huge rock structure that most archeologists now agree was the Mizbayach that Yehoshua built at the time as they offered sacrifices at this gathering. It fits the size of the Mizbayach that was in the Temple as well as the construction that didn’t have any stones that were cut with a metal blade, the ramp leading up to it and even the Kosher animal bones that were uncovered there are all quite compelling pieces of evidence. I got this right although to be honest, it’s not a place I tour quite often. So the score is now Schwartz 10.5 and 2.5 for MOT (Ministry of Tourism) on this exam.

 

 

Saturday, January 22, 2022

Ma... I'm Home- Parshat Yisro 2022 /5872

 

Insights and Inspiration

from the

Holy Land

from

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

"Your friend in Karmiel"

January 22nd 2022 -Volume 11 Issue 17 20th Shevat 5782

 

Parshat Yisro

Ma… I’m Home!

 

Shani was on the phone again. My wife handed it to me with this look that said ‘You’re dealing with this’. I’ve had enough already. It was your bright idea to send her off to Detroit to board by your parent’s house while she was attending school there. I was fine keeping her here with us in Seattle. But, no, you wanted your daughter to have that wonderful special form of Detroit Jewish education that you and your siblings had. Well then, it’s on you to deal with all the complaints and the fallout. She’s in 7th grade for gosh sakes. She should be with her parents and siblings, not with her grandparents. What were you thinking? That this was going to be smooth?!

 

So, I took the phone and Shani began going on and on. Bubby doesn’t let me hang out with my friends… She hocks me about doing my work all the time… She took away my phone… I can’t handle this anymore. I’m not a baby. She reminds me to say Shema every night and brush my teeth. I didn’t tell her that I’m 50 years old and she still does that to me. Rather, I turned to my poor daughter who was clearly suffering from abandonment issues on the other side of continent 3000 miles away and who had seemingly forgotten what a pain in the neck her father was when she used to be living at home, and in that gentle, sensitive, caring fatherly way that I’m known for, told her quite plainly that I’m not that worried for her. I survived. She’ll survive. Everything will be alright. I turned out just fine and I’m sure she will as well. There was silence for a moment or two and then she asked if she could have Mommy back on the phone. I handed it back to my wife. I don’t believe I got dinner that night and I think she sent me directly to my room.

 

The next day the scene replayed itself. Only this time my wife hands me the phone even more exasperated. This time it was my mother on the phone. Uh Oh… Now I’m in trouble. I quickly brushed my teeth and said Shema and then took the phone.

 

Hi Ma! What’s up?”

And then it began. Shani doesn’t listen. She’s always on the phone. She doesn’t do her work. She’s always going out. This is impossible. I don’t know what we’re going to do with her. I stopped my mother at that point and once again quite sensitively and of course respectfully shared with her some important words and lessons.

 

“It’s all your fault, Ma” I said. “When I was a child, you cursed me that I would have a child just like myself one day. Well now I do. I guess you just never thought I would send her back to you, or something. Well, there you go. I guess you have to watch what you say. You never know when it will come back to haunt you…”

 

There was silence once again for a minute and then my mother asked if she could have my wife back on the phone. I went to my room on my own that night and grabbing the leftover cold pizza from the fridge on the way. I didn’t think I would be getting supper for a long time or at least until Shani graduated Elementary School.

 

Baruch Hashem Shani turned out great. The next year she boarded by someone else. I figured my parents deserved to be grandparents instead of parents once again and Shani deserved to have a Bubby and Zaidy rather than Daddy and Mommy surrogates. One year was enough for them to impart all the wisdom and teachings that I never absorbed and wanted her to get from “Bubby and Zaidy school” anyways. All was good once again, I had supper and was allowed out of my room sometimes.

 

Now I know you’re looking at me and thinking, what type of parent send away his 12-year-old daughter across the country to live by her grandparents for two years. Children need to be with their parents, my wife tells me. Funny, how when she became a grandmother though, that philosophy changed. As my grandchildren seem to be in my house more than my daughter’s- mostly because my dear wife “Saftie” goes over and picks them up all the time. But being a very big Rabbi with an encyclopedic knowledge of Torah stories and interpretations that many people miss- particularly the ones that can justify my warped parenting philosophies, I have no problem finding ancient Jewish justification for my ideology. In fact not only do we find that it’s a good thing to send your children away to Bubby and Zaidy for extended periods of time, it’s the prelude to the most pivotal event and parsha of our becoming a nation; The revelation at Sinai in our Torah portion.

 

Our Parsha oddly begins with possibly even a non-chronologically correct introduction to Matan Torah with the story of Yisro, Moshe’s father-in-law returning his wife and two children to him “achar shilucheha”- after Moshe had sent them over to Bubby and Zaidys house in Midyan; which I want to point out many used to call “Mo Town”. Now I know that may seem a bit confusing to you, as we had the story back in Shemos, before the plagues and the Exodus, when Moshe returns with his wife and kids to Egypt and they stayed over night and a snake came and almost swallowed him up because he hadn’t circumcised his child yet. But the Midrash tells us that when he got to Egypt his brother Aharon took one look at the wife and kids and asked Moshe if he was mad bringing them down to Egypt. There are enough slaves over here already. This is child endangerment. So, Moshe sent them back to their Bubby and Zaidys’ house and seemingly according to Unkelus and the Baal Ha’Turim even divorced his wife. Yisro now was bringing them back after the Jews had left Mitzrayim and trying to convince Moshe to take them back. This is the beginning and introduction to our receiving of the Torah. With this intro taken care of we can only now get to the Ten Commandments.

 

It’s a mind-boggling and troubling story and idea on many fronts. Why would Moshe divorce his wife? Why would Aharon of all people, the great ohev shalom and rodef shalom, who was known to be the Shalom Bayis go-to-guy for all Klal Yisrael’s marriage problems, advise his brother to send them away? It’s even more perplexing when you think about Moshe’s early childhood roots. His own father Amram we are told also divorced his mother, back when Pharaoh was chucking Jewish babies into the Nile, for fear and because of the pointlessness of producing anymore Jewish crocodile fodder for Egypt’s nefarious final solution. Yet, Miriam stepped in and convinced him that he must have faith. The redemption is coming. We can’t be worse than Pharaoh. And from that reunion Moshe is born. Yet here Moshe himself sends his wife and kids away? Where’s his faith? How and why would he want them to miss out on all the great miracles that the rest of the nation would witness firsthand? And of course, finally, why is this story the introduction to the giving of the Torah?

 

To answer these questions in the most Jewish of ways, there is one more question that I would like to ask followed by an amazing story- so hang in there it will be worth it. Commandment number five, at the centerpiece of the Big Ten is the mitzva to honor one’s parents. The Torah tells us quite unusually the reward for this mitzva, that if we fulfill it properly, we will merit a long life. There is only one other mitzva in the Torah where the Torah delineates this specific reward for its fulfillment and that is strangely enough the perplexing seemingly almost opposite mitzva of sending away a mother bird before one takes its baby eggs. I say opposite mitzva, because whereas the mitzva of honoring one’s parents seems to be about building and respecting the relationship between parent and child, by this Mommy bird we are literally doing the opposite. We’re chasing her away from her kids, so we can separate them from their mother. Yet, it seems that this is such an important mitzva that it is on par with one of the ten commandments and whose reward is long life.

 

One of my heroes of the last generation, who I’ve written about was Rebbi Yissachar Shlomo Teichtel, the author of the incredible work on the specialness and centrality of Eretz Yisrael and the return to the land that he authored in the middle of the Holocaust, called Em Ha’Banim Semeich- the Mother of children rejoices. In his introduction he explains the title of his sefer with the most personal of stories that happened to him during the war. In 1942 before Pesach, word got out in the Jewish community pf Czechoslovakia that the Nazi controlled government would be issuing a selektzia for all Jewish girls over the age of 16 who would be taken away and sent to camps. Rabbi Teichtel, who at the time had two daughters of that age, took them before Pesach and tried to smuggle them out of the country traveling to the border and assuring his wife that he would send word as soon as he arrived safely. However, before he made it to the border he was discovered and arrested along with his daughters and placed into jail. His and their fate was uncertain. When his wife got word of his precarious situation her Yom Tov of Pesach turned into days of sleepless nights, worry, tears and heartfelt prayers for her family.

 

Rav Teichtel writes that due to the incredible efforts of the Nitra Rav Shmuel Ungvar they were able to bribe the prison officers and achieve their release. Word was immediately sent home to his wife on the last day of Pesach and on Isru Chag she waited anxiously at the doorway to their home for their return. He then continues and writes

 

When they arrived, she burst into tears and overwhelmingly poured out all the emotions of her heart. On account of the profuse outpouring of emotions she was unable even to utter words of thanks to Hashem for the great miracle He preformed on their behalf. He who did not witness this reunion- the mother reunited with her daughters after such a dreadful captivity, the tears of the mother when she saw that her daughters had returned to their borders, the joy of the joyous mother of children- has never witnessed true feelings of joy.”

 

I imagine” he continues. “This will be the joy of our mother Eretz Yisrael when we all return to her bosom after the horrendous captivity that we are now experiencing.”

 

The Zohar Ha’Kadosh tells us that the mitzva of shiluach ha’kein is precisely this idea. It is to elicit in heaven the cries of the mother bird as she is being sent away from her children and the mercy of our Father and His longing for that reunion that we have awaited so long for. Do you know what the mitzva of kibbud av v’eim is about? It’s not just about hakarat ha’tov and showing the natural respect and appreciation to our parents for having brought us into this world or even connecting us with a sense of awe of the generations that have come before us. If that would be the case the mitzva would then be on the second set of tablets that deal with the commandments between Man and his fellow man rather than between Man and Hashem. The mitzva rather is about understanding or perhaps even instructions- as the word Torah literally means-about what the essence of our lives is all about; being the treasured nation of Hashem that will shine that light to the entire world.

The core of our essence is that we are children of Hashem. We have a Parent that loves and cares for us and brought us into this world because He loves us and wants us to appreciate that love. For us to recognize that, He programmed into all of humanity that natural love for a parent to a child. Yet the biggest danger and most painful form of destruction of that purpose is when the child is oblivious to the love that is there for them. When they take their lives for granted. Their parents for granted. Their existence for granted. Hashem tells us that the essence of a long meaningful life on this world is only when we honor, appreciate and revere that core of who we are. For without it we are exiled. We are sent away from our Father. This isn’t a punishment in as much as it is the method of awakening us to how much we miss Him. How much He loves us. How much we need Him back in our lives. It is to elicit that cry of the mother bird. It is to bring us back to our Mother Eretz Yisrael once again home and see her rejoice.

 

The prelude to our receiving the Torah is the return of Moshe’s wife and children to him. To be that medium between our Father in heaven and His children that had been separated for long, he had to experience how special that relationship and the longing of his own for his family. Aharon, the peacemaker upon seeing Moshe coming with his children to the house of slaves perhaps saw that there needed to be a mitzva of shiluach ha’kein to elicit that longing in Moshe himself to be the one that could bring Hashem back to his nation. To reveal and appreciate how all the Torah that will be revealed on Har Sinai through our nation to the world is really all about a child appreciating their Parent and the parent showering that love back upon them.

 

But there is an even deeper idea than that as well in this story. Those two children of Moshe, Gershon and Eliezer, the Torah tells us are named after two different incidents in Moshe’s life. Gershon is named because he was stranger in a foreign land and Eliezer is because Hashem had saved him from the sword of Pharaoh. We know their names already, but yet they are repeated here because their names represent the circumstances by which Jews assimilate and forget their father. There are so many of our brothers and sisters who don’t have a connection with our history. They missed the great miracles. They were raised in a strange land. They never had a Pesach Seder. As well there are others that have suffered so much persecution. So much pain and so much suffering. The Jew has been beaten out of them on the surface. They feel orphaned and that they have no father as they are so far away from seeing His light.

 

 Those two sons Moshe returns and brings them to the Mt. Sinai as well, thus telling us that they are also and all of their namesakes as well in similar circumstances through our history also have a Father waiting for them.  They are as much a part of our nation as the rest of the family. They are our brothers and sisters and our family is only complete with them standing side by side with us on Mt. Sinai. That is the only way that we can shine that special light and love we share from Hashem to the rest of the world.

 

Our Mother bird is waiting for us. The land is bringing back it’s children. The gates are opening up again. And Hashem is standing on top of His mountain with His cloud of glory to welcome us back and embrace. We have finally come home.

 

Have a Torahdikeh Shabbos

Rabbi Ephraim Schwartz

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“Yedeh mutter denkt ir kind iz shain.- Every mother thinks her child is beautiful. 

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S TOUR GUIDE EXAM QUESTION OF THE WEEK

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12)  A bridge in the North of Israel, over the Jordan or the Yarmuk River, which was exploded on "the Night of the Bridges": ______________.  Subsequent to this attack, the following historical event occurred:

 

a)  Operation Agatha (“Black Sabbath”) (ha’shabat ha’shechora)

b)  The Altalena Affair

c)  The "Unfortunate Affair" (parashat esek ha’bish).

d)  The Syrian armored attack on Degania

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S COOL VIDEO OF THE WEEK

https://youtu.be/9q09ui2jBaU  – In honor of the Yartzeit of Rav Belsky’s composition Shimru Shabsosai beautiful

 

https://youtu.be/lLMjOUH2DjU  - Ki Keil Melech- a brand new Eitan Katz niggun and release. Amazing!

 

https://youtu.be/Q2uWgOkiycI – Moshav Band with a Tu Bishvat inspiring song Adam Eitz Ha’Sadeh

 

https://twitter.com/i/status/1483486345939066889 - Incredible video of Reb Hershel Shachter singing HaBein Yakir Li with his wife on the piano. Holiness..

 

https://youtu.be/HJ75MiANJBg - Yes!! Abie Rottenberg and Baruch Levine in this amazing Musical journey of his greatest hits.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S PARSHA/SHABBOS CONNECTION OF THE WEEK

 

Remembering the Day -Parshat Yisro- We have finally reached the ten commandments and of course the “official” mitzva of Shabbos. Zachor es yom Ha’Shabbos l’kadsho- remember the day of Shabbos to sanctify it. In the second recounting of the Ten commandments in Devarim the Torah changes the terminology and tells us Shamor es Yom ha’shabbos- we should guard the day of Shabbos. These two aspects we’re told reflect both the positive commandment of remembering and all of the negative commandments of refraining to do work. I believe that most of understand and relate to the negative thou shall nots aspects of Shabbos with it’s myriad of laws and details, but on the other hand the commandment in our Parsha of Remembering the day we really don’t get. What does it mean to remember the day?

 

The most obvious explanation of this mitzva is of course the biblical command we have each week to make Kiddush. To sanctify the day with our statement that today is the day of Shabbos. Rashi and other meforshim all understand that the mitzva to remember the Shabbos is not just a once a week mitzva. It’s a mitzva that we have all week long. If you see something nice and tasty during the week, then buy it for Shabbos. In doing so you fulfill the mitzva of remembering the Shabbos on Wednesday or Tuesday even!. As well when we recite our daily psalm that was recited in the Temple at the end of our morning service it begins with the words “today is the _____ day of Shabbos. Again another mitzva of remembering the Shabbos during the week, by counting all days for Shabbos. Amazing!

 

But perhaps even most fascinating is the Ohr Ha’Chaim Ha’Kadosh who tells us that merely saying the word Shabbos is already a fulfillment of the Mitzva. For the Zohar tells us that Shabbos is a name of Hashem and whenever we say the word Shabbos we infuse the world with that holiness that comes when we say the name of Hashem. In fact my dear friend Reb Sruly Besser in his weekly “Real World” parsha talk mentioned that in the old days the men in the Mikva would wish each other a gutten zibenteh- a good seventh day as they didn’t want to say the name Shabbos- a name of God when they in a room where there were people in stages of undress.

 

The story goes of Reb Aryeh Levin who after davening on Friday night would walk over to the Kotel on Friday Night and wish each soldier individually a “Gut Shabbos”. His son once asked him why in his  advanced age and perhaps even in the cold winter this was such an important task for him that could sometimes take over and hour. He responded that each soldier that says the words Good Shabbos, or Shabbat Shalom back to him fulfills this positive commandment of the Torah to remember the day of Shabbos. Such an important mitzva and such an easy one to share with every Jew. In the merit of our Good Shabboses that we say Hashem blesses us with the best gift that He possesses.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ'S ERA’S AND THEIR PLACES AND PEOPLE IN ISRAEL OF THE WEEK

 

The Sins of Shlomo- 827 BC-   With the wisdom of Shlomo and the wealth comes corruption. The Navi is harsh with Shlomo in describing his fall. The Torah gives various commandments to a King who is pretty much given free reign in many areas. Yet the Torah tells us that he is not to get a lot of horses for fear that he may take people down to Egypt. As well he is not allowed to take too many wives, the maximuim being 18. Well according to our sages Shlomo went a bit overboard on both of those counts. Our sages tell us that he had over 900 wives and 300 concubines. Which if you make a cheshbon pretty much makes him in Sheva Brachos every week of his life. Although being the smartest of all men, I’m sure he was never short any Sheva Brachos Torah.

 

To make matters even worse most of his wives were not even Jewish. They were from all of the nations of the world. Ammonites, Moabits, Hittites and even the daughter of Pharaoh who he married the same night as the Temple dedication. According to some commentaries these wives converted, yet it is clear that their conversions weren’t sincere as they continued to worship idols afterwards and even build altars on Har Kamosh – which is another name for the Mt. of Olives which is dierectly across from the Temple Mount. When he married Pharoah’s daughter she got him inebriated and he even slept through the Temple dedication and sacrifice on opening day! His mother Batsheva was sent to awaken him and boy did she give it to him. Incidentally the source that we have for the last time of prayer- sof zma tefilla being the 4th hour of daylight is because that’s when Kings arise actually comes from that first morning when Shlomo slept in!

 

The reason for Shlomo’s downfall really is because our sages tell us that he was too smart for himself. He thought the rules and laws don’t apply to him. He obviously did he what he did for the sake of heaven. He thought by making these marriage allegiances he would be bringing all of the nations of the world closer to Hashem. He felt it was the Messianic era. The Temple was built. He was the 15th generation since Abraham. The moon so to speak was at its peak. Yet he failed. And the moon set. Hashem said that he would not avenge Shlomo in his lifetime in the merit of Dovid his father, but ultimately his kingdom would be doomed. And thus the era of the greatness of Israel begins to fall.

 

RABBI SCHWARTZ’S FUNNY PARENTING LINES OF THE WEEK

 “Parenthood is a journey except it's just traveling from room to room putting away the same toys all day long.”

 “Parenting is mostly just informing kids how many more minutes they have of something.”

 “I asked my mom if I was adopted. She said, ‘Not yet, but we placed an ad.’"

 “My favorite part of parenting is after I drop my kids off at school. I’m kidding. It’s after they go to bed.”

 “Having children is like living in a frat house — nobody sleeps, everything's broken, and there's a lot of throwing up.”

 “Save your voice calling for your kids. Just open a bag of chips and they'll materialize out of nowhere.”

 “Hell hath no fury like a toddler who’s sandwich has been cut into squares when they wanted triangles.”

 “According to my kid, the perfect amount of time to stay at the park is five more minutes.”

 “A two-year old is kind of like having a blender, but you don't have a top for it.”

 What am I doing right now, you want to know? I’m currently helping my son search for his chocolate that I ate last night.

 Cleaning your house while your kids are still growing up is like shoveling the sidewalk before it stops snowing."

 Before having a kid the most important thing to ask yourself is: Am I ready to watch the exact same cartoon on repeat for the next 4 years?”

 “Having one child makes you a parent. Having two kids makes you a referee.”

 “Can’t find your kids? Don’t worry; sit on the toilet. They’ll find you.”

 “Just because I'm a mom doesn't mean I'm not spontaneous anymore. Will I get out of these pajama pants today? Maybe... maybe NOT. You just don't know.”

“Then suddenly you're a mom declaring ownership over swept dirt on the kitchen floor yelling DON’T YOU DARE WALK THROUGH MY DIRT PILE!”

 “Hi, my daughter will be late to school because she can zip her jacket by herself."

 cience fiction legend Isaac Asimov related this story about his Jewish mother in “It's Been a Good Life.”

“My mother, who came from Russian, decided to go to night school and learn how to write English. One of the teachers finally asked her, ‘Pardon me, Mrs. Asimov, are you by any chance a relation of the brilliant Isaac Asimov?’”

“My mother, who was four feet, ten inches tall, drew herself up to her full height and said, proudly, ‘Yes. He is my dear son.’”

“‘Aha,’ said the teacher, ‘no wonder you’re such a good writer.’”

“‘I beg your pardon,' said my mother, freezingly. ‘No wonder he’s such a good writer.’

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Answer is A – I believe they messed up this question at least the first part. There were 11 bridges blown up the night of the bridges by Israel fighter forces to send the message to the British that they weren’t letting us in, so we’re not letting them in. However in the North on the Jordan River there was Gesher Bnos Yaakov which I knew and guessed but it’s not near the Yarmuk which is lower by Chamat Gader and Naharayim. The Bridge over there which I forgot the name originally is called El Chamma bridge but that’s not on the Jordan. So I’m not sure what they wanted. I’m going to count my answer as correct as it is over the Jordan although I suspect that they wanted the other one. Part 2 of the question was easy the aftermath of them blowing up the bridges was that the British went nuts on Shabbos and raided and arrested tons of Hagana and Irgun soldiers. So the score is now Schwartz 9.5 and 2.5 for MOT (Ministry of Tourism) on this exam.